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Spiritual methods that will help you stop harboring anger and truly forgive

In the tarot, forgiveness is represented by the star card. This is how you will use this card to learn to ask for forgiveness - and to forgive wholeheartedly without holding a grudge

Sagi Mendelboim

04/10/2022

Tuesday, 04 October 2022, 00:05 Updated: 00:22

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"Forgiveness" is an elusive concept.

It is used a lot, talking about how important it is to forgive and how "forgiveness" is a cure for everything, but it is not always clear - what is the origin of this "forgiveness" actually?

Where are we supposed to recruit her?

Can we force ourselves to forgive on Yom Kippur?

And maybe there are ways to connect to this energy of forgiveness - all year round?

To clarify the connection between the star card and this issue in our lives, I want to start with a simple comparison: what is the difference between a 10-year-old boy who is angry with his mother, tells her: "I hate you", slams the door - and goes out to give her a hug after an hour, and between a child A 40-year-old who is angry with his mother, tells her: "I hate you" and does not speak to her for 20 years?

The difference lies in the fountain of youth and access to it, as embodied by the star card: the fountain of youth is the fountain of love.

Every child knows him and therefore every child is able to forgive and forget so quickly and very easily.

Just as a girl jumps from rock to hill with ease, so she jumps from one emotional state to another and is able to release emotional charges at the speed of light.

In fact, the child does not accumulate them at all because he simply "sips" from the fountain of youth again and again and "reboots" his emotional system.

This spring is simply - the source of life and love.

How do you really learn to forgive? (Photo: ShutterStock)

Naturally we sip from it all the time in our childhood.

Everything is easier, because the system does not accumulate anger and defensiveness, but over time we mature, the world hardens our hearts, we are hurt and put up different kinds of walls in our hearts inside and in our behavior outside.

We start to feel stuck in all kinds of places in our lives.

If we used to express emotion freely, now we are afraid.

Would we fall in love easily?

Now we are suspicious and interpret every step from the other side as a rejection, would we forgive easily and move on?

Now we accumulate anger and continue to dwell on injustices done to us.

So what is the difference between the 10-year-old and the 40-year-old?

The difference is that the child chooses love, while the 40-year-old "child" chooses his ego, anger.

We must find the way to choose love again and again, without giving up on ourselves.

As adults we have awareness, we see the source of our wounds and can avoid putting up the pre-known walls and blocking our loved ones.

We can choose new ways to communicate and cope, so that we will also succeed in renewing ourselves with the fountain of youth, but also in maturity to deal with the life experiences we have internalized - and which we must process and release.

Yom Kippur is one of those days where we all ask for some kind of general "forgiveness" from everyone, "from everyone we hurt".

Some of us feel that we really want to apologize to others and some of us look at these apologies with cynicism and say, perhaps rightly, that a real apology does not come once a year or in the form of a collective WhatsApp message.

Tarot - the star card (Photo: ShutterStock)

How is it possible to forgive more easily and increase love with the star card?

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- everyone has their own barriers and personal suffering that prevents them from seeing the clear and big picture.

Our compassion for the barriers of others can help us to forgive with great ease, even if the behavior is not justified.

By observing with compassion, we do not justify the conduct that was done towards us.

We just accept the situation to move on with our lives.

2. If we have anger, rage, resentment and other friends,

, shout, connect to the stomach and make noises, write angry letters and not send them, hit pillows, go for a run, meditate - these are just some of the excellent ways available to us to Unload our cargo.

We cannot force ourselves to forgive, but we can at least empty ourselves as much as possible, of the "leftovers" of the experience we went through in ways that are as constructive and liberating as possible.

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The inner child does not have to look like a real child within us, or like ourselves in our youth, it is an emotional experience of childhood that lives within us and gives us - at any age, a sense of pleasure, wonder, curiosity, interest and renewal.

If there is a certain activity that restores our connection to the inner child - we can engage in it consciously in order to pay attention to that voice within us.

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- on the face of it, what is the connection between limits and the card of inexhaustible emotion and infinite love?

The connection is that as soon as we set boundaries in our personal relationships, we stop accumulating anger and tension - and we have more room to experience all the good possible within the relationship.

This is how we stop overloading the system.

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He is a great source of renewal, honesty and love.

We should at least try to be in contact with people with whom we "have a voice", and the ability to express it.

If there is a person in front of us who is willing to talk to us about things, in order to grow together we must agree to express ourselves to him, and not run away from interactions, so that we learn to accept our authentic self - and show it to others.

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There are people in our lives who give us love, lovely moments and joy every day.

Paying attention to this intensifies these moments and gives us an experience of gratitude that is essential for our soul.

If there are people we are angry with, but still want to be in touch with, maybe we can think concretely, what we need to forgive.

Is it for an apology?

A particular act to be taken?

For a change of attitude?

for a promise?

And so on.

If you have more ideas on how to forgive and increase the love in your life - maybe you should make a list or just take the one possible action today to increase the love and compassion in our lives.

"Sagi Mandelbaum | Personal empowerment, tarot and dreams" - Sagi's Instagram.

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