You met a spouse and moved in together, from that moment, in many cases - your life mixes and becomes one mass, physically and digitally in which you often become like one entity and so your acquaintances recognize you.
It starts like this, Liron Almog
But then the relationship may explode in a disgusting way and you find yourself in an ugly fight with your spouse who until a moment ago your whole world was in common.
In such a situation beyond the separation of bank accounts, electricity, mail and property, you will also need to disconnect the digital connections between you to reduce the friction.
And it turns out that it's not as easy as you might think.
By the way, sometimes you will also need to check that the other party has not installed spyware on your cell phone or computer and that it can not harm you in your accounts on the social network.
That is why we have written for you some important tips that will help you feel that at least in this area you are relatively protected.
Change all your passwords
True, you have a password manager, for example Google, but do not be lazy but go through an account and change the password, it is desirable that it be such that the ex-spouse will not think about it.
Whether it is the various social networks (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram), the various content companies like Netflix and Amazon, the various trade networks: eBay, Eli Express, PayPal and others, bank accounts, your accounts at work and of course do not forget the e-mail password and account Your Apple or Google.
Facebook is one of the most important platforms in the relationship between the couple, Reuters
No doubt this is no small hassle and maybe even a big brain confusion, but in case of a painful breakup there is no choice and you have to physically address every password in every digital domain you have ever used.
Change the answers to your security questions
You will be surprised but your exes know everything about you, where you grew up, parents' names, age, hobbies, important events as well as phone numbers of friends you have set up in case you forget your password.
In any case, in a difficult parting, you must, but you really must change the answers to all these questions.
You will be amazed at how easy it is to get into your accounts because of the answers to these security questions so you need to change them all including the numbers of friends you have left as a back door.
And yes, be creative, invent new answers that the ex can not guess.
Check all your accounts
We often have shared viewing accounts, family mobile payments or a subscription that includes the option to view or call several numbers.
In the event of a difficult breakup you need to go right through your bank account and all the payment apps and subscriptions you have made.
This separation of powers will prevent you from a lot of pain, unnecessary money loss and sometimes you will also save money because paying on a private account is often cheaper than a double bill.
In general, you should go through all the credit card accounts and standing orders in the bank account as well as all the receipts in your online mail history.
Check the status of all your home smart devices
Just like that.
Go through the cameras that are connected to the computer, the speakers, the various assistants like Alexa and Siri.
You'd be surprised how many exes continue to eavesdrop on such a son or ex-partner.
It is also a password for computer routers, smart doors, thermostats, air conditioners, refrigerators and any smart device that can be hacked into including your smart vacuum cleaner that can also easily be turned into a spyware tool.
Cancel shared memories
It will be very painful if suddenly Facebook reminds you of a shared picture from the past that today will cause you great sorrow.
The same is true of any other platform that occasionally uses past memories to remind you.
It is therefore very worthwhile here to eliminate the possibility of such painful and frustrating reminders as possible.
so what are we doing?
Go to facebook.com/memories on Facebook and select the option of hiding people, which is under Settings, at this point in the window that opens where you can type in names, write the name of the ex and save.
If you use Apple albums, select Photo settings, select Memories, select Hide people & pets, select who you want to block or prevent mentions and then go back with the arrow and you are set .
Change the login passwords for cell phones and computers
Changing passwords within different sites or network accounts is not enough.
We also need to change all our mobile access passwords, including the spouse's fingerprints as well as the same for any device that allows password entry, fingerprint or face photography.
Do not be lazy.
Change all your passwords, Reuters
On an iPhone with face recognition you need to enter settings and then face recognition and password.
On an iPhone with a login button, you enter the settings and there a touch ID and a password code.
The same as in the iCloud account that can also access all kinds of your accounts via shortcuts, here too it is important to change the password. Therefore you must log in to your Apple device to settings, your name, password and security and then change password.
On Android devices you have to do the same thing by going to settings and then security.
If you do not find the password change option in security, go to the device's manuals and look for the option.
On a computer with Windows software go to Start, Settings, Accounts, Login Options and there change the password.
Do the same with your PIN that you log into your computer with.
If the situation becomes problematic for some reason - you can simply block the other party on most existing networks so that he can not contact you at all.
You may feel bad about yourself during such deletions, yet your spouse has been with you for a long time and has been an integral part of your life, but in an age where our digital information is so important, so profound and can consequently hurt us in a way that will hurt greatly - Despite all this, this step is necessary if you want to prevent yourself from discomfort that can sometimes be even dangerous.
A pleasant farewell.
