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The man I erased the Tinder for
Every single woman in Israel has countless horror stories about repulsive men in dating apps.
Some of them have decided to put an end to it, and we are completely in favor.
Special summer project: The man who made me delete the apps.
Genre: Horror & Cringe
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24/06/2022
24/06/2022
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No woman has not erased all of her dating apps angrily at least once in her life, or at least thought about it.
Some of us returned them after a week, two days or two hours, the holdings between us held longer and maybe even gave up the pleasure permanently.
In the Facebook group "Sliding Left", where women share screenshots of annoying, humiliating and disturbing conversations in the various dating apps, a post was recently published calling on the group members to delete the apps for the week.
We decided to join the protest and also call for it to stop absorbing the repulsive attitude and make the apps smile.
We approached the women who deleted the apps and survived to tell, and asked them to share with us what was the message that made them give up, and what life is devoid of pleasure.
Chapter One: The Man Who Tried to Understand How Fat I Really Is
Name:
Noy
Age:
30
Residence:
Haifa
Last Contact:
Ended eight months ago
Favorite apps: Tinder
Total time in apps:
Seven years gross, "with breaks during the time I was in relationships"
Total time without apps:
Almost three months and the hand is still tilted
Lior?
We will tell Katya (Photo: screenshot, courtesy of the interviewee)
Noy actually has a pretty successful history with Tinder.
She knew most of the connections she had so far through the app, and some of them even came to live together.
Her last relationship ended towards the end of 2021, and he too started on Tinder.
But nearly three months ago she decided she was tired and that she was deleting the app.
At least for now - she has no intention of returning.
We all know her disgust with the apps.
On the one hand useless conversations that feel like a duel of someone more sarcastic and cynical, on the other hand fear of being exposed and honest and looking desperate, and in the midst of all this feeling that you see the same people all the time, think to yourself what a loser this guy has been here for five years, then wonder If he thinks the exact same thing about you.
“It became a snowball of frustration,” she says.
"I am studying for a master's degree and working in the meantime, my time is very limited and very important to me, and I felt that I was wasting it, being sucked into it for hours and nothing came of it."
Presumably, if most of the interactions in the apps were pleasant or aimed at real acquaintance, Noy's feeling might have been a little different, but as we know, this is not really the case, and Noy, like any woman who has come a long way in apps, has dozens of horror stories. And are attached here.
"Humor was really my way of dealing with these things, and at some point I started throwing them back, because you get messages that you say: Enough, there is no situation where he expects a serious answer," she says.
"But slowly I could no longer contain anything there. Even when they were disgusting to me it annoyed me and even when there were guys really cool and I felt like flying at me it annoyed me, because what are you flying? You do not know me at all. Everything feels like one big fake."
Awake?
Awake?
Awake? (Photo: screenshot, courtesy of the interviewee)
And your last boyfriend?
Did you know him on Tinder as well, was there anything different about interacting with him in the first place?
"Yes. I came back from departure on Friday night and replied to a message he had sent me before, and then he immediately replied. I was sure that if he returned a message to me at a time like this then it would be some attempt to stream me, because some people think that if you write to them at 3 in the morning It gives them legitimacy to be blunt, but he just responded to me really seriously and developed some mental conversation.It felt very intimate to me, I felt really confident, that he just wanted to talk for a moment.It's a little sad but then I wrote him thank you for treating me like a man and not See my post as some invitation to something beyond the conversation. In the end we did not get along, but he is a golden man. There is a reality. You're hurt there. "
What was the message that broke you?
"As a fat girl, in apps you have to be really with elephant skin. I remember I had a very good conversation with someone, and then he wrote to me that in every picture I look at a different weight, and that I would rate the latest of the pictures. I really imagined him, like in series The goddess about the FBI investigations, who make a huge board and try to connect the dots and decipher the crime, sits and tries to calculate how fat I really am. I think it was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I said to myself: I'm not ready anymore. Any picture anyway "I brought it up after a war with myself, and I define myself as a beautiful girl, I never had a problem with suitors. But it broke my confidence. I started looking at myself a bit like I felt being looked at and it hurt my self-esteem insanely."
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Then you decided to delete the app?
. To the feeling that you woke up in the morning and someone sent you a message and suddenly you have nothing to expect.I felt I really had to fight myself so as not to download the app again, I was terribly afraid that I would suddenly lose the love of my life, and I know no, but I missed the interaction, even those silly conversations "I'm annoyed. How can you get addicted to something that does you no good? I was really surprised at how much I was missing it."
Today it is no longer missing?
"Thank God today I'm clean," she laughs, "I have had a lot of time to do other things that I really enjoy and that are really helpful to me. It's still a bit lacking sometimes, but I feel like more and more quality people, both men and women, are voting and leaving "The apps. In the end, Tinder in my opinion will be like after an atomic bomb, leaving only the cockroaches. Anyone looking for a serious relationship does not trust Tinder."
So how do you get acquainted with apps?
"You can meet in pubs or through friends, in Haifa there are groups of trips or dances, there are groups that are not related to dating but occasionally upload dating threads because people really want. Even if I see someone cute on Facebook, I can send him a message and even though it's a virtual space I will still feel better than the app because I will respond to some common interest issue or something like that, so it's much more intimate. But I really do not think that anyone who continues to be in the apps today should feel bad about herself. "Lots of patience, optimism and faith in yourself and the world. And in any case, your value will not depend on what a random man on Tinder thinks."
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