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Valentine's Day is coming and many will stay home.
If you are looking for movies to celebrate this day, here are some recommendations.
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“Casablanca” (1942) - The classic starring Ingrid Bergman and Humphrey Bogart has a score of 8.5 / 10 on the specialized movie site IMDb.
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“Amelie” (2001) - This movie starring Audrey Tautou achieved an 8.3 / 10 rating on IMDb.
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“Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” (2004) - The film starring Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet was rated 8.3 / 10 on IMDb.
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"The Princess Bride" (1987) - This movie starring Cary Elwes, Mandy Patinkin and Robin Wright has one of the highest IMDb scores with 8.1 / 10.
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"Before Sunrise" (1995) - Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy play the stars of this film, which is rated 8.1 / 10 on IMDb.
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“Marriage Story” (2019) - Nominated for an Oscar in 2020 for Best Picture, the story of the characters played by Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver has a score of 8/10 on IMDb.
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“Titanic” (1997) - This popular movie that featured Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet reached a 7.8 / 10 rating on IMDb.
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“The Notebook” (2004) - The film starring Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams was rated 7.8 / 10 on IMDb.
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“Brokeback Mountain” (2005) - This movie starring Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger has an IMDb score of 7.7 / 10.
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“500 Days of Summer” (2009) - Zooey Deschanel and Joseph Gordon-Levitt bring the stars of this film to life, which is rated 7.7 / 10 on IMDb.
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“The Fault in Our Stars” (2014) - This drama starring Shailene Woodley and Ansel Elgort has a score of 7.7 / 10 on IMDb.
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“A Star is Born” (2018) - This film that featured Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper (who was also the director) achieved a 7.7 / 10 rating on IMDb.
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"When Harry Met Sally" (1989) - The film starring Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan was rated 7.6 / 10 on IMDb.
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“Love Actually” (2003) - Keira Knightley, Hugh Grant, Emma Thompson, Liam Neeson and Colin Firth's film has an IMDb score of 7.6 / 10.
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"10 Things I Hate About You" (1999) - Heath Ledger and Julia Stiles gave life to the protagonists of this film that is rated 7.3 / 10 on IMDb.
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“Notting Hill” (1999) - The film starring Julia Roberts and Hugh Grant has a score of 7.1 / 10 on IMDb.
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"Pretty Woman" (1990) - The film starring Richard Gere and Julia Roberts was rated 7/10 on IMDb.
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“PS I Love You” (2007) - This film that featured Hilary Swank and Gerard Butler reached a 7/10 rating on IMDb.
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"Bridget Jones' Diary" (2001) - This film featuring Renée Zellweger, Colin Firth and Hugh Grant has an IMDb score of 6.7 / 10.
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"Valentine's Day" (2010) - Eric Dane, Jessica Biel, Julia Roberts, Jamie Foxx, Anne Hathaway, Ashton Kutcher, Jennifer Garner, Taylor Swift and Jessica Alba bring to life some of the characters in this film that is rated 5 , 7/10 on IMDb.
(CNN Spanish) -
It's official: Valentine's Day has arrived, the day when you will see how roses, boxes of chocolates, gifts, teddy bears and even marriage proposals multiply.
Yes, it is the date that most people celebrate love.
And precisely because of that, it comes with its own dose of pressure.
From how to celebrate it if you have a partner to how to survive him if you don't like him or if you are going through a duel that has you with a broken heart (we know it is something real).
Not to mention the pandemic that we lived through for more than a year.
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So, before the overflowing enthusiasm for this date begins to generate anxiety or discomfort, we have put together these expert tips so you can go through the 24 hours with more hearts of the year without major setbacks.
1. There is nothing wrong with feeling pressure
The psychologist and sexologist César Galicia assures that the first step is to recognize that the pressure exists –– regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not –– and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for feeling it.
"That pressure is real, it is something that the vast majority of people do not choose," he says.
Either because you need the perfect date with your partner, because you have not found what to give him, or because it has to be a very romantic day, to the other extreme: you are not with anyone and you do not want to feel alone.
"Almost all people are going to feel pressure that day, even those who say they hate Valentine's Day, because they hate it for something, the chip is already inside, no one escapes this system," he added.
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In that sense, remember that it is a day that is also linked to consumption, to the fact of buying to show our affection.
“It is a date that is made to turn love into a product, but even if we know that, the need behind it is the same that all people have: to feel loved, special, that the moments we are living are worth the Too bad, that they are beautiful, that we are going to remember them, that there are reasons to celebrate ”, he completed.
So, it's time to live with the pressure to take the next step.
2. Create a Valentine's Day Plan: Here's the Power of Your Decision
Galicia remembers that the last word is in your hands: "You can choose to participate or not, that's your decision."
Which translates to having a plan that can even change the meaning of celebrating Valentine's Day for you.
And this also includes simply not wanting to do anything extraordinary and consider it to be just another day.
