Maïa Mazaurette probes male sexual desire on TMC: “There is a lot of modesty among men”

She studied literature at the Sorbonne and graduated from the school of journalism in Lille.

Then Maïa Mazaurette specialized in sex.

She collaborated with

or

, kept blogs, published essays and fictions.

Now a columnist for

, France Inter and the program "Quotidien" on TMC, she made a documentary

, broadcast on the channel on March 8 and which was a great success with 1, 1 million viewers.

She has since surveyed these gentlemen in "Desire: what men want" and tells us more.

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- Did you imagine from the start a male counterpart or was this second documentary launched following the good audiences of the first?

Maïa MAZAURETTE.- As soon as we started working on the documentary, there was talk, unless there was a total disaster, of it being a series.

And it would obviously have been a shame to be interested in women without being interested in men, especially after MeToo.

Then, after desire, we can also talk about pleasure… The possibilities are dizzying.

What is the main lesson you learned from the documentary on women?

Their immense diversity in relation to the discourse held on their sexuality.

We still hear today, the desire of THE woman but it does not exist.

We must put this notion in the plural.

"We tend to think that taboos are on the side of women, I noticed that there was a lot of unspoken, modesty among men"

Maia Mazaurette

And for the gentlemen?

We tend to think that taboos are on the side of women, that they are ashamed, that they carry guilt.

I realized that there was a lot of things left unsaid, of modesty, of avoidance strategy sometimes among the men I met.

Some have a little trouble intellectualizing sex.

They may have been taken aback by my questions.

It's interesting to see a form of delicacy emerge from the interviews.

You say at the end that you had the feeling of a more thoughtful relationship on their part to desire and sexuality.

Because of MeToo?

Yes, we feel that we are no longer in a universe where a guy imagines that he will be able to leave his home and live his sexuality on his own terms.

Men were forced to question themselves.

This is true for all the age groups we encountered, from 22 to 70 years old.

Among the youngest, there is even a form of evidence in respecting women, there is better communication, empathy.

But we cannot be precisely representative of French society.

A quarter of men remain hostile to the MeToo movement.

Men

There is indeed pressure.

We carry around centuries of patriarchal culture.

Men are validated by their peers, by society if they manage to comply with these injunctions.

But there is also resistance on their part because these injunctions are sources of real suffering.

It's overwhelming, brutal what weighs on their shoulders.

Some went so far as to force themselves to have sex they didn't want.

But to discuss this with them, you have to gain their trust, dig deeper, be patient before giving birth to a sincere word on sexuality.

This is a difference with the documentary on women: they tell their truth right away.

“For me, the differences between men and women are quite secondary, arbitrary in relation to everything that connects us.

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Maia Mazaurette

Do you have the feeling that the desires of men and women can meet?

Completely !

There is a movement for the exit from heterosexuality among certain feminists but it is not my grid of reading of the situation.

I am not at all desperate for my work, I find the result quite feel good.

I am a feminist of what is wrongly called gender theory.

For me, the differences between men and women are quite secondary, arbitrary in relation to everything that connects us.

Is humor essential to talk about sex?

No, you need a multiplicity of discourses, so that everyone finds the formula that corresponds to them.

Even if humor is a great weapon – my personality leads me towards a more complicit approach with men – anger, sadness, wonder can be useful.

Camille Aumont Carnel writes a chronicle on sexuality in “Quelle époque!

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Sexuality is a universe that produces a lot of knowledge, money, artistic representation… It can affect science, philosophy, politics.

More journalists should cover hot topics related to sex.

Not enough of us are doing this job.

I'm glad to see competition coming.

Being a sexpert promotes dating or does it rather scare men?

Some men are indeed afraid that I will judge them, which is interesting when you think that women are judged all the time.

It also means that I'm being asked not to track my intelligence over a period of time, which doesn't seem reasonable to me….

But young guys are comfortable with feminism and it doesn't intimidate them.

I have no worries!