Retired mother-in-law takes care of her granddaughter exhausted physically and mentally

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Written by: 01 Medical Clinic

2021-04-27 12:00

Last update date: 2021-04-27 12:00

Ms. Yu is in her 60s this year. She is married and retired. She has to take care of her daughter's half-year-old granddaughter every day from Northwest to Kowloon East. She has spent three or four hours in transportation alone, which has caused her to sleep deprived.

She came to the psychiatric clinic because of anxiety, nervousness, heartbeat, and hand tremors. She was also worried that she would be "successful" and spread the virus to her granddaughter during the epidemic.

In the past, Ms. Yu and Mr. Yu would go back to the mainland to visit relatives every few months, greet each other with relatives and friends, talk to each other, or go abroad to travel and relax in nearby areas.

Both her daughter and husband have to work, and there is no domestic helper at home, so she can only rely on Ms. Yu to take care of her granddaughter alone, but Ms. Yu said, "It is not hard to take care of her granddaughter. She is so cute and well-behaved. It actually brings me a lot of joy. "However, my daughter is a bit picky about her. Not only did she complain that she often went to the market to buy food to increase her chances of "success", but she was also forbidden to watch her favorite Korean TV drama while her granddaughter was asleep, so as not to wake her granddaughter during her nap.

Sometimes, Ms. Yu wonders if she is not doing well enough.

Written by: Dr. Xin Xuheng, School of Mental Health, Castle Peak Hospital

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The outbreak of the epidemic has more or less affected the lives of everyone around the world.

In Hong Kong, with the repeated epidemics, kindergarten, primary, secondary and middle school students have to suspend face-to-face classes and switch to online learning, while adults switch to working from home.

In order to control the epidemic, people should reduce meeting with relatives and friends and try to avoid unnecessary going out, which makes people feel lonely and lonely as never before.

The epidemic also makes it impossible to travel abroad. This is the favorite activity of Hong Kong people!

Mothers have a headache for their children not being able to go back to school. The economic downturn has also caused many businessmen to complain, and working people worry about losing their jobs every day.

Many people have accumulated depression and anxiety during this period and need to come to the psychiatric clinic for medical treatment.

In fact, since the outbreak of the epidemic, life has not been easy for everyone, so remember to take good care of yourself.

In addition to having adequate and regular work and rest time, eating nutritious food, drinking plenty of water, and doing enough exercise, you must also take care of your mental health.

In the epidemic situation, although you can't go out, you can also use this time to cultivate some interests and hobbies, such as reading, writing, cooking, painting, calligraphy, doing yoga, etc., to find fun; to take care of the clutter at home, Make the environment tidy; look at the photos taken in the past, remember the good times, look forward to or plan a journey in the future.

Although we have not been able to meet with relatives and friends for the time being, we can also keep in touch and care about each other by phone or video call.

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To treat yourself better, you can also learn "mindfulness practice", such as mindful stretching, breathing, and body scanning.

Mindfulness means paying attention to the present awareness consciously and uncritically.

And the psychology professor Christine.

Kristin Neff advocates the "self-compassion" (self-compassion) psychological healing method, which can also be used as a kind of meditation practice.

"Self-compassion" means being tolerant of oneself, accepting one's imperfections, letting go of self-blame and harsh attitudes, and regaining a peaceful state of mind.

Studies have shown that people who are compassionate and tolerant to themselves can show greater resilience and resilience in the face of various adversities in life.

"Hong Kong 01" "01 Medical Clinic" cooperated with the School of Mental Health of Castle Peak Hospital to publish a column written by medical staff every other Tuesday.

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May you calmly savour every little story, see the small knowledge, understand the heart of yourself and others, and see things and emotions more clearly.

See clearly, know how to cherish, I hope this column can soothe your emotional waves and enjoy the peace of the years.

I hope you can share this experience with the people you care about, so that you can have one more partner on the road to a better life.

The details of the story have been modified to protect the privacy of the patient.

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