How is life?
Uncle Liang and his wife have been together for a long time, which is the silent confession of the longest love.
Knowing each other for more than half a century, his wife's health is gradually getting worse due to illness. Uncle Liang has not given up on being a caregiver despite his advanced age. Every time his wife goes to the toilet, he will accompany her, and he will accompany her when she goes to the hospital. Every time he buys food, he will buy it. It is enough for a week, just to reduce the number of times you go out and spend as much time as possible with your wife.
However, Uncle Liang has recently been diagnosed with an illness. The pressure of taking care of his wife and the worry that he will not be able to take care of her in the future made him think of suicide. "Sometimes I think that it would be better if I died. It's so hard and troublesome." , "I feel that life is so painful, I don't even "hate" life, but with him (Mrs. Liang), I want to live first."
The 90-year-old Mrs. Liang suffered from breast cancer 5 years ago. After recovering, her health deteriorated. She had to use an oxygen machine and was often in and out of the emergency room due to shortness of breath and dizziness.
Uncle Liang, who is the same age as his wife, has always taken good care of the people around him. He would accompany his wife to the emergency department of the hospital until he was discharged, but he had no choice but to wait at least 7 hours each time, which caused his uncle to suffer physically and mentally.
The wife fell and broke her thigh and pelvis, and the pressure of care is even heavier
Although Granny Liang is in poor health, she has been able to handle simple housework in the past few years.
However, she fell on the street last year and broke the bone from the thigh to the pelvis. The doctor warned that if the mother-in-law fell again, her life would be in danger.
Uncle Liang is responsible for all the housework alone, and at the same time takes care of his wife every step of the way. "I can't worry about him going to the toilet by himself. Even if he can, I will follow him and help him pour water."
In order to reduce the frequency of going out and spend time with his wife as much as possible, Uncle Liang always buys a week's worth of food every time he buys food.
"I used to go to the park early in the morning to exercise, but I didn't have any other activities at home." Liang Bo said frankly that he once fainted when he exercised in the park in the morning. At that time, there were not many people in the park and he almost lost his life. I dare not go out to do sports again.
Increased mental stress and thoughts of suicide
His wife's physical condition has deteriorated, and his own physical condition has also appeared. Uncle Liang's mental pressure has increased greatly. "I sometimes think that it is really better to die. It is so hard and troublesome." I don't "hate", but with her (wife), I want to survive first."
Fortunately, Uncle Liang sought the service of Ping An Bell for help. The social worker discovered his mental health problems and referred the social worker to visit him to understand his needs.
Social Worker: His wife is the love of his life, so he thought it would be better to sacrifice both of them
Li Jiahao, a registered social worker of the Social Care Service of the Elderly Housing Association who is in charge of the case, said that when he first met Uncle Liang, he felt that Uncle Liang had a strong sense of hopelessness and powerlessness. It was the love of his life, so he thought it would be better to sacrifice both of them. I thought they were really hopeless at the time, and they would talk about wanting to die."
Under the referral of a social worker, Uncle Liang participated in the "Walk with Me" caregiver support program funded by the Medical and Health Bureau to assist Uncle Liang in his care work and relieve his pressure: "Now you can ask for an escort when you go to the emergency room at home. It will be so hard, I will wait all day in the emergency room without washing."
Li Jiahao said that Uncle Liang's condition is a "senior caregiver". The care period of this type of caregiver can be as long as 3 years. Most of them appear in the situation of "double elders". Outside exposure, no social contact, leading to emotional health issues.
He pointed out that such caregivers most need someone to assist in caring work, such as escort service, to relieve the physical and psychological pressure of the caregivers. They also need to participate in social activities, talk to others, and vent their emotions.
In addition, learning how to take care of them, such as the correct posture of holding and hugging the care receiver, can also reduce their chances of injury.
He said that many "double elders" in the market are unwilling to accept this type of assistance, because they think it is their responsibility to take care of them, and they don't want others to interfere.
Fortunately, Anzhong took the initiative to care for the elderly, and the regular communication and condolences created trust between the two parties, making it easier to provide assistance.
Lai also pointed out that the organization will understand the wishes of the elderly, just like Uncle Liang only needs the service of accompanying the doctor, and will not force him to use other services.
The "Airship with Me" project started in July this year and lasted for one year. The goal is to support 100 emotionally distressed caregivers and those who need to take care of the self-care ability of chronically ill patients to relieve their stress. The number of participants so far has reached 45.
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