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This is how Bach flowers can help your child deal with fears

Bach flowers can help your children deal with a wide range of difficulties, from fear of change to unexpected tantrums.

Here are 5 common cases - and the ways to treat them

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Shani Yaakovi Berman

Monday, 18 October 2021, 09:56 Updated: 10:16

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The 38 Bach flower extracts that are known today are extracted from a variety of plant parts: flowers, plants, trees and leaves (except for one extract) while adhering to the principle of thinning the material. Many adults today use Bach flower extracts, but few know that they are suitable for use with animals and plants as well, but the great charm and most impressive effect is in children.

The fact that the treatment presents a significant benefit in a short time, presents us with a wonderful therapeutic alternative in helping children cope with various challenges. True, it must be noted that sometimes emotional care for the child and parent is inevitable to work on the difficulty. However, it should be borne in mind that a conversation with a child psychologist or psychotherapist requires cooperation - and some children find it difficult to open up to a therapist. In addition, emotional therapy has an element of long time - which is a necessary component in the acquisition of trust - in order to achieve the desired improvement. The special advantage of Bach flower treatment is the practical workaround of this difficulty.

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This is how Bach flowers can help deal with fears (Photo: ShutterStock)

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1. Dealing with change

Children, like adults, are sometimes required to adapt to changes. Over the past two years, following the corona plague, the frequency of changes our children have had to adapt has increased, even beyond the already high frequency in children.

As a rule, most children are adaptable and with the mediation and support of the parents, they usually cope wonderfully and get used to it relatively quickly for various situations, including switching between educational frameworks, apartment transitions and the like. However, in cases where there is a load of changes, or a change that is less natural (God forbid cases of divorce or death of a close person) professional help may be needed.

The most significant Bach flower extract to support periods of change is

. This extract refines coping, supports, "wraps" and provides the protections needed to cope successfully.

If the child has begun the process of adjustment, but has difficulty coping with the changes - the relevant essence is

, Which softens the resistance to change.

- try to understand the child's difficulty and not speed it up.

Maintain a regular agenda as much as possible - the regular routine is an anchor for the children, especially during a period of change.

Walnut is great for dealing with change - especially those that came with the corona (Photo: ShutterStock)

2. Dealing with fears

Certain fears and anxieties are a normal part of a developmental stage. Thus, for example, abandonment anxiety around the age of one year, fear of loud and surprising noises, fear of the dark and monsters around the age of 4, and so on. With support, listening and giving children a sense of security, most fears will gradually pass. On the other hand, when the fear remains beyond the normative stage in development and / or when it has a paralyzing element that causes avoidance and harm to the child's routine life - intervention is needed.

Among the 38 Bach flower extracts, there are 7 extracts designed to treat fears, of which the 2 most common extracts for children's fears are Mimulus and Aspen.

- Suitable for a child who knows how to point and share the source of fear. Children who are afraid of monsters, darkness, certain animals, etc., will help with an extract that will help them strengthen their inner courage in facing the fears.

- Compared to the mimulus, it is an extract suitable for a child who experiences sudden fears and not from a concrete source that he can explain, fears that land for no understandable reason and can often even cause nightmares at night.

The essence will help the child to feel inner security and peace and to keep away from himself the episodes in which fear takes over "out of nowhere".

try to give children legitimacy to tell about their fears and give them the confidence that you are here to help them cope.

Avoid phrases such as "you have nothing to fear".

These only make it difficult for the child and make him feel in addition to fear also frustration that they do not understand.

Mimulus extract helps children who are afraid of monsters (Photo: ShutterStock)

Dealing with tantrums

A tantrum is an emotional outburst that results from feelings of anger / helplessness / frustration.

The tantrum often manifests itself in shouting, crying, aggression, throwing objects and sometimes even slipping into situations of violence.

It usually takes time, both for children and their parents, to relax from the attack.

The most clearly suitable extract for treating anger conditions is

.

It is an extract that helps children regulate themselves.

It supports inciting the inner strengths for self-construction instead of getting out of the way.

try to examine and learn what helps your child relax: for example, there are children who help them touch and hug - and there are others who actually make it easier for them to stay alone.

Cherry Plum will help with tantrums (Photo: ShutterStock)

4. Dealing with low self-esteem

At any age it is possible to improve and increase self-confidence, but it is certainly easier to do so in childhood, when the personality is still shaping and our parents' ability to influence is higher. The price paid by children with low self-esteem may be expressed in social and educational difficulty. Fear of failure may delay their progress.

Two Bach flower extracts that may be relevant are

and

.

Centaury (Centaury) is an extract suitable for lecturing children, who have difficulty standing on their own.

They will usually prefer to say "no" and avoid confrontation, for fear of disappointing those around them.

This essence will help them to connect with themselves, to recognize that their desires and needs are no less important than those of others.

The Larch is an extract suitable for shy, "spineless" children, children who suffer from feelings of inferiority.

With the help of this extract, they will be able to recognize their virtues, which will later lead to improved self-image and building self-confidence.

Allow the children to participate and help with household chores and encourage them on every experience.

Look for a hobby that the child is good at and help him develop and improve at his own pace.

Centaury and Larch are great for improving self-confidence (Photo: ShutterStock)

5. Dealing with Perfectionism

Some children demand of themselves to be no less than perfect.

They set themselves too high standards, rigid self-discipline and they will criticize themselves whenever they do not meet the standards they have set themselves.

The extract whose effectiveness is most pronounced in this case is the

softens and soothes, allows self-compassion, removes blasts and helps with flow.

show the children that you are also wrong and set an example for dealing with failures.

For example, try sharing and telling about a work malfunction or a burnt cake.

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