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2022-06-30T09:45:13.981Z


Yair once did everything excellent, but the big challenge in his life is still ahead of him • Secular and religious are happily married - this is not a joke • And the constant struggle on the roads can be improved with a simple gesture


Congratulations to Prime Minister Yair Lapid.

Who would have believed, Yair, that one day she would be prime minister, even for a few months, distressed and annoying.

Once upon a time, long ago, we belonged to the same social circle, you remember like me, evenings on the roof of Danny Sids, guitars, Tamir Harpaz, Israel Bright, Orna Cohen (Datz), playing and singing silly words invented on the spot.

You were the best at it.

I got to be your friend for a while, when we were 20 and a little over.

I was a Jerusalemite, poor in means, living in a rented room with a strict old woman, heating frozen meals from my mother, quite lonely in a big way, and you brought me home, and made me feel like a man who has a place in the big city too.

And you gave me your car to travel to visit my parents in Jerusalem, knowing that any trip to the Castel might wipe out what was left of your torn Contessa.

And gave.

Because you're a generous person.

I saw with my own eyes, even before you became Yair Lapid.

Then we moved away, who knows why, and then I became a bit of an opponent of yours at heart, because your plan was more successful than Kobi Meidan and mine's plan, "Abraham and Jacob," and out of grief for my mediocre accomplishments I envied your excellent.

Everything you did - you did great.

You wrote excellent books and hymns, and wrote the funniest children's book in Hebrew, "Albi Story of Knights", which my eldest daughter and I would laugh at for hours reading, even for the hundredth time.

And you were an amazing TV man, and you held the column called in the country for years.

excellent.

And now you're a prime minister.

And I'm sure you can run the so-called state operation well even without a high school diploma, because you're a man of people.

But I'm not quiet about your worldview.

Along with beautiful achievements, you have, in my opinion, done heavy damage in relations with Poland and Russia.

You used to follow what is common today to read a moral, more moral signal.

You put the state's interest in second place after marking that you're in the "right" camp, dancing with progressives.

We do not have the wide margins that other countries have, to play games.

We are at war every day, all day.

Anyone who can help, welcome, without past accounts.

Every day you can start over.

And do not challenge Russia.

Bad idea.

In another moment they swallow Ukraine on its bones, and turn here.

In what situation is it better to welcome them?

And what about the appointments, Yair?

Drifting.

Come back.

Hopefully, Mr. Prime Minister, that you will excel, and that we will be privileged to see you in the arena in front of Putin, in karate suits, close Syria's interest with elegance, with a nimble iPhone.

And if possible some appointment for an ambassador to the Caribbean in exchange for this column, my door is open.

Relationships

I was at a good event this week.

The "Couple Engagement" association held its annual meeting, and I was invited to lead.

Was exciting.

"Couples Engagement" is a project of a couple, Ami and Avital Baram, who provide a solution for couples who suddenly one of them repents or goes out in question.

This is called couples with a religious gap.

Not easy.

One day the spouse wears a kippah, tassels, Shabbat observant, family purity, kosher - do we stay together?

Or one day the opposite happens - the woman, say, stops believing, takes off her head covering, dresses secularly, let alone thinks alike.

Fraction.

Strong together, Photo: Yehoshua Yosef

There are about 45,000 such couples in Israel.

We will multiply the number of children per Jewish woman, 3.2 on average, and we have 200,000 men, women and children involved in this faith challenge.

The usual way to deal with a reversal of one spouse is surprise, disappointment, a sense of betrayal, wars of honor, territorial disputes, and eventually a breakup.

And who pays the price?

the children.

Not only in breaking the house, but also in hating the religion that destroyed the family.

Twenty-five years ago, the same thing happened at the Baram family home.

Ami repented, just a year after the wedding, leaving Avital alone in her secularism.

But they did not give up, they looked for a solution that would keep them together, and when they did not find one, they created it themselves.

Their solution is built on the understanding that it is not the matter of faith that separates couples with a religious gap, but matters of honor.

ego.

If one succeeds in seeing this and does not go astray after the ideological discourse, then there is a new space for deepening the connection.

All difficulties are technical and solvable.

Hearts should please.

Do not use faith or disbelief to stay away, God forbid.

Comes a "couple engagement" and provides an answer to all these couples.

I met a few dozen of them, the woman with the wig, the man secular, or vice versa, he with the whole look, black-tassel-beard, and she in her tank top.

Everyone reported that they were on the verge, on the way to the rabbinate, but when they realized that it was possible to live this way, because the person they chose did change his faith but did not change his heart, they stayed together and even deepened the bond.

So if you know such a couple, send it to a "couple engagement", there is a lot of suffering that can be saved.

Right now.

Thanks

I approach the crosswalk in my car, one pedestrian also approaches.

Until I get to the crossing she will not come yet, I do not have to stop her.

But I stop.

Gives her a place in my world.

She passes, making no eye contact, no movement or look of recognition in my gesture.

A small gesture, almost microscopic, but still.

I saw her, and it's quite a bit today.

I feel a slight energetic drop.

Tshorti was taken for granted, as if all drivers were stopping and waiting for the pedestrian to pass safely.

I'm disappointed, going on my way, carrying the micro-insult in my body.

A traveler, arrives at a place where integration is difficult.

Gives the driver who has no right of way to enter, and adds a hand gesture - Tafadel.

He enters, not raising a hand in gratitude, not nodding with a smile, as if every moment someone is giving up on him.

Again a drop in dopamine, the positive reward hormone.

Anger rises in me, what did I give him if he did not count me?

What did I want?

Contact us for a second, at a glance, here I am man, here you are man, we give up on each other because that way it is more pleasant to live.

This.

But when the echoing gesture does not return, it is like reaching out to a person who has not been answered and leaving the hand outstretched, to dry it like that alone in the air.

Not about myself I come to complain here.

I can bear it.

But the problem is that the state of mind of the one who goes out of the way is of struggle at every moment, not of cooperation and small connections.

Thus, pedestrians are trampled at the crossings, two-wheelers are run over, vehicles and their drivers are injured.

A lot of these events could have been avoided if we had all been working on giving positive feedback to the one who gives us, directs us, stops us.

I have been doing this for years.

Every time a driver sees me on the road on the bike, or at the crosswalk as a pedestrian, I give him or her a sign of gratitude.

A nod, a slight bow, a marked bow, something.

I know a driver who has received positive feedback on behavior will repeat that behavior again, even if he does not know why.

When I thank the driver who let me cross, even if it is his legal duty, I save, perhaps, the elderly man at the next crossing.

Try it for yourself as a pedestrian.

Look the driver in the eye, raise your arm to chest height with an open palm, mark "Thank you, friend."

It is rewarding for both parties.

Thanks for reading.

avrigilad@gmail.com

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Source: israelhayom

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