François Jolivet is LREM deputy for Indre.
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Her name was Dinah.
She was a 14-year-old girl carried by the carefree lightness of her youth.
Finally, a young girl in her own right with her convictions and her differences.
Like everyone else, she had that extra something that made her unique.
According to Samira, her mother, Dinah loved life and her joy was noticed by all.
His smile was bright, communicative.
She was very close to her brother, Rayan.
His testimony, on October 25, 2021 on the set of “Touche pas à mon poste!”, Is overwhelming.
Rayan played the role of big brother, confidant, pillar in Dinah's life.
Together, whatever happens, in happiness or in hardship.
She was a daughter and a sister, but despite herself becomes the face of a plague.
Francois Jolivet
And yet, despite her solid family base and personal qualities, on October 5, 2021, Dinah ended her life.
She was a daughter and a sister, but despite herself becomes the face of a plague.
A scourge that breaks families every year.
There is nothing more traumatic for a parent than losing a child.
The death of a child is not a natural event and carries immeasurable pain.
My thoughts are with those families who heal their wounds, knowing that they will never be truly healed.
Every year, bullying steals the carelessness of 700,000 young people and damages them for a long time.
Since the start of 2021, 18 young people have also cracked under his weight.
However, the suicide of a young person has almost become commonplace in our country.
A news item, which sometimes makes the news but most often falls into oblivion.
Rather, this act of ultimate desperation should alarm society.
We cannot accept that our future, embodied by youth, commits suicide.
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And exactly, what happened to Dinah?
Students from his college decided to make it their own pain, making his daily life hellish and therefore unbearable. This young girl could not cope with the constant harassment she suffered at school and on social networks. No one is made to carry such a burden. To date, the prosecution has opened an investigation for harassment. If nothing can bring Dinah back, the company at least owes justice to her family. She is undoubtedly the symbol of all those who have not had the right to it before her.
Already, the testimonies of her mother, her brother, show how much Dinah was destabilized by a group of students who had built her a hell of life.
At school, his thirst for knowledge had become his handicap.
In a Whatsapp loop, she was the victim of mockery, name calling and racist comments.
His attraction to girls, confided modestly to his friends and then made public, had also become the engine of his ordeal.
The omnipresence of social networks casts the shadow of bullying outside of school time, right up to the home.
Francois Jolivet
The future which stretched out its arms to him darkened.
It wasn't Dinah who burned her wings, it was the others who cut her off.
The professors, the teaching staff, undoubtedly destitute, did not know how to help him. The family had however alerted the management team of the establishment. Bullying at school should never be minimized, invisible or ignored. Dinah's death reminds us of this. Yes, we all bear some responsibility for this tragedy. It is therefore up to society to seize on this sometimes unknown, sometimes hidden and often misunderstood reality. Bullying at school is nothing new, but the path it takes today leaves no respite for the victim.
The omnipresence of social networks casts the shadow of bullying outside of school time, right up to the home.
It is a real “continuum” of violence, which generates constant pressure leading to the suffocation of the victims.
Hidden behind a keyboard, uninhibited, the stalkers let off steam without limit on their prey, without distinguishing the real from the virtual.
Destroying seems to have become a game, harassing victims dehumanized by networks, the rule.
And yet, Dinah's death is very real.
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While social networks occupy a central place in our daily lives, no one seems to understand their effects in society. They are very often at the heart of controversies, attacks and revenge. They seem to escape the control of their own creators, overwhelmed by the mass phenomenon. While social media isn't inherently bad, it is diverted from the best to do the worst. And in the hands of a youngster, the ability to reach anything and anyone with just a few clicks can be disastrous.
In this area, the State and the laws cannot do everything. As often, we come back to the role of parents. Before putting a cell phone in the hands of a child or young person, it is essential to make them aware of its dangers. Having a phone, registering on a social network, is no longer a trivial act. The role of the school is also major in this learning. It is urgent to require schools to plan educational time intended to better understand the Internet, social networks, online games, the uninhibited violence of certain television series, the weekly time spent on screens ... If these initiatives have instead tendency to generalize, they must become the rule.
Beyond the educational staff, the medical profession, in regular contact with young people, must also play its role of whistleblower of inner suffering.
Francois Jolivet
School principals, teachers and teaching staff must be trained to detect "weak signals" of a student's discomfort, and, where appropriate, to know how to listen and talk to him.
It takes a shock of speech release.
Dinah's act must provoke it, and allow the administration to learn from its shortcomings.
In fact, in the future, we must act more in anticipation than in reaction.
Beyond the educational staff, the medical profession, in regular contact with young people, must also play its role of whistleblower of inner suffering.
I also allow myself to support the request of the association "Hugo!", Specialized in the fight against school bullying, which calls on the local communities to mobilize more resources and to associate all the local actors around objectives. identified and time bound.
On this subject too, fear and shame must change sides.
To conclude, I quote a passage from the book
Un enfer scolaire
by Matthieu Meriot, a victim of school bullying: “
Protect your children, watch over them, talk to them.
If they are bad they won't necessarily tell you, don't wait until it's too late!
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This forum is dedicated to Dinah's family, his relatives, and all the victims of harassment.