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Groom of Joy: Itamar Ami Returns Fire Israel today

2021-12-03T04:13:19.479Z


The "trending" editorial, the critique columns, the vicious talkbacks, and also the rumors about a restraining order for Karin • Itamar Ami, probably the most attacked groom in the history of "Wedding at First Sight", talks about everything • "The distance between who I really am and how I was presented on the show is huge"


Two important questions bothered the viewers of "Wedding at First Sight" this week: which of the couples stayed together, and whether Itamar Ami issued a restraining order against Karin Schneiderman.

On the first question, viewers received the expected answers.

To the second question, Ami answers decisively: "It was not and was not created. This is the strangest and funniest rumor, because you can go to the police station for a second and there they will see that there is no such order. Believe me, this is nonsense."

And if there was an order, would you tell?

"Yes. I would not lie."

So how did the rumor start?

"I have no idea where it started from, but I heard it from every possible direction."

• • •

Ami, 33, lives in Tel Aviv and works in high-tech sales.

He was born in Pisgat Ze'ev in Jerusalem to Itzik (62), a banker at the Bank of Jerusalem, and Michal (57), a successful hitmaker.

"She's a woman from the shoulder up," he boasts.

"A strong woman with a career of more than 30 years in high-tech, but in the show they chose to show only her fish pot."

He has a brother and sister: Maayan (36), who works as a team leader at HP, and Noam (23), a bartender at a bar in Tel Aviv.

When he was 13, his family moved to Modi'in, and eight years ago he took the necessary step toward the big city.

Ami is one of the most talked about and infamous stars in the last season of "Wedding".

He came to the show two years after recovering from a wedding cancellation and thought of finding love on screen - but from here it all got complicated.

"I was after a four-year relationship, we got engaged, and we canceled everything two months before the wedding," he recalls.

"We already had a hall, rabbi, DJ. I came out of this separation completely crushed. I did not go out on dates for half a year. My self-confidence was destroyed."

Is reality the solution?

"I thought there was something here that I could gain for life from the more therapeutic side, and the process you go through. We all dreamed of ending like Hagar and Nir. But there are more things on the way, even if it doesn't end in a real relationship. I thought there was serious and accelerated therapy I have my heart. "

The experts found a match for Itamar, and a few weeks later he had already settled under the canopy.

And he did not just show up: Ami starred in the premiere episode of 'Khatunami', where he was portrayed as one groom that two brides "fight" over.

Even then it was easy to understand that in the production we built on him as one of the interesting participants in the season.

"The way they chose to present me, as an ideal groom who has everything, was not to my taste," he says.

"Who determined that a white man who works in high-tech is a 'privilege' who does not work hard? My family is the second Israel to build itself with ten fingers, but it was more convenient to present me as one who comes from a home that has everything.

"Nor did I feel comfortable being portrayed as being talked about. Somewhere, consciously, a feminist woman or a man who is the opposite of me in advance will not like who they see, and that does not reflect my daily life.

"I've never had a problem getting dates, but I do not live in the feeling of someone that everything comes easily to him. I want family and children, and to present myself like that in front of what I broadcast and really want, it's crazy dissonance."

Did you know it would be presented like this?

"I discovered it in a promo together with all the people of Israel, and I also told the production that I did not like it."

Did you tell the ex that you were going to go to the show?

"I told her before the broadcast that this is the gentlemanly thing to do, so as not to be surprised. I met her by chance in the middle of the season and after the storm started, and she was shocked by the huge distance between who I am and what was happening on the net, she reacted to me completely."

In the second episode, the bride chosen by the experts, Karin Schneiderman, 30, an ambitious hitmaker like him, entered the picture, and the connection between them seemed immediate.

"From the beginning, they saw me say 'wow.'

"The weeks before the canopy, they have an unbearable tension because you just want to see something you connect to. You know that whoever gets out of there is going to affect you for the next two months and maybe for the rest of your life. I saw she looked good and was relieved. It was an adrenaline rush."

Karin is someone who would have grabbed your attention even outside of the show?

"She looks good, but in the end when you look at a person at a bar, for example, there's a vibe and energy thing, and our vibe is very different. So I do not know how much it would have worked if we had met at random."

Your start looked good.

"At first there were no clashes because we discovered a lot in common, and we both also came out of a meaningful relationship. After we got back from the honeymoon to real life we ​​discovered the gaps between us, how we live life, how we see relationships, and they were deep gaps."

What did you do when you found out?

"The first thing I did was communicate it. We talked about it, and Karin told me she felt the same way. I reminded myself of Itamar sculpting things too quickly, and I focused on the process and trying to bridge the gaps."

"Our wave is very different."

With Karin Schneiderman,

After a few less successful incidents, such as when he asked Karin to walk around the house in a sweatshirt and remove her makeup - two things she did not feel comfortable doing - Ami became the "violent", "aggressive" and "narcissistic" man in Israel from this season's coveted groom, to quote some of the reactions Received in networks.

