Activating the adult self - coaching Understanding childhood, week eight

Leave your childhood behind?

To break away from the behavioral patterns learned at the time, to shake off the expectations assumed by the parents, to free oneself from negative experiences - that seems like a big project at first.

But it is often individual exercises, aha experiences or new perspectives on the past that help people to become more independent of experiences.

Therefore, go through the exercises from this coaching again and consider which ones have been particularly helpful for you.

We have summarized the exercises from this coaching in a checklist.

Pick an exercise or two that you found particularly good.

Checklist: Seeing and understanding childhood differently

All exercises, tasks and suggestions are listed here that can help you see your own childhood through different eyes and gradually break away from old influences: 

• No longer seeing childhood as something that will shape your life.

• Discover beliefs from the past

• Listen to yourself consciously

• Refute beliefs from the past with arguments

• Refuting beliefs from the past by distancing yourself

• Extend and relativize memories with the help of photos

• Discover treasures and resources from childhood: helpful people

• Discovering treasures and resources from childhood: good moments

• Discovering treasures and resources from childhood: own skills

• Pay attention to the inner child and offer help

• Appreciate the pain of childhood - and hold it in your hand like a flower

• Appreciate the pain of childhood - and comfort like a child

• Appreciate the pain from childhood - and look at it like a picture

• Write an open letter to parents

• Write an angry letter to your parents

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Now consider whether you want to deal with one of the techniques beyond this coaching.

Working with your own beliefs, relativizing memories or practicing acceptance are very powerful methods with which you can permanently change your attitude towards your own childhood.

Did you find a technique?

Good.

If you take just one innovation into your everyday life, it can change a lot.

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Title: Leave childhood behind you: finally shape life yourself

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Author: Nuber, Ursula

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It is unavoidable in the future that you will sometimes feel helpless, weak, powerless and vulnerable, just like you experienced as a child.

It is also unavoidable that you repeat old beliefs such as “I am weak” or “Nobody likes me” or fall back into old patterns, for example “I have to hold back” or “I have to be careful.” The sooner you If you notice this relapse into old patterns, the easier it becomes to break away from them.

From now on, every time you notice this behavior in yourself, try to simply say, "I am an adult now - these old feelings are in the past." Just the conscious separation of childhood and adult life will help you to feel increasingly more secure .

If you want to read more about the topic and want to continue dealing with childhood, then the book by the psychologist Ursula Nuber, who developed this coaching for us, may be worthwhile for you.

It says: »Leave childhood behind you.

Finally shape life yourself «.

We wish you all the best!

And have patience and understanding for yourself!

Your SPIEGEL COACHING team

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