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The 'tiktoker' Naím Darrechi has a problem, but not the one he thinks

2021-07-15T03:10:13.588Z


“I can't, it's hard for me with a condom. So I never use it ”. The statements of this idol of social networks concern not only their own actions, but the message they send to their 27 million followers


In just a few hours, Naím Darrechi has reached a level of fame even higher than that granted to him by his 26 million followers on Tiktok.

Everything has happened by work and grace of his statements during an interview on the Mostopapi influencer program.

If Mostopapi, Naím Darrechi and even TikTok are terms that escape you, do not worry, what comes next will surely bring you some familiar memory.

In the interview, the subject in question commented to the thread of his sexual relations: “I can't, it costs me a lot with a condom.

So I never use it, until one day I said: 'It's weird not having gotten pregnant like that after so many years, so I'm always going to end up inside without any kind of problem, and nothing has ever happened, and I'm starting to think I have a problem ”.

Darrechi, indeed, has a problem, but not the one he believes.

When Mostopapi - between laughs - asks him if none of the girls he has slept with say anything to him for ejaculating inside, Darrechi's response is even more alarming: he lies, he tells them that he has had surgery and that he cannot leave them pregnant

There are two hypotheses against these statements, neither is flattering. The first is that Darrechi has lied in general, that he claims to deceive women by putting them at risk of pregnancy and sexual health problems - he only contemplates a possible pregnancy, not an STD - even if it is not true. For this, it is necessary to contrast with them. The second is that he actually did it.

While we debate about the disappearance of the crime of abuse and the unification of sexual crimes within the term aggression - one of the most important changes proposed by the law of only yes is yes - and we turn around punitive populism, Darrechi's statements fall like a bomb. First, because they come to refute that illusion that indicates that youth gives the new generations a letter of conscience that we did not have. A boy, born in 2002, with all the sexual information to which those of us who were adolescents before the internet had no access, presumes of sexually abusing women (with the new legal reform, we insist, his crime would go from being considered abuse to being considered aggression).

Second, because it calls into question the sexual education that boys have access to, what kind of training those who have all that access receive in this regard, but continue to behave the same as many of those who believed in the infallibility of the Ogino method with the same faith than in the Pope's. And third, because it is probably not even a question of sex education, but a question of education, of respect. In his statements Darrechi makes it clear that he knows at least part of the risk to which he subjects the girls with whom he has sex, but he gives it exactly and chillingly the same. As much as to brag about it.

That Darrechi has 26 million followers contributes to the singer and influencer's sense of impunity. And to the terror of what minds - and of what ages - their identities are formed and forged by listening to what. We already know that idols and groupies have always been, and we can pull an infinite anecdote. For example, Kevin Richardson of the Backstreet Boys remembers in

Show 'em what you're made of

, the 2015 documentary about his group, that the only thing he can say in German is “Willst du mi reinen blasen?”, the translation of which is: “Do you want to give me a blowjob?”. But there is a huge leap between a woman (or a man) wanting to do fellatio on her idol and being tricked into having sex. The leap of consent. Because if you have sexual relations deceived about the conditions of the same, they are abusing you and explaining and insisting on this is also sexual education.

In addition, down to earth, no one has needed to be a mass idol neither pre nor post social networks, not to put on a condom when necessary, or to take it off early. We have all lived it much closer than we would like to recognize. So much so that now, like all those practices that we have seen throughout our lives, it has been given a name in English that they want us to assume as our own,

stealthing

. We have legal precedents in Spain of convictions for such a crime.

And also Anglo-Saxon is an example of recent fiction that has addressed these issues. In that modern treatise on sexual consent that is

I May Destroy You

, Michaela Coel has sex with a charming boy, a boy of those who always says hello, has a good hairstyle, smells good, has gone to a good university and has a good job. And that charm takes off the condom without warning. When she realizes when finished, he shields himself with a: “Didn't you notice? I thought you had noticed ”. Gaslight, which is as valid today as when Ingrid Bergman suffered it in the

1944

film of the same name

.

In the end, Darrechi's summary is simple, familiar and terrifying: the condom bothers me more than the possibility of getting you pregnant without you knowing it, the condom bothers me more than the possibility of catching an STD, the condom bothers me even more that the possibility that you infect it to me. Everything bothers me except the responsibilities of my actions towards others, the everlasting delegation of sexual responsibility to the woman of God's entire life. Or as Selina Meyer said in

Veep

: "If men could get pregnant, they would have abortions even at the ATMs."

We can question whether pointing out from Twitter to individuals whose guilt has not yet been proven, judge through, by the Minister of Equality are or are not relevant when it is precisely the institutions that do not need to expose possible crimes, but put them in knowledge - as has been done, of the relevant authority, in this case the prosecution - but this is still a matter of secondary order in this matter.

Darrechi is to be thanked, however, for being as irresponsible as a loudmouth and embodying that old police saying that states that a large number of crimes are solved because the culprit needs to show off and ends up counting them at a bar counter.

Now TikTok is the bar counter, because places, platforms, circumstances can change, but there are behaviors that do not change, only the way we have to sanction them and, above all, to try to prevent them.

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Source: elparis

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