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Written by: Yuan Shu Huang Yingjin
2020-08-09 10:00
Last update date: 2020-08-09 10:00A group photo that was already tattered was taken to the photo gallery to be remade and glued. For decades, Chen Ruiping has relied on such a photo to imagine maternal love. The scene is the wedding of the elder sister. She is still in the arms of her smiling mother. The father in the photo is also gentle and quiet. Standing in a row behind mother. However, the photo can only be locked for an instant. Soon after that, the young mother left the baby in her arms, and Chen Ruiping could only live with the seaman's father.
"Who is your mother and what kind of person is your mother" are all questions that are forbidden to be raised. If you have a little doubt, your father will make a face and even get angry. For half a century, she only heard her mother's voice on the phone once when she was 8 years old, and since then she has not heard from her.
Lack of maternal love, and the Shanghai-born dad only goes home once a year. The two "drive" Chen Ruiping to marry early, hoping to find family love and feelings of being a mother as soon as possible. However, "have my own family and become a mother." After that, I want to return to my mother even more." If it is destined to see you again, I hope to understand the reason why my mother left. I also hope that the mother and daughter can sit down and drink tea: "He should be a very kind person."
After he was born, he lived with his mother in the building in Dawokou, but the building is no longer there. (Photo by Yu Junliang)
Chen Ruiping was born in 1970, and then lived with her father and Madam in their home in Tai Wo Kou, Tsuen Wan. Half a century later, the seven-story building of that year has disappeared, and the public housing estates are already densely lined before returning to the old place. She took the photos she had obtained from her relatives and tried to search the elderly neighborhood here, hoping to get a little bit of news about her mother, "Maybe we have to come again early. In the early morning, the elderly will talk a lot, if someone knows. ."
As long as he talks about his mother, he will offend his father, Ma Ma, and be silent.
From childhood to adulthood, as long as he mentioned his mother, his father would be gloomy and even furious; and Madam was also silent and would not disclose any information about her biological mother. Chen Ruiping can only obtain some information about her mother through her aunts and other relatives and friends-she knows her mother is Mo Huiying, who is about 68 or 69 years old this year. Earlier, I found a photo taken with my eldest sister. Although it has been worn and torn over the years, Chen Ruiping still took it to the photo gallery to remake and protect it with glue. "Maybe it was the only photo taken, but it was really too detailed at the time. I don’t even know.”
When her father was alive, Chen Ruiping did not dare to find her mother with great fanfare. She only tried to sneak to the Red Cross to get help. However, she did not find her parents' marriage certificate, and she did not have a birth certificate. In the end, she was disappointed. Chen Ruiping said that she got married early, and after she became a mother, she felt better about being a mother. "When I have a family, I want to return to my mother."
My mother was sobbed to call and wanted to meet but was mistaken as a stranger
Probably because there is no mother by her side, Chen Ruiping’s mother and three aunts love her very much. With two cousins of the same age as playmates, childhood is considered happy: "It’s not happily living with her. , I’m happy, but I’m not a complete family.” What I learned from my relatives was that not long after she was born, her mother left. When Chen Ruiping was two years old, Madam took her to Mother Chen, who was still a babble, and asked Mother Chen to make a decision while her daughter was young. Do you want this daughter?" If the answer is "yes," don't get involved anymore, so as not to cause unnecessary harm. Since then, Chen Ruiping has never seen her biological mother again.
"Actually, when I was in the third grade, I received a call from my mother, so I called it, so I wanted to meet." But when she was only 8 years old at the time, she was scared when she received a call from a stranger calling herself Chen's mother. , Bewildered and handed over to an adult. She was worried that Chen's mother came to fight for custody, so she refused Chen's request.
"Actually, I am so envious of people who are there!"
The mother became a taboo in the family, and even a complete picture could not exist, and the relatives kept silent about it. She said that sometimes when she saw the sight of her neighbors and her parents being there, family and beauty, she didn’t feel like it. “Actually, I am almost envious of people who have a mother!” Until today, Chen Ruiping didn’t know why her parents were separated. Why did the biological mother leave her young girl and leave? Unless Chen's mother can be found, the answers to these questions will be buried in the ground forever with the deceased.
The idea of seeking relatives was born after being a mother
Chen Ruiping has been lacking the company of her mother since she was a child. As a seaman, her father was also a seafarer, and she was often separated from her. Even with the care of her and her aunts, it was difficult to make up for the love of her parents. Therefore, Chen Ruiping got married early soon after he became an adult, eager to form a new family of her own.
But life is not satisfactory. Soon after Chen Ruiping gave birth to Lin'er, she argued with her husband because of her livelihood, and once thought about divorce: "But I don't want to go back to my path by myself." Chen Ruiping choked. After many years, even though the two sons of Chen Ruiping had grown up, she still burst into tears when she talked about it. She didn't want to let her son be like herself and let the word "mother" become their life regret; and since the birth of her son Chen Ruiping can better understand the feeling of being a mother. The idea of seeking a mother buried in her heart began to sprout, but because of her father, she never dared to act.
"Will IKEA feel relieved? Because my dad has passed 5-6 years, and Madam has passed 20 years." Chen Ruiping mentioned that she was very afraid of her father, "Don't be daring enough to ask. He never dared to mention his biological mother in front of him. He only learned scattered information about his mother from the mouth of the three aunts.
Imagine the biological mother: "He should be a very kind person"
When speaking of Madam, Chen Ruiping couldn't hide her sorrow. She described Madam as a very kind elder, who was like a mother in her life. Asked what kind of person her imaginary mother should be, Chen Ruiping stroked the only photo of Chen's mother in her hand and said, "He should be a very kind person."
I don’t blame my mother for leaving, I hope I can sit down and drink tea
When I was young, I didn't think much. After half a century, Chen Ruiping came back to find relatives. Chen Ruiping said frankly that she had not thought about the reason why her mother left. She speculated that her parents did not register for marriage, and it was more difficult for a single woman to bring a child in that era than for a man. "Later, she might have her own family." However, she emphasized that she did not resent the birth mother, and she could understand it after being a mother. She chose that year, "If it was really found, I would call her mother if she wanted me. If she had her own family, it would be inconvenient, I understand."
She said that she just wanted to see her biological mother and ask a reason for leaving. Looking back at half a lifetime, even though there are many regrets, if she is lucky enough to find her birth mother, Chen Ruiping just smiled and said, "I hope I can sit down and drink tea with him."
Chen Ruiping Information
Gender: Female
Date of Birth: April 10, 1970
Place of birth: Mrs. Grantham Health Center in Tsuen Wan (there is a black birthmark on the clavicle on the right side of the neck)
Father's name: Chen Hanhua
Other information: She and her father, Chen Hanhua, lived in Room 102 on the second floor of Block 4, Tai Wo Hau, Tsuen Wan since she was a child. She now wants to find her mother: Mo Huiying (about 68-69 years old now)
Contact number +852 9332 0424
Contact email info@look4mama.com
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