The TV review writers and opinion columns did not spare him, the surfers entered it in talkbacks and even the large WhatsApp group of viewers of the show, in which the participants analyzed the episodes and the couples, was closed following extreme reactions from some of the viewers against it.

"I knew there would be better and less good moments on the show, but I did not think it would go there," he admits.

"In the end, from everything they saw on the show, even in the famous training incident, there were my attempts to bring Karin closer to me even if it came out crooked. I opened it with her, and that day I also apologized for treating everything insensitively. But it was all an attempt to fight us."

Were there also fun moments?

"Yes, a lot. There were times we met without cameras, I was with her parents, I visited her at work. You could tell a story that there was a relationship here that built the two of us very much, but chose to tell something different.

"People need to understand that our relationship was thousands of hours of dynamics, and in the end only showed highlights, not even a percentage. They chose to show the sweatshirt, not the places where we were able to really get close.

"Ultimately, there is someone in the editing room who has to tell a story, and carefully choose the passages that will make his story the best for him, and I have no control over how they will see us and what interpretation people in the house will give to what they see."

Did you think to stop the process in the middle?

"It was a very complex process, but I am not one who does not give a chance, even when I saw that emotions do not develop. I remembered that I came to the process, and within the whole pressure system I chose to stay. Even in my private life, when there are many difficulties

"It's not Tinder, that you go on a date, and if it's not appropriate then separate. Karin and I had mutual attraction and intimacy, and quality dynamics, and there were good moments and good conversations, and with the things we could find - we tried to bridge the gaps. "Up to the point where we started going back. And a relationship going back is not a good sign."

In the concluding chapter you said you wanted to continue, but it seemed like you had already chosen not to.

"At this point we had been together for two months and no emotions developed. There I realized we were stuck. But there was an attempt to build emotion without cameras and without people around us, an attempt to build something that is ours and real, and the end you already know."

How long did you continue after the filming?

"We were together for another three weeks from the day the filming ended. We went out for a weekend in the north and it was fun, and after we got back from there we wanted to see what would happen. After two days I realized it's not love and it's not developing anywhere."

Can you understand why the experts connected you?

"Not really".

Were there moments when you thought the TV interest outweighed the desire to find a good match?

"I want to believe in the good in a person."

How did you feel when you read a series of reviews against you?

"It's not pleasant and it's hard, but there was a point where I realized for myself the insane distance between who I am and what people see, and that made it easier for me. I'm not a violent person, and you will not find a single person in the world who says I am violent. "Very large. The audience saw what they showed him, and this gap is the responsibility of whoever mediates it to the viewers at home."

You have also become the target of all talkbackers.

"I have no problem with talkbacks and people laughing or criticizing, it's okay. But once people who present themselves as professionals choose to thoroughly analyze my personality without knowing me and without asking for my response - that's where I start to have a problem."

Who for example?

"A few days ago I heard a podcast from experts on 'Khatuni', who said I'm the guy dating 20 year old girls. My current partner is just 33 years old, my ex is my age, before that I had a partner who is a single mother, divorced plus one. You Understand what a huge distance there is between who I am and the interpretation of the people? "

What was the most difficult moment for you?

"I saw on the net people who chose to get dirty on my family, and it hurt me a lot. My family is amazing and she respected Karin very much, and when they were kidnapped it hurt me."

Karin talked to you about what you went through?

"I did not hear a word from her. In front of me, at least, she completely ignored everything."

Contrary to popular belief, you hired a public relations service.

"If tomorrow I have to undergo a medical procedure, I will go to the best doctor. At some point during the season I realized I did not have the tools to handle the situation, and I needed someone to guide and accompany me."

Did you complain to the production?

"Everyone has communication with the production all the time. You remember things a certain way, and suddenly on screen they appear differently."

• • •

For the past seven months, Ami has been managing a new relationship.

Her name is Alina Lotman, she is his age, she is also a hitmaker and also works to be a successful DJ.

Two months ago, the two moved in together.

"After filming and parting from Karin it took me a month and a half to digest the experience, and slowly I went back on dates. I met Alina at a party a few months before the show came up, through a mutual friend. It turns out he did a better job than the experts," he smiles.

Did she watch the show?

"In most episodes no. Also because it's unpleasant to see your partner show romantic manners towards someone else, and also because she had a hard time with the gap between what she knew and what came out. But she was the one who supported me throughout the period."

How do you conduct a secret relationship?

"It's hard and challenging. Think you have a great love, and you want to show it to the whole world and enjoy it and you can not. Even when we traveled abroad, in September, there were people there who recognized us, photographed and sent to sites."

"Big Love".

With partner Alina Lotman,

Girls started with you during the broadcast?

"Even so, I did not give it a place. I am a monogamous person, and in my relationship with Alina I have fun and cool and that is how I want to live life."

Could it be that there was someone in the cast who was more suitable for you than Karin?

"I prefer not to answer that."

Will we see you in future TV shows?

"The only publicity I aspire to right now is in the economics papers."

erans@israelhayom.co.il

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Source: israelhayom

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