"We're back to when we just started dating. We do it several times a day" - Voila! Sheee

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Three and a half years ago, my partner of the last 18 years, Ido (45), went to Ireland for five days and when he returned, he brought me a special gift - freedom.

Hello, I'm Maya (41).

I have six children.

No, I'm not religious.

No, not chapter two.

No, I don't have twins, nor triplets - I was a breastfeeding mother for 14 years straight, which was the most wonderful thing in my life, but also a great limitation.

When our fifth daughter was a little over a year old, Ido sat down in front of me, all serious, and told me: "I think five children is enough."

But that day, the period that was always punctual, did not come.

So I answered him: "I think I'm pregnant."

You see, at no point did we plan the pregnancies and for most of our time together, our primary form of contraception was if I was pregnant or breastfeeding.

Nor were we targeting a specific number of children, and until this conversation, we weren't going to stop.

But suddenly, we had an unplanned pregnancy and we were completely unprepared for the situation.

In terms of birth control, at the beginning of our relationship I used pills for a short period of time, but the effects were really unpleasant.

Ido really doesn't like using condoms.

"It's like taking a shower with a coat on," he says.

The standard is really violent to the body and in general, the safety percentages of all means are problematic, and in recent years we have met quite a few women who experienced an unplanned pregnancy, even though they used a variety of contraceptives.

and then...

Maya and Ido (photo: courtesy of those photographed)

My genius came and told me "I'm going to do surgery!".

I was a little scared.

What is surgery?

Who is surgery?

it is not dangerous?

What are the effects?

Then he continued to say "In the Czech Republic!".

What happened?

Did you fall on your head?

do you even speak czech

Now I was really scared.

Why cut?

Why fly abroad? What will you do if he gets into trouble? You don't speak the language at all! What if you regret it? What if we get divorced or something happens to me, and if you want more children with someone else? How will this affect our relationship? What happens in bed after This?

To his credit, he came prepared. He checked prices, flights, recommendations, a support group on Pace. So why abroad?

Because in Israel there are not many who do this procedure and in Israel in general it is more complicated, because for some reason in Israel it is considered surgery, including a day of hospitalization.

Abroad, this is a procedure in a clinic. He even found a YouTube video of the entire procedure (six minutes from end to end - highly recommended), and much more expensive - 400 euros in Europe or 13,000 NIS in Israel.

When I brought up the possibility of him having another partner in the future.

No matter for what reason and that he might want to have children with her, he answered in an unambiguous way: "I will not want any more children. No matter what."

So we did a little digging in the group and Google also participated, and we found that men who underwent the surgery report very varied effects on their libido, performance in bed and even on their testosterone level and postoperative pain.

It seems that the factor that most significantly affects these issues is the man's level of readiness.

Men who chose to undergo the procedure themselves experienced an increase in libido, fewer complications, a shorter recovery and improved sexual function.

Men who were pushed into a decision or who felt a lack of choice in the choice, experienced prolonged pain, decreased libido and ability, decreased testosterone levels and were generally dissatisfied, to the point of having reconnection surgery.

He wanted this thing so badly that he was not at all afraid of the possible consequences.

So we agreed that if it's Europe, then he should do it in a country where he speaks the language, and if possible then in a place where there are friends of ours - Ireland came out.

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Maya and Ido (photo: courtesy of those photographed)

From the moment we started talking about the issue between us, it became a central topic of conversation in all the social gatherings we attended.

In general, the women were enthusiastic.

"What a king your man is!", "I wish mine had the courage to do such a thing", "What do you mean cut? Completely?! You don't need more condoms? How fun you are!!!", "Maybe Ido will talk to him?".

Most of the men were horrified.

"No one touches my business!", "No one will castrate me! What am I a cat??!", few came to talk to Ido, and some, a few, also took the step in the end.

What they don't understand is that if the man really wants to be responsible for his freedom and not fear the consequences of his passion, this is the way.

More than that, what they (and we) don't understand, is that the fear of the consequences of our desire, is the thing that most extinguishes this desire.

Since the surgery (treatment, procedure - it just makes him laugh to call it someone who messed with his testicles for five minutes, "surgery") suddenly something opened up.

No longer worry about what day of the month it is.

where is the condom

Are you done inside?!

It's still sticky, still smells.

Logistically, nothing has changed - except inside our heads.

Feel like it?

We do (we still don't always feel like it at the same time. But much more often than before).

It's not clear why, but suddenly it's more fun for both of us.

There's no explanation for this as far as I'm concerned, but what do I care?

I am having fun!

I feel like we're back to when we just started dating.

We do it several times a day, almost every day (well, still six children, work, errands...) but when there is a moment, we take advantage of it.

We asked Dr. Jacob Jacobi, a urologist at the "Medika" Ramat Hay'il Medical Center, whether the operation affects sexual function: "This procedure has no effect on sexual function.

During the operation, it is not possible to damage the blood vessels or the nerves that are responsible for the erection, and there is no effect on the libido.

In order to verify that the operation was successful, a sperm test must be performed which will prove that there is no sperm emission and will allow a return to normal sexual activity without fear or restriction."

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