With science it's hard to argue, and perhaps that's why 'wedding at first sight' defines the matchmaking in the program as a 'scientific match'.
Participants undergo IQ and smell tests, in-depth interviews, a group dynamics session and other shattered screenings designed to match the perfect couple from a database composed mostly of Tel Aviv Ashkenazis.
One sentence was repeated this season in episodes that presented the arguments of the experts who made up the matchmaking: "It's not what they want, but it's exactly the match they need." And if it is "scientific," and if it is based on an intrusive psychological assessment, then each character will have to deal with what is there and persevere in the inner change, even when she does not understand the connection they made to her. It is common for couples to simply not fit, but in a "wedding" it is almost impossible, because relationship experts sign the matchmaking and they will protect it throughout the process.
For example, the connection between Shai and Hadas looks like an accident that the experts anticipated.
Yael Doron warned that the bride might run away from the canopy, and Danny Friedlander immediately invited Hadas to his clinic couch and gave her a sedative call, which was to clarify how important the internal change was and why she should not run away.
"I do not believe you will run away tomorrow in the middle of the canopy," he told her repeatedly in a kind of cheap manipulation.
The next day at the wedding it was obvious that she was not comfortable, she looked for Spice, tried to flow with the bassa from the match she received, and probably also kept thinking about the same conversation with the psychologist.
Shai and Hadas in "Wedding at First Sight", Keshet 12
Because "wedding" breaks the boundaries of psychological treatment and kicks in the delicate bond between therapist and patient.
At the beginning of the season, Dr. Yael was not afraid to invade the participants' houses, rummaged in closets, was impressed by flower pots, and in one scene pressed too much on Nitzan. She slammed: "Why do you think you're alone, actually?".
The first couple had already broken up, and on the way out tried to shift the blame to the matchmakers.
Ben wondered how good they were at their job if Manor was the woman he got, while his TV ex-wife had a hard time figuring out how it was that just after she revealed to the professionals the reasons why men dump her, they finally matched someone who got scared and ran away after four episodes because of the same traits.
Four episodes earlier, when Yael and Danny got excited about the connection they made between Manor and Ben, the guest expert warned them that it would end like the failed match they made last year between Dubi and Eric.
"The gap between them is very large. He will be startled by her temperament," she told them, receiving a resounding dismissal from Yael and Danny, like megalomaniacs with immense power who are always convinced of their righteousness.
Psychologist Maayan Boiman tried to save the situation, Keshet 12
The pretense of declaring that everyone has received the perfect scientific match becomes the weak point of the program.
More than that, it causes the responsibility for its success to pass from the production and the psychologists to the exclusive hands of the couples.
For the sake of success, they are pressured to take down defenses, maneuver, create a patient's dependence on the therapist, and sometimes encourage them to stay in an inappropriate and even painful relationship.
The betrayal of basic rules of psychological treatment, pushing patients to the edge and using treatment methods designed to influence future scenes, create many situations where Yael and Danny prefer the good of ratings and TV drama over their good of their patient. It is therefore inevitable at the moment to ask: who gave them a license?
