How to calm old friends under the tide of immigration, psychologists and social workers have tips

Immigration prevails. Some families choose to take their elders out of Hong Kong, and some families decide to let the elderly stay in Hong Kong.

Some social service organizations have received more than 20 requests for help in the past few months, and many of them are elderly people.

Leung Chung-san, vice chairman of the Clinical Psychology Group of the Hong Kong Psychological Association, said that there are pros and cons to bringing along with the elderly to immigrate. In any case, Friends is facing adjustment problems.

If the family has already made an immigration decision, the elder should be informed as soon as possible, 3 to 6 months is better, and the elder should be involved in the process to gain a "sense of control".

Chen Jiacai, a lecturer in the Department of Social Work at CUHK, pointed out that children should pay attention to the elderly who live alone or have a history of emotional illness. For them, immigration issues are like losing the main axis of their lives, which can easily induce emotional problems.

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Inform them as soon as possible and let them participate in the decision to increase their "sense of control"

The vice chairman of the Clinical Psychology Group of the Hong Kong Psychological Association, Leung Chung-san, pointed out that the advantage of bringing along with the elderly to immigrate is that the elderly will not suddenly lose their positions and status as family members, and their children can still be taken care of.

However, whether to bring along or not, the elderly will have to face adaptation problems.

She believes that most elderly people will think that they are a drag on their children, and their emotions are often accumulated in their hearts and cannot be expressed, and children need to pay attention.

She gave several suggestions, including that the elderly should be informed of the decision to emigrate 3 to 6 months in advance, and whether they are brought with him or not, they should be prepared as early as possible.

In addition, we must also help the elderly adjust their expectations and inform them of future preparations, such as going to another country, what is the situation there, and sharing details about banking, transportation, housing, and food purchases with them, and try not to make them too complicated.

In addition, if you immigrate together, you can consider letting the elderly participate in the local immigrant community integration activities, and what is left should give him some new roles.

Liang said that appropriately involving elders in decision-making and providing local actual information for elders to read will increase their "sense of control", which is good for elders to adapt.

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Watch out for the elderly who live alone or have a history of emotional illness

Chen Jiacai, a lecturer in the Department of Social Work at CUHK, said that after retirement, the elderly have changed their status and roles, shifting their focus from work to family. The common sustenance is to assist their children in taking care of their grandchildren, such as buying vegetables and cooking, taking grandchildren away from school, etc. The daily rules of life in later years naturally have emotional attachments to children, especially children and grandchildren. Therefore, immigration decisions have shocking effects on the elderly, such as losing the main axis of their lives, especially those who live alone or have a history of emotional illness. Easily induce emotional problems.

Brothers and sisters share responsibilities, formulate rules and make regular video meetings

He reminded that if there are brothers and sisters staying in Hong Kong before immigrating, they can negotiate to share the responsibilities and increase the number of visits and fill in the care in the future.

In addition, it can also help the elderly to rebuild their social networks. For example, they can meet with relatives and friends more to "drink scare tea", strengthen the connection between their own generation of brothers and sisters, and discover interest and sustenance with them. Self-worth established at work, transition to other or similar activities.

Just like the movie "Break Out a Twilight", which depicts the orphans of the old, the network of friends and the care of children and grandchildren are very important to the elders.

Chen Jiacai suggested that even after immigrating, children should set up regular and fixed video interviews. It is recommended that at least once or twice a week, so that the elders can expect and feel respected. "Know the day of the week and what time to see." Ling Ling The elders can comfort and reduce the sadness of being forgotten, emphasizing that the most important thing for children to carry out their promises is better than seeing each other on the first day of the day, but it is difficult to maintain the gradual decrease in frequency.

Inform the elderly as soon as possible to participate in immigration decisions and increase their "sense of control."

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It is best to entrust multiple people to take care of the elderly in Hong Kong

Ms. Li, a social worker from the Caritas Integrated Family Service Center, said that although she has not received help from elderly people who are emotionally distressed by female immigrants, she has indeed received more requests for assistance in arranging elderly care from overseas.

Under normal circumstances, before children go to a foreign country, they will entrust a friend to help them take care of the situation of the elderly’s accommodation in the homes.

However, she reminded that friends may not understand the elders as well as children, such as drug allergies, medical history, etc., and may not be able to handle emergency situations on behalf of their children. "Especially the situation of the elderly has changed a lot, and the children will be healthy when they leave. not necessarily."

She said that if children make immigration decisions, they need to prepare for the elderly, such as contacting social workers related to services for the elderly, and leaving more contact information for local contacts.

She said that although the elder is already an adult, he is like a child. If he is left alone at home, he will be negligent and the children need to be careful.

Immigration crisis calls for help emerge and the elderly are consciously abandoned and left in Hong Kong. The two elders: the sons and daughters have clearly stated that they will no longer support me. Teachers are seriously lost. Farewell to tears: I will be willing to do so

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