“I share my personal pain to bear the one that is falling along with our daughters and sisters. We are in this together ”. With that phrase, Uma Thurman announced on her Instagram profile to her 1.2 million followers that she had written an opinion article for
The Washington Post
where she talked about abortion and the restrictive law against it that was passed on 1 September in Texas, USA, with which the termination of pregnancy is almost completely prohibited. But to complain against that judicial decision, the actress has decided to open the channel and relate her own experience, revealing that she herself went through an abortion when she was very young, something that until now she had never revealed.
The interpreter starts her text almost apologetically: "You may not be interested in the opinions of an actress, but given this atrocity, I feel that it is my responsibility to raise my voice." Later, Thurman begins to tell how she began her career with just 15 years, "working in an environment where she was often the only girl in the place." “In my late teenage years, a much older man accidentally got me pregnant. I lived with a suitcase in Europe, away from my family, about to start a job. I had a really hard time figuring out what to do. I wanted to keep the baby, but how? ”He reflects.
Then he tells that he called home by phone and that his mother was admitted very seriously, and that his father went to his wife's hospital bed to talk with his daughter about what was happening. “We had never talked about sex before, that was the first time and it was terrible for everyone. They asked me about the situation of my relationship, which was not viable, and warned me of the difficulty of raising a baby by myself, a teenager. My childhood fantasy of motherhood was correcting itself out loud as I pondered the answers to very specific questions. I was starting my career, I had no means to give him a stable home, not even for myself. As a family we decided that she could not carry out the pregnancy and came to the decision that stopping it was the right thing to do. My heart got broken",confesses about that conversation he had with his parents. Although she does not specify the date, everything must have happened in the late or mid-eighties.
It was then an older friend who lived in Germany who offered to help her, taking her to her doctor in Cologne, where they performed an abortion with local anesthesia in which she was fully conscious on the stretcher “while the doctor, a very kind, he explained each step of the process as he progressed ”. “It hurt a lot, but I didn't complain. I had internalized the shame so much that I felt I deserved that pain, ”she says. Thurman still remembers the understanding and kindness shown by that doctor, who told him that he reminded him of his daughter. "A gesture of humanity that has remained in my mind as one of the greatest moments of compassion that I have ever experienced," he says.
“In this story there is a lot of pain. So far it has been my darkest secret. I am 51 years old and I share it with you from the home where I have raised my three children, who are my pride and joy, ”Thurman writes in his column. “My life has been extraordinary, sometimes with pain, challenges, fears and losses, like so many other women, but it has also been marked, as for so many, as strength and compassion. I have conceived my magical and beautiful children with men whom I have loved and trusted enough to bring a child into this world. I do not regret my way. I applaud and support women who choose other options. The abortion that I experienced as a teenager was the hardest decision of my life, which caused me anguish since to this day it still saddens me,but it was the path to life full of joy and love that I have experienced. Choosing not to continue that early pregnancy allowed me to grow up and become the kind of mother I wanted and needed to be. "
The actress has three children from two different couples. In 1990 she married Gary Oldman, from whom she separated in 1992 without having children. In May 1998, she married fellow actor Ethan Hawke, with whom she did have two children: Maya, 23, who is starting her acting career, and Levon, 21. The couple separated five years after marrying and She finalized her divorce in 2005. In addition, in 2007 the interpreter of Pulp Fiction and Kill Bill began dating the French financier Arpad Busson, with whom she got engaged in 2008. They broke up shortly after, but became engaged again in 2014, although their relationship ended quickly. In July 2012, the actress gave birth to a baby girl named Luna, whose custody agreement has clashed with Busson for a long time, but the interpreter ultimately won.
In his letter, Thurman assumes that he has nothing to gain from making this revelation, "and perhaps a lot to lose." But she believes that by recounting her very hard experience, she may be able to help "shed light that reaches women and girls who feel ashamed and cannot protect themselves or have someone to do so." "I assure you that no one is in this situation on purpose," he says.
For the actress, Texas law is an attack against women, a "discriminatory tool against those who are economically disadvantaged and against their partners." "Women and children from wealthy families have all the possibilities in the world and face few risks," he argues. In addition, she affirms that it pains her that this is a law that confronts citizens and that also prevents women from having children they cannot care for and "extinguishes their hopes to choose the family they want to have in the future." And to end his letter he sends a message “to all the women and girls of Texas, with fear of being traumatized and persecuted by predatory bounty hunters; to all women outraged because the state has taken away the right to their body;to all those who have made you vulnerable and who suffer shame for having a uterus ”. To all of them, Thurman says: “I see you. You have courage. You are beautiful. You remind me of my daughters ”.