This week we saw the spin-off episode of "Wedding at First Sight": "Manor is Looking for Love."
After her (and us) heart broke already at the beginning of the wedding season, the production prepared an entire episode just about Manor, during which she went out to meet four potential men for a serious relationship.
There is no doubt that Manor has entered most of our hearts.
She is authentic, energetic and really and sincerely wants to find love.
Simply, somehow, it does not work for her.
Contrary to the season experts' statements, that the success of the program is measured either or mainly in the process that the participants go through (there is nothing to do, one must find a way to avoid the failure of the matches), many critics claimed that Manor did not go through any process.
Does she have to go through a process to find a relationship?
Not necessarily.
Not everyone who does not find a relationship needs to work on themselves, research inwardly, look for inhibitions and find what is wrong with them.
In a significant number of cases, it is the communication and understanding of the other party.
The problem is that no one explained to Manor, and many like her, where the mistake was.
How will you learn?
That's exactly what we came together for this time.
For the most part, one date is not enough
Manny, Photo: Keshet 12
Even before the date with Manny, the first man, Manor disqualified him.
for whatever reason?
He flew over her and was too enthusiastic about her opinion, and also because he lived in Petah Tikva, which would require her to move to live in this city.
The thing is, the decisions here were too hasty.
On a first date you can not really meet anyone.
We see only its end, just as we too express only a small part of ourselves on a first date.
Manny came ready and loved Manor's energies, and it could very well be that he was just trying to adjust himself to the energy level to please her.
Yes, he was enthusiastic, but Manor also got excited about Ben as soon as she saw him in the canopy and flew towards him at 200 mph.
What further took her away from him were the conversations about Petah Tikva, and about the fact that something revolutionary had to happen to make her move to live in this city.
When you fall in love, you are ready to turn worlds, and even Manor told me that she moved to live abroad for love. Can be solved later.
Conclusion to continue: Give another chance and do not outright disqualify.
On the other hand, understanding from a date with Manny that it also works the other way around: when you show a man that you want him too much it takes him down.
disinterest
Adam, Photo: Keshet 12
Once the other guy, Adam, stated that he had not seen the show, he was actually conveying a message of condescension, or at least of disinterest.
After all, if he does not know her, what is he coming for, for television?
And did not do any homework, but even during the date he did not seem to be overly interested in her.
When you get home feeling like you did not have fun on a date, it's time to move on.
There really was no reason here to give another date a chance.
Following the first conclusion, the opposite situation happened here from the first date.
When you do not show the other side that you are already his, it attracts him to make an effort to make you want him, just as Manor felt after the date with a man.
One of Manor's big mistakes in front of Ben in my wedding, was her desire to move forward quickly, while she says and shows him all the time how much she is interested in him.
This very behavior of hers left him no room to woo or conquer.
From the beginning she was already his, so he lost interest quickly.
As she continued with aggressive enthusiasm it caused him to develop an anti towards her.
Do not accept
Kobe,
Contrary to Manor's expectations of herself, she decided to give Kobe, the third man, a chance.
He is indeed a lawyer, and for some reason she decided that lawyers were out of bounds, but went for it.
I loved when she listened to her dad's advice, counted to ten and saw that it worked.
At the end of the day, she saw that there was potential.
Her mistake was that she went out at the same time as Yossi.
Once we have multiple options, we may get confused.
For every choice we make there are two possible mistakes: that we have chosen the wrong person or that in fact our choice we have missed the right person.
This is what happened to Manor.
Once Yossi came into the picture, she could not really focus on Kobe and his benefits.
She was blinded by Mucci, so there was no point for her to continue her relationship with Kobi.
Conclusion to continue: In a world with countless possibilities, it is advisable to focus and give each and every one a full opportunity.
Not to accept and compare, but to see each person as a potential in their own right.
Appearance is not a measure
Yossi, Photo: Keshet 12
Manor came on a date with Yossi, and shortly after he started, the latter passed a sharp, condescending and unpleasant critique on her.
For some reason, Manor decided to restrain herself and move on.
It is interesting to know if he had any more such critical speeches later in their relationship that do not see enough to know.
Nice that she decided to restrain herself, but the question is why, because of his appearance?
Conclusion to continue: It is important to focus on looking for relevant traits that are not dependent on appearance, a similar outlook on life and aspirations that are appropriate for your own.
It was hard to see if they really had anything in common because anyway, we saw the tip of the iceberg of two dates, but since rumors say it ended quickly after it started, it can be understood that it probably did not.
Eventually, we saw on screen a man who is thirsty for love, so thirsty that she is willing to change, despite her statements that she wants someone to love her as she is.
We all want to be loved as we are, there is no crime in that.
The program was not as satisfying as in "Loving Anna" with Anna Aronov, in which there was professional accompaniment, and indeed this is how Anna learned from her mistakes.
Do we smell an idea for a new program here?
We lifted for a discount.
All the tips that appear in the article and many other tips for creating a relationship can be found in the practical guide to creating a relationship: "From all my educational suitors." For more details: On Facebook - Daphne Teller - from all my educational circulars on Instagram - @dafnatel
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