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Toxic parents: spot them to free themselves from their grip

2021-11-29T19:24:12.060Z

Many children who have become adults have an unhealthy relationship with their father, their mother, in vain begging their approval, their love.



The SMS arrived one afternoon in October, she was doing the dishes with a limp hand, tired by painful thoughts, turned towards this "

moron

", as often. “

Actually, I thought about it,”

a friend wrote to her

. He's poisonous, mean. Frankly, can't you avoid it a bit?

Something like that, Paloma can't remember in detail. She smiled weakly, replied "

Complicated: it's my father eh."

Then she cried, sitting on her bed. You don't chase your father out of your life for saying that your spouse supported you by "

obligation

" or that you had from birth, it's funny, no, a character "

a little

perverse, finally manipulative ...

".

Not when he has housed you for twenty years, laundered, fed you, without counting the studies which he paid without reluctance, is not it?

At 32, this teacher in Seine-Saint-Denis is stuck in a toxic relationship.

In the family context, this fashionable psychological label designates "

a relationship of alienation where the child, despite being the victim of the bond, is ready to go to war against himself in order not to hurt his parent whom he considers that" he obviously wants his own

, ”explains psychologist Emmanuel Ballet de Coquereaumont.

Where the child is ready to believe that it is not so bad to come out of family meals with a head as big as a melon, your self-esteem in mush.

“Society tells us that an abused child is a beaten child, locked in the cellar.

"

- A woman on the Toxic Parents Instagram group

Since

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Source: lefigaro

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