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Pain that has no way to go through on its own Israel today

2022-01-04T21:43:22.614Z


The helicopter crash disaster is first and foremost a private disaster, and before it is "filled" it must be given room for choice, pain and loss of privacy • Let us allow families to accept, digest, choose the way that suits them to share their loss with all Israeli society


"I do not know if I will be able to convey the feeling. I have no air and I can not breathe. My whole body is contracted, waiting

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I wrote this on Twitter about an hour after I first heard the phrase "helicopter crashed".

My body contracted and my heart froze, the air could barely pass through my airways.

I have known for 25 years that a helicopter that crashes does not bode well.

I waited for the news with tensions and tears that did not stop flowing, and an hour later it arrived: two pilots, Lt. Col. Erez Shachini, and Major Chen Fogel were killed in a crashed helicopter - and I felt my heart break to pieces again.

Suddenly I returned to Tuesday evening 28/2/97, when two Yasur helicopters crashed over the rest of the settlement, and all 73 fighters were killed, including my beloved husband Lt. Col. Moshe Mualem. All my thoughts, hopes and prayers were with the families .

I thought I knew exactly what was going on with the wife and children, parents and siblings.

How they are still in the normal life of a weekday in the early hours of the night, not knowing that there are those who already understand and know that their life is about to crash, change, be different from now until forever.

I prayed in my heart that people who receive all kinds of messages in WhatsApp groups will stop, not rush to share the information even if it is true, because at the end there is a family for whom the word fragments can be destruction or redemption.

I beg, accept responsibility.

Let's stop distributing the information.

Let us allow families to accept, to digest, to choose a path that suits them and to share their loss with the whole of Israeli society.

This painful catastrophe is first and foremost a private catastrophe, and before it is "fulfilled" there must be room for choice, pain and loss of privacy.

I do not know the families of my swimmer and Vogel.

I know and recognize the choice to live a life of national mission, of personal and family devotion, a life of danger to real devotion out of responsibility for the security of the people and the state.

We have built a partnership of destiny and a partnership of destiny for Jews and Israelis.

This is the line that unites and connects past, present and future, between the helicopter disaster in which I lost my husband, and Noam and Nitzan lost their beloved father, and Dana and the children.

I know what route you will take from now on, and how many decisions you will have to make on your own.

Dana, the disaster has met each of us at a different point in her life, and at this point I mostly want to keep quiet and hurt.

I have three insights to try to walk with you along the way:

The first - you know best what is right for you and your children.

Go with your gut feeling and the wisdom of your heart.

Second - get all the help they offer you.

I remember how much I had to work on myself to let go and allow people to help me and my daughters.

And third - it is impossible to go through this pain and loss alone.

Without family and friends I would not have survived Mualem's death.

And when the days of the seven and the thirty are over, the time will come for family and friends.

Then begins the life journey of families who will need love and visits, smiles and understanding, sensitivity and support.

The pain is endless and the rift is huge, and with all that and out of it I seek to put at the edge of consciousness the choice in life and from there be here for you, for you, as it suits.

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Source: israelhayom

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