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Written by: Huang Yongyu
2021-01-01 09:00
Last update date: 2021-01-01 09:00
Faced with the sudden death of a loved one, family members have to bear emotions on the one hand, and on the other hand they have to re-plan their lives.
Cheng Weiwen, director-general of the Sanming Association, who provides grief counseling, said that after the incident, it may be difficult for children to accept it, and it takes time to adapt. If family members encounter care difficulties, they can take the initiative to ask for help. It’s a burden.” It also pointed out that even if the caregiver is sent to the dormitory in the end, it should not be overly self-blaming and guilty. The situation is like living in a nursing home for the elderly.
Regarding whether it will actively intervene in suicide cases, the Social Welfare Department only stated that if the family needs emotional support, they can contact the integrated service center near their residence, and the central social worker will assess family needs and provide them with counselling services.
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Regarding the case of Granny Ruan and Tao Tao, the social worker Cheng Weiwen, director-general of the Bao Ming Society, believes that after the incident, the two were under a lot of pressure.
He explained that if children are young, they may not have a strong sense and "may imagine that their family members will return." However, for 11-year-old children, they already have a concept of life and death, but it is more difficult to accept, and they have to adapt to daily life. .
As for the mother-in-law, one person takes care of three people. "It's so stressful and burdensome."
Cheng Weiwen encouraged the family members to feel emotionally upset. In addition to asking appropriate agencies for help, they could also talk to credible people. He believed that the listener did not need to make too much criticism and suggested that "you only need to listen and tolerate", which made people feel at the time. The feeling of being "understood."
There were 3,928 places in residential care services for children, with an average utilization rate of 85% in the previous year. The average waiting time for residential care services for children was 3.4 months.
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Social worker: Even if the caregiver has to be sent to the dormitory at the end, don’t be overly self-blaming or guilty.
He also explained that in similar incidents, if the child is not suitable for family care, he will be admitted to the children’s home, but it may not be the best for the child’s development A good choice, frankly, in the unknown situation, coupled with insecurity, there will be a lot of resistance and fear, "the dormitory must have time to adapt."
Cheng believes that the current support services in Hong Kong are comprehensive. I believe that many existing services can intervene to relieve family pressure. "Related services are comprehensive. On the contrary, whether relatives will take the initiative to ask for help." He emphasized that mutual care is not necessarily a burden.
Even if they cannot continue to be cared for due to ability problems and must be sent to the dormitory, he also reminds the caregivers not to blame themselves or feel guilty. Taking the elderly homes as an example, "how to take the lighter, still be willing to go together, even if you can no longer If you live together, you will always take care of and visit. If you relieve the pressure of care, you will have more time to communicate."
Social workers use the elderly homes as an example. "How to choose the least, they are still willing to travel together. Even if they can no longer live together, they will always take care and visit. If the pressure of care is relieved, they will have more time to communicate."
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In response to enquiries, the SWD stated that, generally speaking, if the child’s guardian dies, the social worker will first contact the child and his relatives to understand and evaluate the child’s needs, care arrangements, and provide support based on the actual situation, including grief counseling, emergency and Long-term financial assistance, referral to appropriate community support and residential care services, etc.
SWD: If there are no suitable relatives to take care of, arrangements can be made for adoption in appropriate circumstances
The department mentioned that if there are no suitable relatives, the social worker will consider applying to the court to appoint the Director of Social Welfare as the legal guardian of the child and arrange adoption services where appropriate.
Currently, there are 3,928 places in residential care services for children. The average utilization rate was 85% last year. The average waiting time for residential care services for general children is 3.4 months. For emergency residential care services, individual social workers can Institutions directly refer and arrange check-in.
Help website and hotline:
The Hong Kong Samaritan Association for the Prevention of Suicide Hotline: 23892222
Hospital Authority Mental Health Line: 24667350
Tung Wah Group of Hospitals Zhi Ruo Yuen Hotline: 18281
Samaritan Hotline: 28960000
Social Welfare Department Hotline: 23432255
Life Hotline: 23820000
Jockey Club Youth Emotional Health Online Support Platform-"Open 噏" 24-hour online counseling: 91012012 (SMS)
Liminhui "Instant Communication": 35122626
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