"Struggle Day for the Prevention of Violence Against Women" is announced one day a year, but some women experience violence in its various forms 365 days a year.
For them, every day is a day of struggle - getting up in the morning, swallowing the pain, continuing to broadcast that everything is fine, even though everything is really wrong.
When talking about gender-based violence, most people will associate violence with physical or sexual abuse.
However, many of us fail to imagine why mental, financial or technological abuse is considered violent.
Even the women who experience these types of violence do not necessarily recognize the violent aspect because there are no "blue marks".
Even when there are no marks on the body, it is a huge injury and pain, which will continue to accompany the victims for many years.
The recurring question is - why does she not leave?
The answer is very complex, because the violence usually does not come immediately, and does not start immediately with strong intensity.
It permeates slowly, is gradual and characterized by a variety of forms, some deceptive and elusive.
When we ask women if in retrospect they detect red lights, the answer is "yes".
But when it happens to you you do not necessarily notice, especially when the violence comes under the guise of caring for the wife, home, children and family.
This exaggerated "concern" is actually control - and control is achieved by activating terror and terror within the relationship.
How can a woman recognize that she is experiencing violence?
If you are afraid of your partner, if you feel uncomfortable in his presence, if you behave unnaturally or adapt to his "requirements", if he has exclusive control over all financial resources and the bank account - these are signs that indicate a problem, and we recommend consulting a wife profession.
Many victims of violence keep it a secret - shame, or because they think it is a personal problem that they will be able to solve on their own.
But over time the problem worsens, and the violent behaviors escalate.
The solutions are outside the marital system - in information, legislation and enforcement - as well as in multi-system therapy, which includes creative responses that are adapted to the sensitive situations that characterize both the victims of violence and the perpetrators.
The author is the director of the "Female Spirit" association, which promotes economic independence for women affected by violence.
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