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Cold outside - warm in the heart: the connection between the weather and the ability to commit - voila! Sheee

2022-12-04T06:56:32.159Z


Something about the cooling weather affects the ability of many to get into a relationship and commit. Dr. Liraz Margalit, social psychologist and expert in online behavior, explains why this happens


There's something about the colder weather that makes people want to curl up and get into a relationship.

Recently, more and more humorous statuses appear on social networks with the caption: "Looking for a friend for the winter".

To combat the pressure created by the cold weather, Bumble, the dating app where women make the first move, in collaboration with social psychologist Dr. Liraz Margalit will tell you everything you need to know about the phenomenon.



The phrase "looking for a winter buddy" refers to the fact that as the temperatures drop, people are looking for someone to snuggle up with under the duvet.

During this period, people feel the need, and sometimes pressure, to find a spouse.

While some are looking for a serious relationship, more often than not relationships under the concept of "looking for a friend for the winter" - last less than the winter itself.

A Bumble survey shows that this is also the time of year when nearly 3 in 4 (73%) people feel increased pressure to get into a relationship.

This means that these relationships are often driven by pressure to find a partner to get through the cold nights, while going on new first dates can feel less attractive.



The "Winter Friend" season begins at the end of autumn around October and November and lasts until the spring - October, November and January are the peak months for calls on the application in Israel, coincidentally or not, these months overlap with the "Winter Friend" season,

In winter it's easier together (Photo: Bumble)

How will we identify people who are only looking for a relationship for the winter?

There are three main signs that you should pay attention to:



●The time of the year when the acquaintance takes place and the speed of the progress of the relationship: if someone is only interested in you now that winter has arrived, and is looking to move forward quickly in regards to the relationship.

It is also reasonable to assume that they will make sure to schedule several dates quickly and in a short period of time and will want to define the relationship within weeks.



●Where do you meet: If your date has an intention that you only meet at home and their idea of ​​a date is limited to a movie on the couch with takeaway.

Also they show no interest in introducing you to their friends, or family and all your meetings are always only one on one.



●What they tell you: They tell you that they only want something short-term or have no intention of committing to a long-term relationship.

They show no interest in planning dates or activities beyond the next week.



Despite the pressure, it is clear that many users of Bumble, which encourages the creation of meaningful connections, are not looking to meet someone to spend the winter with, and are clear about what they are really looking for and want.

Almost 2 in 3 (63%) clearly state that they are on Bumble to find a relationship (no matter what the season).



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To make sure you don't give in to the pressures of "friend for winter", we at Bumble wanted to understand more and turned to social psychologist Dr. Liraz Margalit to explain why we feel this way in winter and how to approach dating this time of year.



"Cold seasons can make us feel less safe and it has an effect on Human soul.

The low levels of sunlight have a negative effect on our internal biological clock.

Less exposure to sunlight leads to a decrease in serotonin levels, a type of neurotransmitter, which is an important factor in changing moods whether good or bad, and ultimately increasing or decreasing our feelings of depression.



It can also affect our decision-making, as when it's cold outside you may feel sluggish and that means you're not motivated to get out of the house, interact socially and meet new people.

While in the summer everything is green outside, and the heat brings out the beauty of nature, the winter can evoke a feeling of loneliness and the need to curl up under the blanket with a partner.

It can also evoke a sense of nostalgia and bring us back to childhood and wanting to feel close to each other.

However, don't let the pressure influence you to date someone just for the sake of it - just go with how our bodies react to the seasons and the external triggers (light, cold, nostalgia) of the season.



To be in a suitable place for introductions this time of year, the key is communication and transparency.

You need to be clear about your intentions and what you're looking for, and put that at the top of your profile or flood it in early conversations.

You also want to be honest with yourself about everyone you date, especially if it's not clear to you that you want a casual relationship, are you serious, or just enjoy hanging out with them in the cool season.

There's nothing wrong with finding a boyfriend for the winter, as long as you're transparent with me about what you want and how you feel."

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Source: walla

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