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2022-07-06T13:53:53.630Z


"Economic violence is violence, the blue marks of which are seen in the bank account." A personal column of a woman you know, who was a victim of economic violence by her husband


Reuben Castro

"You know me from TV and radio, and you would not guess that I am a victim"

"After we broke up, I learned that I was far from the only woman who was the victim of such a marital relationship. Economic violence is violence, whose blue marks are seen in the bank account."

Someone you know is talking about the most painful decade of her life

Someone you know

06/07/2022

06/07/2022

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There is no price for freedom.

This sentence is really known to two types of people: a prisoner who was in prison and a woman who came out of a restrictive relationship.

I'm never been to jail, but I'm this woman.



You know me.

I'm not very famous, but I do appear here and there on TV, I am heard on the radio, I am read in the newspaper.

My name is familiar.

I'm representative, I'm educated, I'm talented, I'm creative and yes, I'm confident.

I'm this woman you're looking at and nodding goodbye to.

I smile at you and nod back.

Sometimes we chat.

About the children, about life or in general.

I am a mother, I am active in my community, I volunteer and I donate.



But none of them can imagine, that my ex-husband treated me like his ATM.


None of them can imagine that my husband took every shekel I earned from hard work and made it his own.


I'm not blaming anyone.

I'm not even blaming myself.

This is for the simple reason that during a relationship, even I did not know that my husband was treating me with financial violence.



He never hit me.

Sometimes he shouted, sometimes cursed, every week he made a "our relationship with" conversation with me, and always lamented that I was not earning enough, that I was not working enough, that I was lazy, that I "did not like to work", and how much money I did not bring home, it was always not enough.

But every time I proposed a new economic initiative, he killed it on the spot.

Still, it was always he who decided what to do with the money and where it was routed.

"Even I did not know that my husband treated me with economic violence" (Photo: ShutterStock)

My ex-husband demanded the password for my private bank account, the one he had no part in.

He accused me of hiding money from him and smuggling it out, carefully went through the excel spreadsheets of my income, "visited" my private bank account and looked for all the evidence of embezzlement that was the product of his developed imagination.



For more than a decade I have turned from a blooming flower into a withered and shrunken seedling, under the authority of a man who claimed to love me.

Today I know that my ex-husband took the word "husband" seriously.

He sincerely believed that he was my owner and that my body, my soul and my bank account belonged to him.



It was only after we broke up that I realized what I was going through.

The only tears I cried since the breakup were for myself.

For the blindness I had.

I am an enlightened woman.

I'm a smart woman.

The trouble is that I believed that this was how a family system was run, it was a question of a normal relationship between spouses.



After we broke up I learned that I am far from being the only woman who is a victim of such a marital relationship.

Economic violence is violence, the blue marks of which are seen in the bank account.



We are professors, CEOs of companies, lawyers, doctors, marketing executives, veterinarians, accountants, supermarket cashiers, bankers, librarians, boutique salesmen, beauticians, pharmacists, waitresses. We can be anyone who walks in front of you on the street, your mother, Your sister, your cousin, your sister-in-law, your girlfriend, your colleague. I can be you. You can be me



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The "Female Spirit" organization helps women victims of violence throughout the country to achieve economic independence.


Do you identify yourself or someone close to you as a victim of economic violence?

Please refer her to us so we can help her

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