Burst
Written by: Chen Nuoxi, Deng Yongzhong, Huang Weimin, Deng Boliang
2020-10-01 07:00
Last update date: 2020-10-01 10:43
At the beginning of the month, a woman in Kwai Chung Village strangled her 21-year-old son who had just left the hospital and suffered from moderate intellectual disability and hyperactivity. The incident caused concern from all walks of life about the plight of caregivers.
Many parents have faced the same problem, raising a 100-year-old child and worrying about 99.
Yu Qi, who suffers from autism and moderate intellectual disability, once went missing and had to go to the hospital due to emotional loss of control. The mother in charge of taking care of her was overwhelmed, and she still insisted on taking care of her beloved child.
"It's 200 pounds. It's so strong. I can't catch it." Yuqi's mother worried that she would be too old to take care of the work in the future. She revealed that Yuqi had been waiting for the dormitory for 10 years. Before the Mid-Autumn Festival, she most expected It is the son who can get a place soon.
Another Yingwen who needs dormitory services, also suffers from autism and moderate intellectual disability. Yingwen’s mother, Lin Tai, suffers from foot problems. She said that she is lucky to have waited for more than 10 years for her daughter to seamlessly connect to dormitory services: "Happy Passing the Form 6 lottery!" She also pointed out that after her daughter moved into the dormitory, in addition to reducing the stress of caregiving, the social workers of the Hong Kong Mental Health Association also provided a lot of support to parents. Taking care of their parents' emotions made everyone feel that they would not go alone.
The homes for the disabled will arrange for the residents to return to the dormitory on Monday morning, and to be taken home by the parents to take care of them on Friday afternoon. The service hours of the day center are from 9 am to 3:30 pm.
Taking care of mentally handicapped children such as "Beast Fight" was dragged by his out of control son
Yuqi’s mother said frankly that taking care of her son was like a "sleepy beast fight." Fortunately, she arranged for her son to study at the day center. She said that her son’s behavior problems and temper had improved after he arrived at the center. many".
However, at the beginning of the epidemic, Yuqi's mother was worried about being vulnerable at the center, so she took her son home to take care of her.
Unexpectedly, Yuqi was suspected of being unable to adapt to the sudden changes in life and had behavior problems. When her mother and her son went out in April this year, Yuqi was lost for a time. Her mother raised the incident again and still had lingering fears: "When I took the Hong Kong team to Kowloon Tong, he So I rushed out, and then many friends helped me put on Facebook to find someone. By 7 o'clock in the morning the next day, the police beat me, saying that it was from the side of Dawei World Garden. After seeing him, he screamed. Bury the same to eat.".
"It's 200 pounds. It's so strong. I tried to drag it from the street to the road. It's like a carriage, but I can't catch it." In the end, a passer-by helped to call the police. Yuqi had to stay in the hospital for 10 days. Feeling restless, uneasy, and even thinking that I owe my son a lot of guilt.
This became one of the turning points. Yuqi's mother then took her son back to the day center to continue studying. Not only did she have a breathing space, she could gather with friends, do crafts or volunteer.
And she also successfully applied for pick-up service. Volunteers assisted with pick-up and follow-up consultation, etc., which greatly reduced the pressure of care.
But what she longs most is still that her son can get a place. "It's okay to have a temporary place."
Yuqi's mother frankly confessed that taking care of her son is like a "sleepy beast fight."
(Photo by Deng Boliang)
Only 332 social workers considered temporary service places to be a drop in the bucket
According to a Legislative Council document, as of the end of August 2020, there are 332 places for residential respite services.
The short-term residential respite service for the disabled allows carers to take a break.
The Chief Director (Services) of the Hong Kong Mental Health Association, Wu Xiuwen, pointed out that there are two types of temporary places in Hong Kong: occasionally vacant places and inevitable places. However, the places are like a drop in the bucket. If a family member cannot take care of their disabled children in an emergency, the center The referral will be assisted immediately, but it will only be arranged until there is a vacant seat at that time, and it may even need to be cross-zoned to have a seat.
