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Claimed the date asked her for a refund, and then we saw screenshots

When we heard about a woman whose date asked for the money back because the date was not conducted to his satisfaction, we immediately believed her.

It may surprise you, but it turns out that it's not a good idea to automatically believe every woman.

Accept the other side of the story and the real victim

Karin Arad

13/03/2022

13/03/2022

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You may have read the article we published this week, and you know what it's about.

In that case you can skip this paragraph.

Anyone who has not read (and it's a pity) here is a recap of the events: it started with a post by a woman who wrote a confession in the "Confessions TLV" group (by her full name, by the way), who talked about a phenomenon that allegedly exists on Tinder - men On the date back.

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In the original post (here, we took a screenshot) she painted a situation where she just went out on a date and did not suit her to continue with him for any reason, and he asked her for the money on the date back.

Really sounds disgusting, and also a bit ridiculous, and the reactions in the post of course were accordingly.

C, the guy who is ashamed and fatally injured, he claims for no justifiable reason, turned to the sheee system specifically to tell his side of this sad story.

So true, there is such a thing as hashtag believe you, but when the other side brings screenshots that prove the opposite, maybe it's time to ask ourselves some tough questions.

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So what actually happened there, when did you meet and where?

"We met at Tinder," says C. when despair was evident in his voice. She insisted that I come in with her. She bought herself strawberries and yoghurt, when we got to the checkout we stopped and she looked at me, as if - come on pay. I'm not comfortable, I'm paying. "She ordered coffee, I ordered Coke, and in total we sat there for maybe 20 minutes, under pressure."

It was nice?

How did you feel?

Yes, I felt fine.

I did not mind paying for us on a date, even for the strawberries and Gal for the restaurant.

I was nice, I liked her.

We talked, she told me things, and kind of made plans for the future with me, talked about a joint trip to Sinai, and stuff.

We were short but I did not blame her because the night before I did not sleep and I was quite tired, so it suited me that we would talk tomorrow. "

The moment before the block (Photo: screenshot, courtesy of those photographed)

The story

C. drove his date back, and then it became clear to him that she wanted to get off at some hotel, and not in the apartment from where he picked her up.

"Probably went to sting someone else there," he says in retrospect. "We got there, she gets out of the car, and out of nowhere, without a call with nothing she does, 'Can you get me NIS 200? I'll give you back in a few days.'

I was in the market but I felt sorry for her.

What do I know maybe she really has a few days she can not spend?

What do I care, nice girl, I have a package of money in my pocket, I took it out and gave

it

.

Not about the date, about the cash I gave her, and that too only after she blocked me and I was hurt. "

How did it go on?

" The next day when we talked, she asked me for a laptop because she needed one for her job. "

What? I did not understand.

"I did not understand at that moment either, so I told her that I had a computer for sale cheaply - I sell it for NIS 2,500. Then she said no, that she wanted me to give her a computer. I answered without money."

And you gave it to her?

"Wow, almost. But by then I was already beginning to realize that there was someone not innocent there, so I said to myself well come on, not suitable, I'll move on. "So I wrote to her that I was going to the sea with my uncle, and she kind of invited herself. It did not suit me so much that she would come on a second date with me and my uncle would be a fifth wheel, so I suggested she bring a friend who we all sit with together."

"Mami, you are famous" (Photo: Screenshot, courtesy of those photographed)

This is where the mess started.

The date apparently realized she had no business with someone who could benefit her too much, and decided to end the matter.

From the screenshots I saw, it totally seemed like she misunderstood him, and started accusing him of asking her to put up a "row of women" for him and his uncle, and immediately afterwards - blocked him "

while C tried to write her a message to explain He saw himself blocked already. He tried to send a voicemail and was unsuccessful. 20 minutes of dating)

"As soon as she heard money, she opened the block, and she wrote to me, 'You are sending me threats, you better be careful.' And she threatened me with a complaint to the police. I also thought of giving her a computer. So she said she would leave me the money somewhere I would tell her, and while we were talking she sent me the post from the group and wrote me 'Mami, you're famous', and kept sending me screenshots of the comments. "My truth is in response, and she imitates it straight away, and in the process she keeps writing to me, 'You're a Facebook star.' 'For me, it's candy.'

"You are a Facebook star" (Photo: screenshot, courtesy of those photographed)

Why did you even give her money when she asked?

It did not light a red light for you?

"Girl I'm going on a date with and I think it's going to continue, why should I count on her? I also did not plan to ask back until she blocked me and talked to me like that. "Cash, and I'm serious I even gave it to her. And just because she blocked me I told her to bring me the money. It's not that I asked her for money back on the strawberries I bought her. It disgusts me to even say that."

You got the money - why was it important for you to give your side in this story?

"Because even if the date was not good, why write such a thing on me? Why do harm to a person? Tomorrow I can meet someone and someone will send her this post. I so want love, I must do something to minimize the damage she did to me. And go know there's a situation where she's filing a complaint against me - she threatened me that she has ten lawyers. My lawyer advised me to go and file a complaint against her to defend myself. So it's important to me that they hear my side, The truth. "

The screenshots provided by C are spread out in front of you (the rest are stored in the system).

It is clearly stated there that she does not deny that she asked him for 200 shekels in cash and received, and also the tone of her evil and disrespect for a person who did nothing to her, is well evident in her style.

The stop at the store before the date, the insistence that he go in with her, the insistence on going to a certain restaurant, and of course the strange requests - from money to a computer as a gift, all indicate problematic conduct, and speaking of which, her Facebook looks quite suspicious.

After the conversation I had with C, my personal impression from his words is that he is telling the truth, and that his only crime was over-innocence and misinterpretation of reality.

As a woman, the dating behavior in this story is not only bad and vicious, but it does serious harm to all the women who complain about real crimes.

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