Hong Kong's immigrants have re-emerged. Since June, there have been frequent airport drop-offs and parting scenes.
Many immigrant families choose to leave Hong Kong with their children and start a new life in a foreign country. However, many elderly people choose to live in Hong Kong. The elderly have to deal with the emotions of their children leaving and adjust to daily life. This raises concerns about immigrants’ elders. condition.
Some social workers believe that before migrant children decide to leave, they should be prepared. In addition to spending time saying goodbye to the elderly, they should also plan for the actual care arrangements for their future residence in Hong Kong.
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The Hong Kong charity Anxin Club provides paid nursing escort services, out-of-office escort, hospital care and home-based services, mainly for elderly people aged 70 to 80 and relatively frail. It also uses profits to subsidize bag replacement services for discharged patients with stoma. .
In the past year, Anxin Society pointed out that the number of people enquiring about the service has been on the rise. Among them, workers, sandwich families, and elderly family members who care for the elderly are the main ones. There are also children who have migrated to other places who want to use the service. They take care of their parents in Hong Kong remotely. .
Gao Junyan, the founder of Anxin Club, said that most of the immigrant children who inquired about the service hope to find a trustworthy person to help take care of the elderly staying in Hong Kong, but they would choose to use theirs before finding a suitable candidate such as a domestic helper. The service is used for transition.
Gao Junyan thinks that it is not necessarily whether the immigration wave will increase the number of elders. She pointed out that in the past, when providing services, she also had contact with elders whose children worked or settled in foreign countries. Hong Kong is actually relatively small."
She explained that elders over 70 years old have experienced baby booms and usually have more than one child. Therefore, even if a child leaves Hong Kong, other children will take care of them.
Gao Junyan, the founder of Anxin Club, said that most of the immigrant children who inquired about the service hope to find a trustworthy person to help take care of the elderly staying in Hong Kong, but they would choose to use theirs before finding a suitable candidate such as a domestic helper. The service is used for transition.
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You should entrust the elderly to someone you can trust in Hong Kong before leaving
Gao Junyan mentioned that if children decide to immigrate, they should make good preparations, especially the elderly who live with them, because their feelings will be more profound and their daily lives will also undergo major changes. "If the core of the elderly is As a family, I get used to getting together with grandchildren every day. It's like returning to a tight job. I'm suddenly fired. I don't know what to do for a while. It's all normal."
Therefore, the children of immigrants need to plan in advance the actual care arrangements for the elderly in Hong Kong in the future, such as who is responsible for taking care of them, and who are trusted to provide assistance. I will be very concerned about the BB, and will not let it down, I will ask someone who I can trust to take care of it, and it is the same for the elders."
"Farewell, don't just say ByeBye."
In addition, Gao Junyan believes that the children of immigrants should also learn to say goodbye to the elders in the family. "Parting is a choice and can be arranged. In addition to preparing the elders' future living arrangements, they must also learn to say goodbye. Of course it takes time to say goodbye. , Don’t just end with ByeBye.”
She said that it is important to integrate your own feelings into the farewell. "Elderly people can choose not to agree with your decision, but there is no way to deny your feelings because it is your true feelings."
After migrant children tell their feelings, they also need to be psychologically prepared. "Because even if the other party accepts your feelings, it does not mean that they will agree, so the reaction of the elderly may not be acceptable to the children." She suggested that the children should reserve Enough time to say goodbye, let the elders gradually understand their thoughts, and the two sides gradually reached a consensus.
Gao Junyan believes that the children of immigrants should also learn to say goodbye to the elders in the family.
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Can frequently contact with parents in Hong Kong to express concern
Another social worker, Li Weilei, who founded the Anxin Club, pointed out that according to the cases she had contact with in the past, the elderly may not only have a bad feeling about the migration of their children. Life".
She believes that many elders understand the considerations of their children, and even after they emigrate, they can still live in Hong Kong at ease. The children of immigrants will frequently contact their parents in Hong Kong through communication software, so that the elders can feel their care.
Li Weilei took the medical escort services of institutions as an example. Many children who have immigrated are still very concerned about their parents in Hong Kong.
During the service process, we will frequently communicate with the attendant through the communication software, hoping to understand all the details of the parents during the follow-up consultation.
If the children of immigrants used to be caregivers of the parents of the elderly, the attendants will be reminded in advance of the special needs and circumstances of the elderly. I hope that the attendants can pay more attention and provide better care to the parents.
The number of elderly people will increase sharply in the next few years. Li Weilei believes that in addition to worrying about immigrants and frail elderly people, elderly people who are able to move freely also need attention.
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Facilitate the re-establishment of the neighbourhood network
The number of elderly people will increase sharply in the next few years. Li Weilei believes that in addition to worrying about immigrants and frail elderly people, elderly people who are able to move freely also need attention.
She suggested that social welfare agencies and the government can help rebuild the neighborhood network, so that when the elderly have problems, their neighbors can detect the abnormalities, so that they can get help as soon as possible.
In addition, the government can also increase the promotion of other support services to let the public know that when the elderly need help, there are other ways besides calling an ambulance. Sending to a public hospital to assist in the process of triage can relieve the pressure on the hospital's staff.
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