He Shiyun, the service manager of the Long Hang Centre, added that the longest accommodation service can only last for two weeks, or even just a few days.
"I saw that there are some parents who are really in need. I tried to stay in each room for a few days and walked into 3 centers."
The service for people with disabilities not only allows them to continue training and activities, but also takes care of their caregivers, providing them with bed psychological support and counselling services to prevent the tragedy of the mothers in Kwai Chung Village from killing the mentally disabled children earlier last month.
Regarding the incident, Yu Qima bluntly understood the anxieties of the victim. She believes that if the government can provide more residential places or other measures to support and reduce the pressure on caregivers, social tragedies can be avoided.
Seamless connection with dormitory services for parents: happy to have a lottery in the sixth form!
Another person, Ying Wen, who is using dormitory services, is 40 years old. She suffers from moderate intellectual disability and autism. She is only 21 months old.
She used the day training service of the Day Activity Center in 1999, and stayed in the dormitory for the disabled in 2006. Lin Tai bluntly said that they are a lucky group. After graduation, Yingwen almost seamlessly connects the service of the day activity center to the dormitory for the disabled.
"You guys are so stubborn, so we are more stubborn than him! When I was not in the dormitory at the time, I had brought him to the door and kept saying, "You will be tied up later" every day. Year after year, when Ying Wen was studying, she began to wait for more than 10 years. She was finally sent to the Shuntian Center of the Hong Kong Mental Health Association, which relieved Mrs. Lin and said, "Happy Super Six Lottery!"
Lin Tai recalled that Yingwen’s behavior before entering the dormitory was a headache. She once robbed strangers’ phones and glasses, jumped and smashed the ground while riding.
I would also make trouble at home, filming and shouting at night, "Because I was afraid that he would get up at night and make people noisy, I used to stay in the hall day after day. After he entered the dormitory, I could return to the room first." She added. , Yingwen has always been assisted by her in all matters, so she put a lot of effort into training her daughter.
"When he was 8 years old, students were taught to use sanitary napkins. I knew that he would use them sooner or later. So I started at that time and buried Yingwen during my menstrual period. I hope to change the sanitary napkins, wrap them up, and then discard them. By the time he was in his mid-teens, he was really troubled!"
Lin Taixiao pointed out that she was able to seamlessly connect with the dormitory services at that time, "Happy to have a lottery in the Sixth Form!".
(Photo by Deng Yongzhong)
Mother has undergone 14 operations and her daughter has been assigned a dormitory to reduce her burden
The dormitory is about a few minutes away from home, but Lin Tai suffers from foot problems and needs crutches to get in and out. She has undergone 14 major and minor operations in 25 years. She bluntly said that her daughter was relieved after being assigned to the dormitory.
In the past, follow-up consultations were conducted in the morning. Since Yingwen moved into the dormitory, the time has become more flexible, which also reduced her physical and mental burden.
"In fact, apart from helping Yingwen, the dormitory also helps parents not less. The most important thing is emotional support. It teaches us how to deal with her out-of-control emotions. It is a great support for caregivers." Lin Tai said bluntly to her daughter After moving into the dormitory, emotional control made a big leap.
Generally speaking, those who stay in the dormitory will be picked up by their parents on Friday afternoon and brought back to the dormitory on Monday morning.
However, due to the impact of the epidemic, the residents were unable to go home.
The epidemic has not stabilized recently, and as of Tuesday (29th), the SWD still has no arrangements for the Mid-Autumn Festival.
In the past Mid-Autumn Festival, Lin Tai would take Yingwen to the square near her home to enjoy the lanterns and participate in the Mid-Autumn Festival Gala. Although the arrangements for the day are still unknown, Lin Tai still arranged the room and hand-made beaded lanterns to the dormitory and Yingwen. Early holidays.
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