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Nine tips for new moms and dads

2021-09-18T14:13:48.136Z


Now that I have completed my sixteenth anniversary as a mother and with tons of experiences and lessons learned through trial and error, I can affirm that motherhood has become the most exciting journey of my life.


I remember perfectly the day I found out I was pregnant for the first time.

A cocktail of feelings washed over me and made me feel enormously vulnerable.

The intense joy was mixed with a great feeling of responsibility.

Fear, uncertainty or insecurities flourished throughout the nine months of pregnancy and, at times, made me doubt if I would be capable of being a good mom.

Emotions that I fully shared with my partner and that made us realize that our life was going to change radically.

I was a fairly conventional newcomer.

I had a pregnancy without major shocks that I lived full of illusions.

Illusion to be able to expand the family together with my husband, excitement for making my parents grandparents for the first time, a very special complicity with my sisters for making them aunts.

The last months were eternal.

I got fed up with reading books on pregnancy and parenting and attended different birth preparation trainings at my health center.

We prepare our baby's room and clothes with great care and we buy many childcare things that we never use.

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The fear of childbirth often hovered over my head and filled me with great concern. Often relatives and friends explained their experience in the birth of their children that it did not help to temper my nerves. I had a delivery full of complications to which luckily the health personnel who treated me knew how to answer. I will never forget what I felt when I saw my son for the first time, when I noticed his skin, when I realized that he had been a crush for life.

The first weeks with our baby were very chaotic. I remember my despair and exhaustion at being unable to calm or understand my son when he cried non-stop. I wish someone had explained to us before their arrival that being a mother or father is the only job in the world in which you are awarded the title first and then you complete the degree! A wonderful long-distance race but full of doubts and thousands of things to learn. Because being a parent is learned as you go along with a lot of patience and dedication. Overcoming obstacles and accepting the possible mistakes that you can make due to lack of experience. Now that I have reached my sixteenth anniversary as a mother and with tons of experiences and lessons learned through trial and error, I can affirm that motherhood has become the most exciting journey of my life.An adventure of daily challenges that takes me out of my comfort zone and makes me be a little better every day.

I wish, before I became a mother, someone had given me some of these tips:

  • Know that your child is not going to have a better mom or dad than you.

    With our strengths and weaknesses, there will not be a more special and important person for him on the entire planet.

  • Learn to believe in your own instinct, in your way of loving, accompanying and protecting.

    The heart often shows us the right path to take.

    Our children do not need "perfect parents" but people who are present and available in their lives, who love them unconditionally.

  • Remember that motherhood goes far beyond deciding whether to breastfeed or bottle, if you co-sleep or decide to sleep in your room.

    Being a mother means loving without measure, giving wings to fly, awakening the will to live and learn.

  • Don't let the urgent steal your time for the important.

    Dedicate quality time to your child every day where you can play and establish spaces to speak calmly, creating bonds and complicity.

    Make him feel unique and do not forget to tell him daily that you love him without buts or pros.

  • Ask for help whenever you need it without feeling ashamed or afraid of what they will say.

    Educating as a “tribe” is much more enriching for everyone.

    Find allies who understand you, reduce your burden, and help you overcome setbacks.

    If necessary, go to professionals who can guide you.

  • Although sometimes it is very difficult to achieve it, find time for yourself, to take care of yourself and pamper yourself.

    To cultivate your hobbies or learn new things.

    Self-care is essential for good physical and mental health.

    If you are okay, your children will be too.

  • Don't go crazy buying childcare things.

    What your child needs the most are your arms, pampering and comfort.

    Your knowing looks and words that encourage him.

  • Train yourself as much as you can in education and parenting issues.

    Knowing the characteristics of the educational stage that your child lives will allow you to offer a better response to their needs and educate them from calm and respect.

  • Give your child the time to learn and the space to express his emotions freely.

    Allow him to cry, be sad, or get bored.

    Teach him to name everything he feels and to develop strategies to cope.

    Never forget that there is nothing more wonderful than our life is filled with first times.

    Enjoy each stage because our little ones grow up almost without realizing it.

  • As Meryl Streep said: "motherhood has a humanizing effect, everything is reduced to the essential".

    So may we be able to enjoy and give thanks for the most extraordinary gift that we will have in our life.

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    Source: elparis

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