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If you are single, the expert suggests getting together with your friends, including those who have a partner, and use the day to celebrate your friendship.
Given the pandemic, you can do it virtually to keep everyone safe.
"We're going to turn it around, we're going to celebrate something else ... I'm going to celebrate what I want," he explains.
If you prefer to be alone, then you can consider it as a date with yourself: see a movie, relax, think that it is just any day.
There is also the option that this day you dedicate it to do what you like the most or some activity that you have not practiced for a long time.
For those with a partner, sex therapist Sari Cooper told CNN in a previous article that communicating with each other and devising a joint plan can make a difference.
"Talk to your partner about what you will like about this day and if you feel that Valentine's Day is important to you," he explained.
"You can create between the two of you a celebration (or not) that is a collaborative event, making compromises for the wishes of both and designing a realistic plan in which you make sure that you both feel heard," he said.
3. Understand what you feel and transform it
The psychologist expert in masturbation Alicia Delicia highlights that much of the value that Valentine's Day has –– especially towards women–– “seems to be centered on how successful my sex-affective relationship is or not.
You have to know that it is very valid to feel all this part of concern, rejection, loneliness ”.
But it is also healthy to see beyond, especially if you have just ended a relationship, are thinking about doing it or have doubts about your partner.
“The closure I think that in general it can be difficult because we have been taught that it is the most painful.
When a relationship ends it is seen as a failure.
And there comes a lot of pain, thinking what is wrong with me, what the other person did or did not do, ”he says.
But, he adds that it should also be understood that a relationship ends when "there is a point of non-compatibility."
This is where it is necessary to rescue the most valuable thing in the relationship, pause and say: what did I learn from this relationship.
"That pain that can be felt, now on a physical and mental level, how good because it is a reminder that we have the ability to love and that it is a desire.
What is necessary is to say where I want to take that love, with whom I want to share it, that it grows, that it feels good ”, adds the psychologist.
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Along the same lines, César Galicia assures that you have to think of heartbreak "like a hangover" (guava or hangover).
“A binge doesn't end at the point where you finish drinking.
It ends at the last moment you feel the hangover, and you take it for granted when you decide to get super drunk.
It's the same with love, ”he explains.
As he says, a broken heart is an essential part of being in love (which in his analogy would be drunkenness), you cannot have one without the other, you cannot separate them and instead of avoiding it you have to face it.
"If you think of heartbreak as a hangover, it's easier: this is a natural part of the emotional cocktail that I got into my brain, one day it's going to end, so I have to look at how I do so that this natural process is less painful."
Go out with your friends, make time for yourself, do new activities, he suggests.
4. Add some spice to the routine: try something new
Again, this is something you can do if you are single or in a relationship.
Therapist Francie Stone had previously told CNN that "one way to increase intimacy on this date is to take a different stand on things and make everything fun."
One that she gives for those who have relationships is to make a basket with suggestive products such as massage oil, a pen, a blindfold and similar objects with the aim of awakening the imagination.
"This helps make the night playful without necessarily having the pressure of a sexual relationship," he said.
For her part, Alicia Delicia assures that Valentine's Day can be an opportunity to have a good time with yourself, getting to know yourself.
As he explains, it is usually thought "that you have to be with another person to be able to give me this kind of pleasure, an incredible experience, which is not the case and it is not competition".
Hence, I recommend exploring tastes and discovering pleasure in your own body.
A nice gift for yourself?
"Treat yourself to a sex toy," he says.
5. Hug your broken heart: heartbreak hurts physically
Broken heart syndrome is a reality and can lead to heart consequences, according to the American Heart Association.
"There are links between depression, mental health and heart disease," says the entity.
The well-known broken heart syndrome, also called stress cardiac disease, can affect you.
Even if you are healthy, says the association.
What is experienced is “sudden, severe chest pain, in reaction to an increase in stress hormones, which may be caused by an emotional and stressful event.
It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation. "
And there is more.
César Galicia points out that when something romantic doesn't happen, when we lose a person the same areas of the brain of physical pain are activated.
“A broken heart hurts.
And it hurts seriously.
The areas of the brain are also activated like an obsession, that's why you feel nervous ”, he explains.
So first you have to take it seriously and find ways to stop that pain, he says.
Then understand and process that the fact that a partner has left you or you leave a partner “does not mean that you failed”.
And this is the explanation: "We equate love with validation, so when we finish what we feel is that we are worthless, that we did things wrong and not."
Something that, in his words, you have to go re-educating, you have to let go: “If I am alone, if I do not have a partner it does not mean that nobody loves me, it does not mean that I am not worth, you have to put all the other dimensions of your life and understand that the romantic is only one of them ".
In short, that relationship and that love do not define you as a human being.
And in the end, February 14 only has 24 hours.
Editor's Note:
This story was originally published on February 14, 2021.
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