Until the wedding it will pass? Brides require a clear outline for weddings Israel today

Young women who are due to get married soon have a hard time dealing with the uncertainty • "Getting married is no less important than opening a mall. We just are not counted," they are furious.

• "We are not counted."

  A wedding in the park last July

  Photography: 

  Liron Moldovan

A wedding is a happy occasion: a bride and groom, music, dancing and a buffet full of goodies, but those who are getting married in the near future still do not know if all this will be possible at all. 

According to the latest guidelines of the Ministry of Health, a wedding is currently allowed for a gathering of up to 20 people in an open area and up to 10 people in a building, and in case the gathering place includes both a building and an open space - up to 20 people in total.

In addition, it is forbidden to hold a wedding in an event hall or garden and there is a prohibition on service providers to provide services for a wedding that takes place in such a place.

Until the wedding it will pass?

No one knows.

Welcome to the realm of uncertainty.

And it's annoying the brides.

Bar Eliyahu, 21, a bachelor's degree student at Bar-Ilan, for example, is due to get married in 33 days, but instead of arranging her wedding, she just sits at home and waits.

"Waiting like the freelancers, the shopkeepers, the schoolchildren and many more waiting to know what will happen," Bar wrote in a post that went viral, "what will happen? This is the question that has been guiding us all this year or so. And it's starting to get a little frustrating. "So almost seven months ago, imagine a completely utopian reality. Most are vaccinated, open halls and celebrations as usual. My concern was in which hall we would get married. Today? I do not know how and when and why and how much we will get married."

"I did not ask for Eyal Golan's wedding with 5,000 guests and flower arrangements from Japan that are probably infected with corona," Bar concludes in pain. "I'm not just speaking on my behalf, behind tens of thousands of other suppliers: photographers, ashtrays, musicians and florists from Japan who just want to know what will happen. And not stand in the air. Release us already, over a year we are in this loop."

Noam Ganot, 20, a midrasha student, is in the same situation.

She got engaged three months ago and is due to get married in exactly one month, but she also still does not know where the wedding will take place and who will be invited to it, if at all. 

"We still do not know all the biggest details of the wedding," she says, "not where we will get married and who will come. This is the first wedding in the family, so there is a big market and great uncertainty. We have already closed an event in an event garden and canceled. It is hallucinatory. Impossible. "I even tell the designer how many people there will be, because there is a good chance that we will have to give up relatives and friends, and I have no way to prepare mentally for that. I know that in the end there will be a happy and fun wedding, but the road there and the uncertainty weighs heavily on us." 

"The guidelines remained the same, but 20 people is not even a small family. If a slightly larger event is held to allow the immediate family to arrive, if a police officer arrives, it could ruin the whole wedding. It has already happened to my girlfriend. Another girlfriend chose not to decorate "The bride's car so that no policeman will follow her to the event. All this preoccupation is insanely heavy on everyone, and the bride and groom are not supposed to deal with it." 

According to her, decision-makers are delaying the publication of a simpler outline for weddings - because they do not understand the importance of a religious wedding: "Maybe for them a wedding is less important, and a wedding can be postponed, but for us it is really critical. This is our way of continuing life. It's important to open a clothing store or mall. I and my other friends who are getting married feel that we are simply not counted, that we are not in anyone's agenda. But a solution must be found. It is possible to make a vaccine capsule or require a negative corona test at the entrance. Weddings are allowed in capsules, why not now, when there are also vaccines? ".