Many women believe that on the day they want to expand their family, they will be able to conceive easily and embrace a soon-to-be soft born.
Some women will get pregnant already in the first attempts, some women may experience miscarriages and some it will take months and even years to fulfill the dream and hug a baby in their lap.
Single women, women in relationships, from any segment of the population and at any age may experience difficulties in trying to conceive and as a result undergo fertility treatments most of which will end in a normal pregnancy and full hands.
At the same time, the path to a healthy pregnancy can be full of bumps and the way to deal with them begins with proper preparation.
You need a supportive environment
"The gap between the thought of the dream come true and the painful reality accompanies many patients, but those who receive broad support cope better with the process," explains Dafna Zehavi, who coaches and accompanies women in fertility processes.
"Some patients feel very lonely in the process. In the family, at work, between friends, sometimes even in front of their partner. The environmental expectation of success increases the feeling of loneliness, so they are afraid to share with their immediate environment about the progress of the process."
The emotional accompaniment takes place in a line parallel to the fertility process and serves as a connecting thread between the therapist and the doctor between sessions.
"The emotional training process includes an introductory meeting that can be done face to face or online. I will often meet the patients at Dr. Moshe Roibort's clinic, where the first buds of personal connection germinate and later the training becomes individual.
The training sessions are accompanied by a general acquaintance with the system, when there is an agreement between the patients and Dr. Roibort regarding the sharing of medical data in order to mediate the patient's knowledge and answer her questions in a short time. I found this method easier come".
How will this be reflected?
In guidance and mediation of desire versus reality - explanations regarding coordinating pumping dates, improving communication with medical staff, understanding that there is a very large system around the process and broadening the perspective - a significant tier among patients, who are very focused on the process itself and find it difficult to contain the whole picture.
"I often help patients with various administrative issues, such as twin tests and various mediations, in order to be there with every difficulty - emotional and administrative."
Action plan and timelines to raise awareness
The way to make it easier to cope with the fertility processes is to create a work plan on the timeline in order to address the woman's broad needs during the treatment period.
"The work plan I build with the patient includes referring to other professionals, such as a dietitian in cases where it is necessary to balance metrics or maintain a balanced diet, referring to a psychologist if there are shocks flooded during the sessions - from my point of view as a coach this is the most professional decision. "There are old beliefs that no longer serve the patient and often rely on a family history that is irrelevant to the patient's own narrative.
Women who have difficulty conceiving often hear that all they have to do to get pregnant is be less stressed and even "release" from trying to conceive - how true is that?
"Obviously calm creates a higher emotional appeal, but at the same time these are very stressful statements, as they have an aspect of guilt - and this is the last thing a woman needs at this stage in her life. We use Bach flower extracts, breaths, meditations, creativity, physical activity, conversations and professional mediation of knowledge in order to dispel concerns. "
"The treatment process encourages the patient to believe in herself and her abilities. I will note that there is often a launching point between a lack of self-confidence in my body's ability and a lack of self-confidence in other areas, and we are working on this important aspect."
Is it possible to restore the self-confidence of a patient who has experienced harsh statements such as "your eggs are no longer good" or "you will not be able to conceive from your eggs?"
Definitely yes.
I meet many patients who come to the process with apprehension, doubt and distrust in their ability to succeed.
In the training process in the training method I developed, I walk with the patient to improve all areas of her life (if necessary of course) such as: in relationships, at work, in everyday habits, in the small things that bring satisfaction and in order to expand the mind itself and not just focus on treatment Thereby improving the sense of ability and security. "
Find the anchor point
Patients who come to the process when their areas of life are disorganized, experience greater difficulty in coping.
It is therefore important to help them find the anchor point in order to experience well-being and optimism.
"Many patients experience the treatment process so powerfully that they stop working. The goal of the training is to help them return to normal, return to proper eating, persevere in exercise and connect their wholeness as human beings into the process - when life is complex the natural tendency is to sink. The whole picture prevents this sunset and helps in a better deal. "
There are cases in which patients choose to hide their fertility treatments from the workplace and the immediate environment, often due to the fear that they will have to share failures and pain - how to deal with loneliness and loss of trust in the environment?
"Many times the process is unbearable when you go through it alone. It is not pleasant to return to work or tell a company that I tried again and it did not work, sometimes there is a need to hide things. The very existence of an open dialogue with a medical person The emotional, the deliberations and the anxieties make the period very easy. Anyone who feels she has to talk - do not hesitate. You must talk about it, understand that the truth is in everyone's personal data and most importantly - know that there is someone on the other side Or video call. "
Do you have a question?
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Is it allowed to choose differently and end the process?
"With all the pain involved the answer is yes. It is permissible to make such a decision, it is possible and it is a very important point in the process. The decision whether to continue or not expresses the personal worldview and it is important to respect and accept it. The change in the new route. "
Dafna Zehavi is an educational counselor, an emotional counselor for fertility patients with professional tools for empowering emotional work.
In addition, Dafna is certified as an integrative personal trainer, engaged in parent guidance, lecturer and workshop facilitator in the field of personal skills development, time management and life skills.
For an introductory call, contact: 054-9199161
"The treatment process encourages the patient to believe in herself and her abilities."
Dafna Zehavi, Photo: Private album
