8-year-old SEN child is anxious, language and behavior negative under the epidemic, mother takes son to sunbath before the explosion

An 8-year-old boy rides a scooter through the housing estate park, with his mother watching from behind, with a relaxed expression.

But a few days ago, there was tension between the mother and the son. The SEN (Students with Special Education Needs) son even spat at his mother, "I feel that there is a lot of anxiety and anxiety in my heart, and I don't know how to express it." The epidemic is severe. Relevant news made his son worried. Mrs. Chen (pseudonym) never dared to let him go out to "discharge". During the online class, the mother also worked as a teacher. A trapped beast fight sparked conflicts. Taking advantage of the sunny day, she decided to take her son to the park to bask in the sun. Sun, out of the haze, she admitted that she was tired of fighting the epidemic: "I have been taking my children to the park for a few days to play, if it's not me, I'm really crazy!"

Mrs. Chen was emotionally stressed during the fifth wave of the epidemic. At the age of 8, her son suffered from SEN anxiety, and the two became increasingly conflicted. In the end, Mrs. Chen chose to take her son to the park to relieve the stress.

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Mrs. Chen's family of three lives in public housing, her husband works in a restaurant, she is a full-time housewife, and her 8-year-old son is a SEN student who is currently in the second grade of a mainstream primary school.

When the epidemic broke out, my son was studying in the next semester of K3, which was a critical moment to lay a solid foundation. But today, my son has hurried through the cycle of face-to-face and online classes.

Mrs. Chen pointed out that SEN children are used to the established mode and need a long time to adapt to the new environment. "It means that he has never returned to school. His study and life have been disrupted, and he needs to adapt again. For them, It's hard work."

Mrs. Chen said that her son's concentration in online classes is low, and the learning effect is poor. He pulls the window from time to time or explores what his classmates are doing. She has to accompany her son to take online classes in the morning, during which she cooks and does housework during non-major time, and starts from scratch when she tutors homework in the afternoon.

"She doesn't seem to be in class. When you help her with her homework, you are very tired. You will make trouble with her. She must be unhappy. Everyone is fighting each other." She pointed out that during the face-to-face teaching, her son Returning to school is her private time, where she can do housework, exercise, and release negative emotions. In addition to sleep time during online classes, "Living with her for more than 10 hours actually increases everyone's friction."

Mrs. Chen said that her son's foul language and negative behaviors have increased recently, and it is estimated that her heart is disturbed and anxious because of the epidemic, and she cannot express it.

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Recently, my son's foul language and negative behavior have increased. For example, one day she brought out a bowl of hot soup, but her son said to him, "Do you believe it or not, I'll make your soup bowl", and once when she was too tired to take a nap, her son spit on her face. water.

"Actually, I'm very scared. I don't think it's a shame. It's because he has a lot of anxiety and unease in his heart, and he doesn't know how to express it. This is what happens first." She pointed out that the news reported the negative news of the epidemic. , such as the diagnosis and death of children, and the fact that there are people around him who have been diagnosed, all make the son feel anxious.

In addition, since the 25th of last month, there were more than 10,000 new cases in a single day. In the face of her son's voice and pleading, she could only refuse.

The epidemic has not eased, and her emotions have been suppressed for a long time. She feels both hard and worried, "I can't hold it back anymore, and I can't handle it well. My emotions seem to have peaked, and I don't want anything unpleasant to happen. "

She had received a course in the discipline of SEN children, which made her understand that her son would be unhappy when he was scolded. She reflected that she had become critical of her son, and her tolerance and endurance had also declined. "I try to restrain myself."

As the person closest to and trusted by her son, Mrs. Chen has been trapped in a beast fight for a long time. She worries that "my relationship with her will only get stronger and stronger." If her son no longer trusts her, it will be even more difficult to contact the outside world.

Last week, more than 20,000 people were diagnosed in a single day. When Mrs. Chen went out to buy food, she saw the sun was shining and decided to take her son to the park to "bathe in the sun and absorb vitamin D." Stretching, riding a scooter, "I feel good when I'm scared. They (SEN school children) really have too much energy that they can't release, and they release their energy, and they will feel better again, and their mood will be better. I’m comfortable, I’m okay, I’m okay, in fact, I’m not okay if I’m okay, everyone is uncomfortable.”

She does not deny that her son is naturally weaker than humans, that the effect of online classes is not good, and she also feels pressure after the resumption of classes, "I don't expect him to learn how to study and how much he can score in the exam, but we don't expect him to be good or far behind. , it's really humble." But now the expectations of the humble have also been lowered, focusing on dealing with emotional stress first, as a parent, I only want my son "He is healthy, happy, and progressing, we are already content, and we will not ask too much. ."

During the severe epidemic, schools and NGOs have also suspended training on concentration and social skills for SEN students. "Actually, for them, standing still is a step backward, but I found that they are not just standing still, Regressing", she does not admit that her son's concentration is worse than K3, "Studying S (special child care center) is so miserable, wait two years and read one year, you are full of love, feel full support and comprehensive training." All bubbles.

She expects it will take a long time after the outbreak to remedy her son's regression.

NGO-related training courses require lottery, and private speech therapy charges more than 1,000 per session, which is difficult for the grassroots to afford.

She hopes that after the epidemic eases, NGOs can increase the number of places, and she feels that the government has been providing insufficient support for SEN school children and caregivers, and now she dares not hope.

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