The fourth season of "Wedding at First Sight" ends this week, and it's time to examine what we learned, because what's beautiful about the program's format is that anyone can identify with any of the participants, and anyone can learn something from what we saw on screen about real life.
So what did we learn?
Do not be afraid to fall in love
One of the recurring motifs throughout the season is the fear of falling in love.
All participants, as well as a significant portion of the viewers, experienced many disappointments and heartbreak, and naturally, this experience causes us to keep our heart and not allow ourselves to open up, dedicate ourselves and fall in love.
Yael talked about it several times during the season in front of Karin, Nitzan and Einat, and Shani also talked about it a lot in front of the camera.
In the end, if you do not take the risk, you will not make a profit.
It is true that on the way one can fall again, be disappointed, hurt and even break down, but one can also succeed and feel the most wonderful feeling in the world, and that is to fall in love with someone who loves us back, and for that it is worth the risk.
How did Shani say yesterday?
"Pain goes on."
It is impossible to keep the heart and find a relationship, because when we keep it, we do not feel the positive and wonderful feelings we are supposed to feel when it happens to us.
Not examining with ourselves every moment what we are feeling and where we are in a relationship
Danny's anxieties did not allow him to get to know each other in depth and enjoy the connection between them, at such a level that emotion could develop.
Maybe somewhere else or at another time he could have fallen in love with her, but since from the moment of the canopy he expected to feel butterflies and fireworks and it did not happen to him, he got into anxieties.
Danny and Shani, Photo: Keshet 12
Throughout the season he was constantly preoccupied with his anxieties and internally whether the emotion was already arousing or not.
But emotion can not arise when we sit and watch our heart with a magnifying glass and ask it every morning: "Well?".
Charity II when she tried to distract him from these troublesome thoughts and create shared experiences with him.
Because that's how it is in life too: we enjoy togetherness, gain shared experiences and suddenly notice that our heart jumps and flutters.
Danny could not really let himself go.
The heart has its own rules
Everything she asked for.
Karin and Itamar summarize the connection, Photo: From the program, Keshet 12
Both Shani and Karin repeat over and over again this season that the partner they received is everything they asked for and wanted.
Itamar and Danny also compliment their daughters and say that they have a partner who has everything they want in their partner, and even far beyond their expectations.
And yet - it does not happen.
Again we get proof that love is not an exact scientific study or mathematical formula, and no matter how much they try to analyze and decipher it, it is still mysterious.
The heart turns out to have its own rules.
Which means that even if we do everything right, it may just not work for us, and there are not always culprits.
Just because someone says he's ready for a relationship does not mean he's really there
Was not really ready for a relationship.
Omri, Photo: From "Wedding at First Sight", Keshet 12
Both Danny and Omri were found to be men who were not really ready for a relationship.
Maybe today, after the show, they are in a place with a higher readiness to create a relationship in their lives, but at the point where they were photographed they were not there.
It is likely that neither of them was aware of this when he came to the show, and that they both genuinely wanted to form a relationship.
But sometimes there is a gap between our will and our ability, and sometimes, only when we are within the process itself will we realize that there are things within us that hinder us and do not allow us to create a relationship.
Yael also said about Omri and Maayan that if they were friends now, there is a high chance that they would have succeeded.
So apparently timing is really aberration.
Not all good love requires hard work
Sometimes it just flows and is easy and great.
Here, look at Einat and Liron.
Not that there is no work to do, but the work is easily done in a natural and fun flow.
They may have been the boring couple of the season, but in the end most of us want to have no far-reaching dramas or quarrels in life, and that's what Einat and Liron have.
The end is always the beginning
The end is always the beginning.
Danny and Shani, Photo: Keshet 12
Like that song: "Better, worse, don't know what else, something else."
And something else is always good because it teaches us something more about ourselves and brings us even closer to the coveted relationship.
Many of the contestants in previous seasons formed a relationship with spouses outside of the show after the filming ended.
Shani thus sees her parting from Danny, and that's the right way to see it.
We do not have just one that suits us.
There are a lot of options out there, and eventually it will come.
Also for two.
Here, to the spring it has already happened.
The author is the author of the practical guide to creating a relationship: "From all my educational educators" - all the secrets you have never been told to create a relationship. To follow, click here
