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Written by: Lu Ningmin
2021-02-09 15:56
The last update date: 2021-02-09 15:57
Medical care saves lives day and night, and has always been regarded as "white angels." However, in addition to physical treatment, psychological care cannot be ignored.
In fact, there are some "spiritual angels" in the hospital who help people in the face of life and death and try their best to help heal the pain, but we don't always notice it.
Two experienced pastors were reviewing their past two decades in the chapel today, and many cases are still in sight.
Dr. Cheng Xia-en, who died in SARS, was infected with a highly contagious virus. When he was in a coma, his parents could only visit through the big TV.
The 4-year-old girl who died in the Lamma shipwreck was hurriedly covered with a white cloth and placed in the morgue with the bodies of the two victims. The whereabouts of her parents were once unknown. The one who came to identify the body was only 20 years old. "Uncle".
Yu Weigang and Lin Weilian, pastoralists of the Alice He Miaoling Nethersole Charity Foundation, said that death falls on everyone at any time. The pastoral work of seeing life and death makes them more aware of the need to live in the present and cherish every relationship.
Pastor Yu Weiji (left) and Pastor Lin Weilian (right) are both experienced pastors.
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"Don't deny his emotions, otherwise, the heart will get worse and worse."
Alice He Miaoling Nethersole Charity Foundation, Mu Yu Weigang
In the accident and emergency department, I saw the family's self-blame. Pastor Yu: I will not reverse their thoughts
The two pastors dedicated most of their lives to the work of the pastor, taking care of countless broken hearts.
Life and death are the most painful in life. What is appropriate to say?
Before the body was sent to the mortuary, when family members were crying and heartbroken, "You have to express your emotions, accept that the other party is dead, and send the deceased away first. The sense of loss will be less."
Pastor Yu described that the first stage of grief must be respected, "Don't negate his emotions, otherwise the heart will heal more."
Working in the accident and emergency department, he is often exposed to sudden death cases. Many family members will blame themselves for being too late to call the police and missed the opportunity to rescue. "I don’t plan to reverse his thoughts. He made a late phone call and the patient called. It's already dead, as long as it has enough time and space, it will transition to this stage."
Sudden death is a great impact on the family. Pastor Yu said that they must say goodbye to the deceased before they have a chance to relax. "But the long-term pain is not our help, and the community church may be needed." .
The two hospital shepherds have come into contact with many cases of sudden death that are difficult for their families to accept.
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The god of death will not only take away old people, ignorant children, childish teenagers, and warm families can all turn into nothing in an instant.
Pastor Lin told me about the cases of premature deaths that he had dealt with during his work life, or the cases of young people facing death. With Pastor Yu's sigh next to him, the atmosphere in the chapel became colder.
"I told the nurse that Qianqi would not pick up a body when she is not ready."
Alice Ho Miu Ling Nethersole Charity Foundation Mu Lin Weilian
Pastor Lin Weilian has 33 years of pastoral experience and has seen many cases of losing loved ones.
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The white-headed man gave the black-headed mother to hold the body of her mentally retarded daughter for 5 hours
Before the Mid-Autumn Festival of a certain year, a 14-year-old boy and his cousin were playing football in Fu Heng Village, Tai Po. The ball was kicked out of the road. The boy chased him. The taxi came and ran over the boy.
The boy’s parents, sisters and boyfriend waited in the emergency room anxiously, but the boy died after rescue failed. Pastor Lin arrived in the emergency room, and his fat father rushed over to hug him. Huh?" Pastor Lin pointed out that telling the bad news is part of their job, "Do you want me to tell you to talk to the doctor?" When Pastor Lin told his mother the bad news about his son's death, the mother immediately rushed to rescue Holding his son in the room, Pastor Lin had already reminded the medical staff that before he told the family the bad news, he should pack up the blood cotton and the juvenile's tattered clothes in the rescue room, so that the parents could say goodbye to the dead.
The white-headed person gives the black-headed person a lot of sadness.
There was another 5-year-old girl with a mental disability. She was suffocated while the servant was feeding. She was rescued and died. Her mother was holding her deceased daughter in the emergency room and refused to let go. "She carried her from 6pm to 11pm and waited for her husband to visit the mainland. When I rushed to the hospital, I was willing to put a woman back in bed."
Pastor Lin, who has three daughters, felt the experience, "I told the nurse that Qianqi would not take a body when he is not ready."
