"Wedding at First Sight": Why does Itamar and Karin's relationship not work? | Israel today

In a personal conversation between Karin and Einat, the two talk about their relationship in "Wedding at First Sight."

Karin shares with Einat that Itamar is everything she asked for, but it still does not work.

She reveals to her that they are different, which attracts her and is challenging in her eyes, but causes them a lot of friction and problems in the relationship.

They do not always manage to solve the problems and often push them aside, which in her opinion will cause an explosion in the near future.

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Einat, who has created a reputation for innocence in the program, turns out to have deep insights in the field of relationships, and dwells with her on the matter of difference.

She explains to her that the similar one is the one that connects her to Liron.

That because they are so similar (almost frighteningly so to her) Liron understands her, manages to contain her (and she is the same) and thus many frictions between them are avoided.

Even in a meeting with Shani and Danny, Einat asked them if their connection was similar or different.

Also the name of the essay was mostly based on the difference, and yesterday we saw where that led them.

The similarity between them connects them.

Liron and Einat, Photo: From the program

The conversation about the similar preference over the different in a relationship reminded me of a lecture by Prof. Yoram Yuval that I was in in the past, in which the professor talked about the secrets to a successful relationship.

In the lecture he said that studies show that if we want to create a good relationship for ourselves that will survive for years, we must find someone who is similar to us in most traits, but fundamentally different from us in one trait.

Apparently this is what the experts did with Liron and Einat, and probably forgot to do with a considerable part of the other couples, this season and maybe also in previous ones.

It does seem that at the matching stage the experts are trying to find the similar, but if they rely on the visibility of two people's apartment to decide if they are similar or not, it's not good enough.

A shared love of yoga has also been found to be insufficient to create a relationship.

Really in love?

Liron and Einat, Photo: From the program

It's not that different spouses can not connect and create a successful relationship, but that it's more difficult and complex.

Attraction is very important, but over the years it diminishes, so the deep friendship, mutual understanding and common interests are no less important.

If we find ourselves a person who is more similar to us than different, we have a higher chance of forming a successful relationship with him.

To the attention of experts next season.

The author is the author of the practical guide to creating a relationship: "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets you have never been told to create a relationship.

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