When the singles of "Wedding at First Sight" came to participate in the program, they told each one individually about the difficulties and challenges they face as singles, and how much they want to solve all these difficulties and reach a world that is all good: a relationship.
The thing is, they have forgotten, or maybe they do not know that even in a relationship there are quite a few difficulties that have to be dealt with, and sometimes these difficulties are even more challenging.
There were a bunch of mistakes yesterday (Saturday) in "Wedding at First Sight": Omri who bought a sofa other than the one he asked Maayan to choose with, Omri who does not share enough what he thinks, Omri who says one thing and then does something else, and Maayan who decides to break the tools and leave everything.
Omri's main problem is that he's sure everything is clear.
For him, if he thinks of something in a certain way, it only makes sense that everyone would think exactly the same thing.
As they sit at Danny's clinic, and he raises the issue of his friends' party, he says Maayan is coming with him, too.
When Maayan expresses astonishment at this, he answers her: "It's obvious, isn't it?".
So this is, no.
Also the last time they were sitting on the couch at the clinic, and Maayan was talking about the gestures she made to him for his birthday, she told him she had not heard from him explicitly what he was thinking or feeling.
He was surprised and said he was sure he told her, but he was not.
Omri is sure everyone is in his head.
Maayan and Omri, from "Wedding at First Sight"
And this is exactly Omri's problem, since he is so sure that we are all sitting in his head and it is completely clear to us every move he makes, he does not talk much about it, and expects Maayan to understand everything on his own.
He always looks surprised when she remarks to him that she did not see things that way.
He does not understand why buying the sofa was so personal.
After all, he explained that the price was significantly higher than they thought, so he bought another sofa, even a similar one.
For him, the problem was solved ("I will not return home today without a new sofa").
It is not clear from the episode if he explained it to Maayan and she was still angry, or if the explanation came only much later.
After declaring that it is clear that Maayan is coming with him to his friends 'party, Omri changes his mind and decides that it is better for him to go alone to his friends' party.
He wants to share with them his experiences, hear their opinions and freshen up a bit.
He also explains to the camera that it is after intense intense conversations that do not renew anything.
And again Omri's problem raises its head.
For him, before it was clear she was coming with him and now it is clear she was not coming with him.
What is not clear?
His decision is legitimate.
It is natural that someone who has been in an intensive process for two weeks, and has gone through an exhausting day of conversations that do not really promote anything, will want to freshen up a bit and go out with his friends.
He tries to explain it to Maayan, but is unable to get the message across, and Maayan is hurt again.
The message he needed to convey to her was this: "I need some time with myself and my friends. It has nothing to do with how I feel about you. I still really want our relationship to be successful, but I need some time to recharge myself."
At Danny's clinic he says one thing and an hour later he says something else,
Had he explicitly told her that he was still in the same place in terms of his desire to connect with her, her confidence would not have been undermined.
She would have understood the change in his behavior and she might as well have accepted it more calmly.
Because of doing so, Maayan claimed that her trust was damaged and that she had no confidence in this relationship.
For her part, Omri says one thing ("I'll buy the couch we chose," "Come with me to my friends"), and after a short time acts the opposite way.
As a result, she loses her trust in him and the confidence in their relationship.
I'm glad for her that she came to the show.
I believe that in the next chapter the experts will force her to face the difficulties and not run away.
Because escaping is the easiest thing.
Omri touched her with bare sadness, and she immediately ran away.
This is not the right way, this is not how you create a relationship.
If you do not go into the depths of all the problems, nothing will be solved.
Get up and go only when everything is lost, not when you are angry or hurt by one situation or another.
Trust and confidence in a relationship do not form in two weeks.
Even if they are very intense.
It takes time to get to know the other side.
Omri's actions do not stem from a place of mistrust or insecurity in the relationship, they stem from dealing with situations that happen in his way after he has made a decision on his own (the price of the sofa was higher than promised, their sons' conversations weighed heavily on him and wanted to freshen up).
A person is allowed to change his mind and his decision.
The problem lies in the way he communicates with Maayan and explains to her (or rather does not explain to her) why he changed his decision.
It can be solved, but if you choose to take your things and go to sleep somewhere else, the situation that arises is much more difficult.
Remember that Itamar and Karin had a serious quarrel after the friend came to visit and claimed that Karin was a parasite who did nothing at home?
Remember what Karin said to the camera?
She said she wanted to take her things and walk away.
But she did not go, she remained to deal.
The next day they were already done and everything looked different.
Maayan chose to flee and not cope.
How do you think Omri will feel when he returns to an empty house?
He, for his part, considered her.
He asked her if it was okay for him to go alone and she answered yes.
He was wrong in his conduct, but does he deserve that Maayan run away from home?
And what if they were really married?
When Omri comes back and sees that she is gone, he will not understand what happened.
And when he realizes that she chose to go, something in him will break, and then it will be much harder to fix their relationship.
The author is the author of the practical guide to creating a relationship: "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets that have never been told to you to create a relationship. To follow, click here