11-year-old boy: You return to your grandmother, I am Pastor Lin: Mother is in your heart
When a child loses a loved one, how should he face it?
Pastor Lin recalled that a woman stayed in the intensive care unit for a long time due to illness, and eventually returned to the intensive care unit.
All the family members have been mentally prepared for a long time, but the lady's 11-year-old son was unable to accept the news of his death. He cursed the doctors in the ward. The doctors called Pastor Lin for help. The little boy said to Pastor Lin, "You return to my mother." Pastor Lin responded: "Your mother is here for you, and your heart is in your heart." The little boy immediately stopped crying.
"Although the 11-year-old knows that it is death, the separation of flesh and blood is a big trauma to him. You must help him connect back to the relationship with the deceased. The love between the son and the mother will not disappear because of death."
The Lamma shipwreck in 2012 claimed 39 lives, including the life of a 4-year-old girl.
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Lamma shipwreck kills 4-year-old girl, 20-year-old uncle crying
Pastor Lin also has two cases that he will never forget. One is related to the disaster and the other is related to the epidemic.
In 2012, when the Lamma shipwreck occurred, Pastor Lin, who was going to dinner with his family, suddenly received an urgent call from the hospital. “A call for a disaster in a hospital is like a call. The pastor, social worker, psychologist and social worker of the Patient Resource Center The four groups of supervisors must immediately form a psycho-social spiritual team to handle the incident.”
When I came to the emergency department of Eastern Hospital, the doctor told Pastor Lin that there were 3 bodies in the morgue. One of the deceased was a 4-year-old little sister. However, the parents found no results. An uncle who was only 20 years old, he cried wildly when he saw the body of his little sister, and had to leave in a hurry before he could clean up. "Because the little sister’s 3-year-old boy died at QE (Queen Elizabeth Hospital). ".
Life is impermanent, and the young uncle has to bear the grief of losing two little relatives at once.
"At that time, there was a female doctor who worked in Tai Po Hospital. After she was diagnosed, she was admitted to the ICU. Her parents could only visit her comatose daughter through the big TV. I was so sad because her parents went to touch the TV and died. I couldn't see it, so I quickly took a body to cremation.
Alice Ho Miu Ling Nethersole Charity Foundation Mu Lin Weilian
The current COVID-19 pandemic is raging, making visits very difficult.
Pastor Lin remembered that the SARS attack that year caught the medical staff by surprise, and a young doctor was infected. "Even if a colleague was recruited, their parents could only visit the patient across the screen. At that time, a female doctor who worked at the Tai Po Hospital was diagnosed. After entering the ICU, my parents could only visit their unconscious daughter through the big TV. I was very sad because my parents went to touch the TV. In the end they couldn’t see the dead, so I quickly took a body to cremation." The female doctor named by Pastor Lin was Dr. Zheng Xiaen, who was only 30 years old when she died.
Dr. Cheng Xia En unfortunately died in SARS when he was only 30 years old.
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Pastor Lin performed a baptism ceremony for the seriously ill infant.
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Designated protective equipment must be worn for end-of-life baptisms during the epidemic
Pastor Lin and Pastor Yu said that in the early stage of the outbreak of the new crown epidemic, the Hospital Authority learned the lessons of SARS and decided to immediately suspend all pastoral services. Only compassionate visits approved by the infection prevention nurse can be carried out.
Pastor Lin also pointed out that he works in the oncology department and many patients are in critical condition. He has also handled many end-of-life baptisms in the past six months. "Most of them are approved, but the infectivity must be assessed. We decided to wear protective equipment of a good degree." .
Pastor Yu pointed out that in addition to patients and their families, doctors and nurses are also under tremendous pressure during the epidemic, so taking care of employees' emotions is also one of their responsibilities.
Pastor Yu smiled and said that he was about to retire, and recalled his pastoral career and never complained. “Because I have seen so many deaths, I remind myself that if I don’t cherish what Yijia has, I will regret it in the future.” (Photo by Lu Ningmin) )
Pastor Yu laughed and said that he was about to retire, and Pastor Lin is already at the age of retirement. Looking back on the past two or thirty years of pastoral career, they have seen life and death. Although they face many tears every day, they never say bitterness. Just because I have seen so many deaths, I remind myself that if I don’t cherish what Yijia has, I will regret it in the future, so I don’t depress, but I have more positive energy. When you see that someone is easy to die, you don’t. Be attached to a few small things and cherish all the relationships you have," Pastor Yu said with a smile.
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