District 18 News
Written by: Lu Ningmin
2020-08-28 10:00
Last update date: 2020-08-28 10:00There is no end to the epidemic. If you stay at home for too long to fight the epidemic, children are also prone to disputes with brothers and sisters. If the child understands mediation skills, will the situation be different? A primary school student learned that people are divided into four different personalities: owl, bear, shark, and turtle. After receiving peer mediation skills training, they successfully resolved the conflicts between classmates. His mother also observed changes in how he gets along with his siblings. Know how to blindly accommodate others, become more empathetic, know how to think from the perspective of others, and become an "owl".
Primary five student Zhu Qingyang (middle) is one of the students who participated in the peer mediation program. After he became a peer mediator, he successfully resolved the dispute between two students in the school. (Picture provided by Family Portrait Club)
The "Hang Seng-Family Portrait Youth Mediation Program" sponsored by the Hong Kong Family Welfare Association (hereinafter referred to as the Family Welfare Association) and supported by Hang Seng Bank was implemented in 2013. So far, about 150 schools have participated in the peer mediation program and trained 2,500 primary school students Become a peer mediator. Among them, Zhu Qingyang, who is studying in the fifth grade of SKH Yau Tong Ji Hian Primary School, is one of the students who participated in the program to learn peer mediation skills. Qing Yang said that he participated in the program for a semester and learned the skills of communicating with others. He shared that he had dealt with a dispute between his classmates in school, "Student A borrowed money from classmate B, but classmate B didn’t remember to pay the money, classmate A beat classmate B. My name is Qu 哋咁咁嬲, called He drank and sipped water to rest, and then asked him if something happened." When Qing Yang learned that the incident involved financial disputes, he explained to the two that no money should be loaned to classmates in the school. When class B repaid the money, the incident came to an end.
Qing Yang described in the course that people’s personalities are divided into four types: owls, bears, sharks and turtles. "They have different personalities. Owls are cooperative. When there is conflict, they will understand the needs of different people; bears are accommodating. When there is a problem, it’s the fault of the conversation; the shark is a dominating type and doesn’t care about people’s feelings and needs; the tortoise is an evasive type, and it doesn’t want to offend others, and will bury itself when there is a conflict."
Qing Yang is the eldest son of the family. In addition to his 7-year-old brother, there is also a 12-year-old sister. Because he is "caught in the middle," Qing Yang often accommodates others. Zhu Tai pointed out that the three children stayed at home for a long time under the epidemic situation, and conflicts have also increased. After Xing Qingyang received training as a peer mediator, her personality has changed significantly. She also pointed out that there are differences between children and classmates and siblings when they get along. "The role of peacemaker will be handled, but when you are a member of the protagonist of the dispute, you will be different." After learning mediation skills, Originally, Qing Yangyou only knew how to accommodate his sister and younger brother, and became more empathetic. He knew how to think from the perspective of others, like an owl from a bear.
The Senior Manager (Youth Services) of the Family Welfare Association and the Accredited Family Mediator of the "Hang Seng-Family Youth Mediation Program", Ms. Leung Weihong, pointed out that the program has been well received by schools and students for many years. (Picture provided by Family Portrait Club)
Peer mediator reduces the workload of teachers and improves the image of discipline
The Senior Manager (Youth Services) of the Family Welfare Association and the Accredited Family Mediator of the "Hang Seng-Family Youth Mediation Program", Ms. Leung Weihong, pointed out that the program has been well received by schools and students for many years. She believes that after students learn mediation skills, their learning attitudes and behaviors also change, and they can control their anger and increase empathy during conflict. For schools, mediators can handle disputes and minor conflicts among students and reduce the workload of teachers. "Because teachers usually deal with them quickly from the perspective of instruction, there will be right and wrong situations." Liang Weihong even pointed out that some schools had once reported to them that they had selected a student who served as the mediator of ethics. "When ethics is becoming more and more important, students in the younger class may not like them too much, but when ethics becomes peer mediation. The identities of the staff perform their duties, and the methods are not the same. The teacher observed that the students in the lower grades do not hate style and discipline, and the relationship is good."
Liang Weihong described the current stay at home to fight the epidemic. Parents and children are like "sleepy beasts." They are also prone to conflicts on homework, time management, and life habits. She suggested that when dealing with family conflicts, parents should deal with their mood first, and then deal with matters. Parents are encouraged to use "head-to-heart" mediation and listening skills, first to patiently understand what is happening, understand their children's feelings, and listen to their children's expectations and needs. In order to deal with disputes in a peaceful atmosphere.
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