The severe epidemic has affected the lives of Hong Kong's urbanites, and the number of confirmed cases and complicated epidemic prevention guidelines are only seen on TV.
Are there any things that make you happy during these few weeks?
Written by: Dr. Fang Junhao, School of Mental Health, Castle Peak Hospital
"This period of time is the low point of my life. I feel depressed all day long, I have insomnia and no appetite. I think my emotional medicine is not enough. Please check if I need to add more medicine." As soon as he entered the consultation room, Ah Le couldn't help but bow his head to "let go".
Ale is a diligent insurance broker. In the past two years, he has relied on drugs and a healthy life to control his emotional illness, but the sudden fifth wave of the epidemic has greatly disrupted his life plan.
"I did see you this time thinner than last time. Would you like to share with me your current difficulties?" I asked.
"Originally, I set several annual goals for myself: career, I hope to bill five new customers every month; emotionally, I hope to propose to my girlfriend; health, I hope to exercise regularly and become more Strong. Now? My turnover is not up to the standard, and the decrease in income has affected my marriage budget. Recently, even the fitness center has closed down. I am completely defeated by the epidemic. "
Ah Lo's sense of powerlessness in real life is believed to be felt by many Hong Kong people.
Originally thought that as long as there was a detailed plan, everything would be under control, but in a blink of an eye, I found that the world is like a new chess game.
When things are not what we expected, how should we behave?
"I appreciate that you have a clear goal in life and strive to live out the value of life. When it comes to value, have you ever wondered what the most important core value in your life is?" Explore the difference between "goals" and "values".
If the goal is our travel destination, then the values are like the compass in the hand.
Goals are things we hope to achieve. Of course, we are excited to be able to achieve our goals, but those happy feelings are often short-lived, and we soon have to look to find the next goal to complete in order to maintain our sense of satisfaction.
When the goal is lost, we inevitably feel lost.
Values, on the other hand, are ideas that we think are meaningful or right in our lives, a direction, there is no right or wrong, and there is no way to achieve them.
Taking Ale as an example, he hopes to increase his turnover because the value he values is work efficiency and contribution; he wants to get married because the value he values is family responsibility; he wants to exercise regularly because he values physical health.
We need to remind ourselves that happiness is based on long-term values, not short-term goals.
Even if you fail to increase your income at this moment, it will not stop you from continuing to work hard to be an efficient and contributing person; even if you fail to go to the gym every day, you can still use different methods to keep your body healthy.
Whether the goal can be achieved or not, there are many uncontrollable factors, and no one can say for sure.
But if we can focus on our values and remind ourselves of the core values we have always believed in when we are disappointed, then no matter how bad the weather is or how rough the road is, we will not be easily defeated by reality.
"Hong Kong 01" "01 Medical Clinic" cooperates with the School of Mental Health of Castle Peak Hospital to publish a column written by medical staff every other Tuesday.
"Cheng" means to let the water stand still, let the water settle down, and then become clear.
I hope you can meditate and savor every little story, see what is in the slightest, understand the heart of yourself and others, and see things and situations more clearly.
See clearly and know how to cherish it. I hope this column can calm your emotional waves and enjoy the quiet time.
I hope you will share this experience with the people you care about, so that you can have one more partner on the road to a better life.
Story details have been revised to protect patient privacy.
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