Today is International Women's Day on March 8. Feng Yulan, the sexual violence crisis support center, pointed out that more than 40% of the child sexual abuse cases received in the past three years were abused by relatives, and the victims were separated by an average of 12.8 years. make help.
Some of the victims revealed that the reasons for the delay in seeking help included that they had disclosed to their families that they had been sexually assaulted, but they were ignored as secondary injuries.
Recently, Feng Yulan published a collection of oral stories of childhood sexual assault survivors, "Survivor's Words", which compiled the life stories of 9 survivors of childhood sexual assault from the post-50s to the post-00s into a book, encouraging and leading other survivors at the same time. , and also hope to promote social attention.
According to Feng Yulan, the phenomenon of delay in seeking help in sexual assault cases is extremely serious, and 70% of the victims did not call the police for help.
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Most of the offenders are acquaintances including relatives or friends
Among the sexual assault cases that Feng Yulan followed up from January 2019 to September 2021, 26% were 18 years old or younger; % are friends or classmates, 11% are close relationships, and only 9% are strangers.
And at the time of the incident, the victim lived with the aggressor, 33%.
According to Feng Yulan, the related delay in seeking help is extremely serious, and 70% of the victims did not call the police for help.
On average, child sexual assault victims waited nearly 12.8 years to seek help from Feng Yulan, which was more than 10 times the time required for adult sexual assault cases, and if the perpetrator was a family member or relative, the average time interval was more than 20 years.
Feng Yulan suggested that the government should promote more education on the prevention of child sexual abuse, and support children's close contacts, especially family members, to deal with child sexual abuse incidents, and should improve the existing support services for victims of sexual abuse.
Feng Yulan Director General Wang Xiurong (left) and Feng Yulan Senior Research Director Qiu Zhiheng (right).
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New book focuses on coexistence of trauma and afterlife for sexual assault survivors
Qiu Zhiheng, senior research director of Feng Yulan, pointed out that in some cases, the victim had disclosed to professionals and family members that he had been sexually assaulted. The victim suffered secondary injuries.
Qiu pointed out that the cases involved being violated by acquaintances and even family members, and it happened continuously. The victim's childhood experience of being victimized, his decision to seek help, the result of seeking help, and the experience of seeking help when he grew up are all very important. Their healing process is also full of twists and turns. Therefore, more people need to be involved in the work against sexual violence.
Wang Xiurong, director general of Feng Yulan, said that the new book "Survivor's Words: Oral Stories of Nine Childhood Sexual Assault Survivors" is an extension of research over the past years, and hopes to present different aspects of survivors' life stories to the public.
She pointed out that although there have been studies and publications on the issue of childhood sexual abuse in Hong Kong in the past, there has been a lack of local textual materials focusing on the life stories of survivors. Therefore, the book adheres to the concept of survivors. Instead of focusing on the process of sexual assault, it described the survivors' lives after the incident, documenting their coexistence with trauma.
"Because for survivors, perhaps more important is not how to get hurt, but how to live a good life."
Feng Yulan Director General Wang Xiurong (right) said that the new book "Survivor's Words: The Oral Stories of Nine Childhood Sexual Assault Survivors" is an extension of the past years of research, and hopes to present different aspects of the survivors' life stories to the public.
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The victim was continuously violated by his cousin at the age of ten: I will never forget it
Pema, who tells the story through "Survivor's Words", is a post-80s generation. She was raped by her cousin for the first time at the age of 10. Although she asked her mother for help very early, her mother did not seem to understand and neither asked nor helped her. Indirectly caused Pema to continue to be sexually assaulted.
Pema pointed out, "Invisible scars are not easier to remove than physical scars", describing that she was very disappointed with adults at the time, and the incident still affects her relationship with her family, "I don't think I will forget it after 20 years, 𠵱My family thinks I will never forget it for the rest of my life." Pema sent a message to all parents, because children may not know how to express clearly, they should be more sensitive and patient to listen to them on weekdays.
A Yin, who is a "post-00", was raped by her father for the first time at the age of 11. "Many people will be asked to explain the details when they become adults, and they will not tell them when they are questioned." Afterwards, I can let everyone know that people who were sexually abused in their childhood have different difficulties when they ask for help, and because of various reasons, they "can't tell", "Except if you can tell yourself, I am no longer the mere me, and I have the ability. Fight for yourself, and hope that the public will understand more after watching it, less criticism and blame, and other women can have the courage to ask for help.”
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