The new crown epidemic is raging, and students can only use online classes to replace physical classes. Parents and children have been living in the same room for a long time, and conflicts have increased. An agency survey found that nearly 53% of interviewed parents and 45% of interviewed children have more conflicts due to the epidemic, nearly half It is said that it happens at least once a day, and some parents and children under long-term pressure will make behaviors that hurt others or self-harm, including taking sleeping pills. Even students who are as young as primary three do not know how to vent their emotions, so they make slap-hand behaviors. Some experts urged not to face the problem alone, and seek emotional counseling support at the right time.
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The Lion Rock Youth Chamber of Commerce and the Hong Kong Family Mediation Association visited 304 parents and 302 primary one to six students in Hong Kong from April to May this year to understand the parent-child pressure, anxiety index, psychological status and awareness of the relationship between primary school students and their parents during the epidemic .
The survey found that 53.3% of the elders interviewed and 45% of the schoolchildren interviewed said that there were more conflicts and frictions during the epidemic. 45.4% of the parents interviewed and 47% of the schoolchildren interviewed said that conflicts occurred at least once a day, mainly related to academic progress. It is related to the desire for further studies and employment, or how to allocate time for online learning, including issues such as children's immigration to other places for further education, or use of zoom to take online classes.
When parent-child conflicts occurred, 33.2% and 32.9% of the interviewed parents said they would feel grumpy and restless, and even 14.5% to 19.1% of the interviewees had negative emotions such as headaches, anxiety, affecting sleep quality, and loss of appetite.
The survey also showed that more than 70% of the parents and schoolchildren interviewed had an explosive parent-child communication pressure index, reaching a critical point of 3 to 5. 69.4% of the parents and 57.6% of the interviewed schoolchildren had intentions to self-harm and harm others. 31.9% of the parents surveyed and 58.3% of the school children surveyed have taken practical actions and have done harm to others and self-harm.
Parents are emotionally upset and most do not tend to ask for help
The Director General of the Hong Kong Family Mediation Association, Leung Shu-yu, used past contacts as examples. Some parents were under pressure to take sleeping pills, pulled their hair or beat their bodies to vent, or used verbal violence on people around them, including their parents, spouses or children, or even corporal punishment. Children, and three cases of self-harm of schoolchildren she has come into contact with recently. Schoolchildren as young as primary three used a sledge knife to self-injure themselves, worrying that in the long run they would mistakenly turn the pain into pleasure, habitual self-injury and vent their emotions. Instead of conflicting with their parents, they prefer to stay in the house and not leave the house and become a hidden youth. The percentage gap between parents and their children who self-harm or harm others is a reflection of the fact that school children are less able to deal with negative emotions than adults.
Liang also quoted survey data as saying that 70.4% of the parents interviewed and 57.6% of the schoolchildren encountered difficulties in educating their children or communicating with their parents, and generally did not or rarely seek help, lacked the awareness of seeking help, and often missed the best time to solve the problem and intervene. , When negative emotions continue to expand, there may eventually be common tragedies such as suicide and hurting people around them. The situation is worthy of attention.
In view of this, the Hong Kong Family Mediation Association and the Lion Rock Youth Chamber of Commerce jointly designed the "Anti-stress Children’s League Parent-Child Parallel Group" work plan. More than 100 families participated. Parent-child workshops, etc., enhance the ability to withstand stress during the epidemic and promote family harmony.
Children and parents quarrel: the older one sends you to a nursing home
Ms. Wang, who has two children, said that many outdoor activities could not be carried out during the epidemic, and even the facilities for going to the park to exercise were closed. Her son used his mobile phone to accompany him at home all day, and he was inattentive in class. Her son quarreled and had a cold war with each other. The pressure was so great that she had nowhere to vent. She even heard that friends were dissatisfied with their children playing mobile phones and were angry about destroying their children's electronic products.
Later, during a gathering of friends, when she heard a dispute between her friend and her child, she was complained by the other party: "I'm so disgusted with you. In the future, the older one will send you to the nursing home." Only then did she reflect on the need to deal with the parent-child relationship with her son immediately. The son participated in the "Parallel Anti-stress Parallel Group" together. During the process, he learned to listen, self-relax and relax, so as to improve his parent-child anti-stress ability and communication skills, and the relationship between the two was eased.
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