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What is critical to hearing people's voices when talking to them on the phone?
Did you call Dad, Mom or other relatives?
It's better to be really focused on this conversation, and hear their voice.
It can help, not just them
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Rabbi Chaim David Kowalski
In collaboration with the Digital Gemara
Tuesday, 17 November 2020, 07:15
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Eruvin Tractate, Crutch Page (Photo and Editing: Walla! NEWS)
A person can make a decision that once every two days he calls to ask about his parents' well-being.
He talks to them on the phone.
Thus he makes a very important mitzvah of honoring father and mother.
There are two ways to have this conversation: Have a person call while engaging in something else, driving, or arranging documents, "Yeah Mom, what's up? How are you?"
But then he will miss a lot of the content in the conversation because he will not be focused to hear his mom's or dad's voice, their speech rate, are they happy or something is bothering them but some people will leave everything when they call their parents, be focused in the conversation, hear all Sound in their voice, listen well to everything, and take the conversation to places that interest their parents.
In the Gemara on the daily page there is a very interesting guideline in this area, which is expressed not only in feelings and connection with people, but even regarding objects.
In those days every door had a bolt that when a guy was stuck in the floor, it was impossible to open the door from the outside.
Well, what happens on Saturday, is it possible to stick it on the floor?
There is a fear that whoever sees it will think he is building on Shabbat, and he closes the hole with the bolt, and will not think it is part of the door.
Was the bolt attached to the door or not?
(Photo: ShutterStock)
The Gemara says: If the latch is tied with a rope to the door, no one will think so, because one sees that the latch is tied to a door, but there is a very interesting condition: if this rope is weak, that in case they pull the latch, the rope will tear, this latch is considered unrelated to the door.
But if the rope is strong, it is considered that the bolt is tied to the door, and is part of it.
Rabbi Chaim David Kowalski, presenter of the
digital gemara
, explained the connection to everyday life.
We talk to the parents or older people close to us, make contact with them - what connection?
To be replete with content and quality.
The same is true in a marital relationship, the wisdom of Judaism is full of content that guides the husband and wife whose marital relationship will not become purely technical, not to let the routine of life cause the marital relationship to be mechanical and dry.
Therefore sages instructed the husband to care for the honor of his wife more than for himself, and to buy her gifts every holiday, to arouse the emotion, to maintain the quality of the relationship.
Rabbi Kowalski added that this is also the case with the relationship with the children.
You can go out to the garden with them and be immersed in the phone all the time, and you can turn off the phone, now we are just with the kids.
Hear the parents' voices, understand their plight (Photo: ShutterStock)
The lesson on quality connection is based on the daily page in Tractate Eruvin, Daf Kab, and is also published in full on
the Digital Gemara website
.
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