District 18 News
Written by: Mo Jiawen
2021-05-08 19:12
The last update date: 2021-05-08 19:12
When the sufferings of life are layered, the mother is like the sea and the mountain, and she will be the great backer behind her dearest relatives.
Mother Zhuang, in her sixties, has experienced divorce, caring for young children, industry transformation, and elderly mothers suffering from cognitive disabilities. She chose to take the initiative to lead her relatives out of the predicament. Three generations of people joined the ranks of ecological volunteers and successfully transformed her son from interest. Undergraduate at a university, she was transformed from a purchaser into a caregiver for a home. She learned how to use her work knowledge to relieve her mother’s illness. She has been through adversity on Mother’s Day for more than ten years. She was invited to participate in the Neighbourhood Counselling Association today (8th). Share feelings.
The Neighbourhood Counselling Association was sponsored by the company and distributed 3,000 love bags to the disabled, the grassroots and the elderly, hoping to send warmth on Mother's Day and Father's Day.
(Provided by interviewee)
The Neighbourhood Counselling Association received a sponsorship of 450,000 yuan from the company. It announced today (8th) that it will hold a charity event called "Parents and Parents". It will distribute 3,000 charity bags to 3,000 institutional service users, including low-income families, people with disabilities, and the elderly. They gave gifts of daily necessities such as oil, white rice, drinks, masks, biscuits, etc., hoping to warm up on Mother’s Day and the upcoming Father’s Day under the epidemic. During the event, the organizer invited the elderly to attend, the oldest including the 102-year-old mother-in-law. And Ms. Zhuang, who is in her 60s, and her 83-year-old mother who suffers from dementia came to share their feelings.
Overcoming difficulties on Mother's Day
For Ms. Zhuang, the annual Mother's Day is to constantly overcome one difficulty after another in life.
She originally worked as a buyer, but divorced her husband more than ten years ago when her son was in the second year of primary school. The year before, she met her father who passed away. The people in the house faced "A boy has no old beans, and my grandmother has no husband." Suffering, she decided to go out and ask for help. At that time, she found that the Tian Shuiwei area where she lived lacked a suitable service center for the whole family. Even if she registered as a user of the family comprehensive service center, "This center takes care of my grandmother, and Azai goes to the opposite residence. I feel so bored again.” She later discovered that her son had a keen interest in ecology. At the time, the Hong Kong Wetland Park was recruiting volunteers, so she took her mother and son from the house to nature, and took time to sign up every weekend when she had time. Eco-tour, and signed up to become a volunteer of Green Power. A family of three generations inspected Mai Po for bird watching and Fengyuan for butterfly watching.
Nature opens up people’s hearts and at the same time opens up the eyes of her son Si'an. Although she grew up in a childhood lacking a father, she has always encouraged her son to develop interest. He originally studied at a prestigious King’s school and he had chosen a more “prosperous” career. However, Ms. Zhuang persuaded him to "be a happy person." Eventually, her son enrolled in the less popular Department of Ecology and Biodiversity of the University of Hong Kong. After graduation, he was looking for a job related to ecological conservation and gradually set off toward his ideals.
Career transition empowers care skills
However, life’s tribulations are to solve one problem and bring you another problem. Starting in 2011, Ms. Zhuang discovered that her mother was forgetful and had cognitive problems. "He tried to go to a friend’s house at 7 o’clock in the morning and returned at noon. But until 7 o’clock in the evening, I first came back, saying that it’s dark and it’s not the way to go.” Until the end of 2014, it was confirmed that she was suffering from dementia. At the same time, Ms. Zhuang was transferred from a buyer to a caregiver in a nursing home for the disabled due to industry transformation. I used to take care of severely disabled people in the treatment department and witnessed the deterioration of the patient’s physical condition. "His ability to swallow has decreased. From regular meals, soft meals, and paste meals, to the end of the throat to deliver nutrients, the situation cannot be reversed. I knew I had to keep my sick mothers active."
She decided to become a part-time care worker full-time and take care of her mother. She regularly takes her to participate in nursing center services. Professionals provide physical and cognitive training. She also takes her mother out regularly to maintain a sense of society. At the age of 83, her condition has not completely eroded her cognitive abilities, and she can move around and communicate with others freely. She said with a joke, "Social workers are so obedient and obedient, and they will not lose control of their behavior."
At the moment of Mother's Day, as a mother and a daughter at the same time, Ms. Zhuang believes that safety and health is the greatest blessing.
"Mom goes out and returns to the house all day long. Don’t remember to wash your hands. I was so excited that I would jump and talk. When I saw it, I couldn’t help but talk to me at the first time. Do you want to talk to me like that?" Protect each other's shortcomings and become the most simple and plain warmth.
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