"A little porn" and a lot of depression: the Covid has put their intimate life on hiatus

2020 wasn't the best year to be single.

2021 does not bode well for much better.

While a year ago, the first case of Covid-19 was confirmed in France, some are also celebrating the sad anniversary of their sluggish sex life.

"I had left my boyfriend in December 2019, since then I have had no physical contact with anyone ..." Single and without children, Lucie has not kissed or hugged anyone since the start of the crisis sanitary.

“I'm a little freaked out by the virus that I don't want to catch and even less transmit so my social interactions are limited to the strict minimum, slips the young Nîmoise.

Of course, sentimental life is put on hold, it is no longer a subject.

So sex… ”His few sex toys bought online gently dust in his nightstand:“ I especially want to find contact with someone's skin ”.

"A little porn, but no more than that"

Teleworking, the closure of bars, concert halls and nightclubs certainly have the virtue of warding off the temptations to meet people.

They are also real sentences to life in seclusion for people living alone.

"I try to follow the confinement as strictly as possible because it seems normal to me to respect the law, says Stéphane.

Basically I'm a bit of a homebody, but I'm a little bit crazy that people can organize dinners or go to illegal restaurants.

It wouldn't occur to me.

It is also through our individual responsibility that we will get out of this situation ”.

In his small apartment in Issy-les-Moulineaux (Hauts-de-Seine), the librarian therefore spends a lot of time playing on his game console.

He resumed jogging intensely and runs several dozen kilometers per week.

His libido, on the other hand, does not really gallop.

“I consume a little porn, but no more than that,” he admits.

I masturbate sometimes but I have the impression that over time everything fades.

As if the less we made love, the less we wanted to.

I'm getting used to this situation even though I think about it often.

There is a lack ”.

The exchanges without future on the applications of meeting turn short, for lack of place to meet: “I do not see myself giving an appointment on a Sunday afternoon to walk in a park with a stranger, that would be absurd.

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"I am on a very slippery slope towards depression"

The health situation and its economic and social corollaries tend to weigh more and more on the morale of the French.

The absence of sentimental and carnal life drives the knife a little deeper into the wound.

"I'm clearly on a very slippery slope towards depression," Hamida squeals.

We have no prospect in front of us so we no longer want anything, including sexually.

The only thing that motivates me at night is to pose in front of a series ”.

The engineer, however, took advantage of the summer to meet a man: "It was my vacation adventure but it did not hang more than that between us".

Since then, she surfs without really believing it on dating sites.

“When the weather was still fine, I organized a picnic and then I had a few drinks standing on the terrace of a bar that serves take-out,” she continues.

It's a lot of mental investment for too many disappointments.

And I don't see myself inviting a stranger to my house or going to a man I just talked to from a distance.

So I take a break, I have no more motivation.

I don't play sports anymore either.

I feel drained of all energy, including that of meeting a man and falling in love ”.

The temptation of virtual relationships

Boris, he had a very bad experience of the first confinement of spring.

He had entered into a relationship with a mother of two but the four-way camera got the better of the love affair.

The fifty-year-old could not really take advantage of the summer break to relaunch himself in the seduction market.

"I am diabetic so I must be very careful not to catch the virus," explains the boss of a small business in IT.

I reconnected with old mistresses but I only saw them outside and with masks.

You can imagine that we could not do much very sexy!

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To spice up these casual relationships, this crazy high-tech bet on the screens.

"I have exchanged a lot of photos and videos that are a little hot, even really dirty," he laughs.

I had them delivered lingerie but also vibrating eggs or geisha balls.

It was super exciting, we made appointments in the evening for sex at a distance but it went to my head a bit.

And if it is safe at the level of the Covid, it remains very frustrating.

Suddenly, we got a little bored.

Today, my only way to find a sex life is the vaccine.

I'm looking forward to my turn ”.

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