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They think you made a good first impression - and then: nothing!
You will not be called back.
As a matchmaker, I hear these complaints every day.
What's wrong
To find out, I set up a research project.
For ten years I interviewed my single customers, their former dates and randomly selected singles in bookstores, at the airport or at speed dating events.
Rachel Greenwald Right Arrow
is an Executive Fellow at Harvard Business School and has 20 years of experience as a matchmaker.
She is the founder and CEO of Elevated Connections and helps singles and executives build successful relationships, both privately and professionally.
More than 1000 people told me their story: why they got along well with someone right away, but then lost interest after the first meeting.
They told how quickly the spark jumped online, but also went out again immediately.
And they reported first impressions that were devastating.
Nice but boring
I don't like my results because they seem unfair.
But the truth is: people don't wait to make a judgment until they know someone better.
This is due to a dynamic called the "primacy effect".
In psychology, this effect is described as cognitive bias, which ensures that the first information about a person affects how we interpret later information.
In short: the first impression is important - very important.
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