Two 16-year-old Form 4 and 13-year-old Form 2 female students from St. Paul's Secondary School fell to their deaths last Wednesday (18th) afternoon in Shau Kei Wan Sun Shing Centre.
According to the news, the two are suspected to be in a relationship, and some people are troubled by emotional problems.
The school also confirmed that the parents of the two students involved had asked the school for help, the school also communicated with the parents, and the school social worker followed up the incident.
The suicide of two gay girls has aroused social concern. A clinical psychologist said that teenagers' seeking help is usually related to interpersonal relationships or studies. Even gay teenagers will encounter the same troubles when they fall in love. It is recommended that the public include parents , social workers and peers, if they come into contact with teenagers for help, they should first understand their current needs from the perspective of acceptance and care, listen to their troubles patiently, and then respond to their feelings in an objective manner, not just focus on their sexuality orientation.
Earlier, two gay couples at St. Paul's Secondary School committed suicide due to suspected relationship problems, which attracted public attention.
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Earlier, two gay couples at St. Paul's Secondary School committed suicide due to suspected relationship problems, which attracted public attention.
According to Save the Children's "Mental Health of Children and Youth in Hong Kong: Analysis and Recommendations" in 2020, the suicide rate among adolescents was on the rise between 2010 and 2019.
Liu Xuehui, a clinical psychologist, said that students seeking help are usually related to issues such as academics, interpersonal relationships, further education and employment, and self-confidence. If it is emotional, even gay teenagers will encounter the same troubles when they fall in love. When encountering relevant requests for help, you should not focus on whether the seeker is in a relationship between a man and a woman or a same-sex relationship. You should first accept it, listen patiently, understand their needs from a caring perspective, and objectively respond to their feelings.
Liu Xuehui, a clinical psychologist, said that teenagers' help-seeking is usually related to interpersonal relationships or academics. Even gay teenagers will encounter the same troubles as the general public when they fall in love. It is recommended that the public, including parents, social workers and peers, come into contact with teenagers. When asking for help, you should first understand their current needs from the perspective of acceptance and care, and listen to their troubles patiently.
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"Various relationships, including falling in love, is a very complicated thing. Because you may have done nothing wrong, but you can't control people's thoughts. Everyone wants to be accepted, loved and loved." Liu Xuehui described that if teenagers When you hit a wall in dealing with interpersonal relationships, you are prone to negative emotions or troubles.
She revealed that she had dealt with two gay teenagers asking for help, and the other party was not under social pressure because of their gay status, so she should focus on dealing with the issues they are concerned about at the moment, "If a girl contacts me, if there is academic pressure, it is good to choose a subject. Bewildered, he revealed that he was in a relationship when he fell down. He told my girlfriend a little bit, and I knew his sexual orientation first. He also did not specifically disclose his love relationship to the real estate people, because he had other more romantic relationships. things to pay attention to.”
"I also tried to have a boy for counseling. He said that he was having an affair with someone recently and wanted to have a relationship with me. He slowly revealed that the other person was a boy, and he didn't feel any pressure when speaking. His troubles at that time were from the future. Confession, I don’t know if the other party will accept it or not.” Liu Xuehui pointed out that when the other party confided in her heart, it meant that there was trust between the two parties, and it was also a signal for help that needed to be taken seriously.
"Various relationships, including falling in love, is a very complicated thing. Because you may have done nothing wrong, but you can't control people's thoughts. Everyone wants to be accepted, loved and loved." Liu Xuehui described that if teenagers When you hit a wall in dealing with interpersonal relationships, you are prone to negative emotions or troubles.
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Parents are advised not to think too far when they learn that their children come out of the closet
"Many times gay clients feel comfortable about their romantic relationships, but the people around them are so nervous." Liu Xuehui suggested that if parents know that their children have come out of the closet, they should not overreact or think too far ahead. People explain that when you should get married, the children will also feel anxious and nervous.” And it’s easy to ignore the children’s current troubles and needs.
She also suggested that when parents, social workers and peers come into contact with them for help, they should be encouraged to express their feelings more and avoid giving some brief or hasty comments. Solve the problem."
Liu Xuehui said frankly that gay relations face a lot of social pressure, "Even though Hong Kong has been more open than before, homosexuality is still a minority. It cannot be denied that gay relations have a lot of social pressure from around them, from how people look at them with their own eyes. Feelings.” (File photo/Photo by Liang Pengwei)
Gay relations are still under a lot of social pressure
Liu Xuehui said frankly that gay relations face a lot of social pressure, "Even though Hong Kong has been more open than before, homosexuality is still a minority. It cannot be denied that gay relations have a lot of social pressure from around them, from how people look at them with their own eyes. She described the suicide incident of a gay couple last week as a tragedy.
Stuart, Director-General of Save the Children Hong Kong, said that he felt sorry to see the news of young people giving up their lives. He suggested raising public awareness of mental health, changing the society's attitude towards seeking mental health services, and improving community mental health support services. Different approaches identify children in need who are not actively seeking help.
Stuart also suggested that more training opportunities should be provided to parents, teachers and community workers to enhance their professional knowledge of mental health, so as to effectively identify students in need and provide timely support.
Policy makers should also increase the supply of educational psychologists to provide better and faster treatment and support for students with psychological and emotional problems.
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