The wedding season is attacking vigorously this week, and it's time to congratulate all the lovers who are building their home and their excited parents.
At the same time, this is a good time for tips and advice for grooms and brides, from one who understands, on the variety of charged and sensitive issues related to this one-time event.
Many are the issues in which I can contribute from my experience to marchers to me canopy.
Today I will focus on one of them, especially critical, and that is how many secular families in Israel deal with the need to host an event that makes the religious or ultra-Orthodox part of the family happy, a matter that quickly becomes an oppressive nuisance that draws all attention and increases the level of stress.
The situation is very familiar and common: the bride and groom are not religious, as is most of the family around, but the happy mother, although this is not apparent to her, was born into an ultra-Orthodox family and has two Skolan followers.
Yes, there are such storks.
Another possibility: David Doron repented after the army and has eight descendants who are handsome - and completely ultra-Orthodox.
What to do?
What to do?!
On the one hand, it is inconceivable that relatives, shady udders and remnants of a glorious family of forest creators (Poland) or the king's tailors (Morocco) would not attend the wedding, on the other hand, what would they eat?
After all, the Feinsteins only eat at Badatz, while Doron and his family do not touch at least any item, even liquid, until Hanukkah, which is not explicitly written "ground after Passover."
Well, first of all relax.
No need for pressure.
Let me provide you with an item of information: The person who keeps kosher takes into account situations in which he will not eat as he pleases.
It happens on fasting days, it happens between meat and milk, it happens when something is not kosher, it happens every day before prayer, it happens on Shabbat before Kiddush and it happens on Seder night after Afikoman.
He would not die spending an hour and a half at his cousin's wedding without constant nourishment other than his Zero voice in a disposable glass.
Even so, he does not exactly get along with what is happening in the plaza and with the outfit, and in general what he is doing here does not know, what is it here at all he asks.
The food will not break it.
It's really okay to arrange something nice to have on the table, but: a.
Not in fives!
Do not even think about it.
You have nothing more humiliating in the world than a group of waiters making their way with a five-course tower to table number 24. It only competes with oatmeal dishes in hospitals.
B.
Not to make it such a big deal, and certainly not to have endless conversations where the leading sentence is "We just want you to feel comfortable."
This is fine, we feel very comfortable when we are not forced to feel comfortable.
Do not again consult where to bring the food and explain that price does not play a role here.
not appropriate.
And.
You do not have to have real food.
It is definitely possible to have a nice table with drinks, cakes (ground after Passover), fruit (shmita for hardware) and wine (cooked), all on a beautiful tablecloth (without shatnaz).
The uncles will be happy even without the schnitzel and mashed potatoes you moved from the Jewish restaurant.
At most, they will stop back in peace in Yemen.
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