Is dating a friend's ex 'valid'?

After several months of rumors,

and

no longer hide their relationship.

The images that show the model and the polo player together confirm a romance that puts at the center of the debate the supposed controversy about the conflicts that courtship with

could unleash .

This is because Pieres was Paula Chaves's partner for about a decade, one of Nara's best friends.

Such is the bond between them that even Zaira is the godmother of Filipa, Paula's youngest daughter with

.

"

," Zaira Nara assured

when they asked her about the situation. And she added: "When there is such a deep friendship, there are things that go into the background."

Paula, for her part, explained to

: "Everything is fine, really, we talked two days ago, we have been in a relationship for many years,

."

Paula Chaves and Zaira Nara have been friends for several years.

About her courtship with Pieres, she deepened: "It happened millions of years ago and I'm not one of the people who say 'well, this is it, I touched it, it's mine...', I'm quite calm about that."

Relations and agreements

When thinking about any relationship, it is necessary to take into account the complexities and particularities of any relationship.

"All ties, including those of a couple and also those of friendship, have an explicit or implicit contract, which are nothing more than agreements that talk about how the relationship works and what is expected of it,"

the psychologist and sexologist explained to

.

Specifically about those cases where a friend becomes a girlfriend with the ex of another, he pointed out: "People and their relationships are particular and diverse: it is very likely that there are those who take it as a terrible betrayal, but also those who accept it without difficulties ”.

Zaira Nara, Paula Chaves Facundo Pieres.

TV Capture

This will depend, among other things, on the characteristics of each one, the strength of the bond of friendship and how the mourning for that relationship that ended was passed.

Forbidden love?

What happens then with those people who once occupied the place of a friend's partner? What is it that is pointed out or judged?

"

," said the specialist (on Instagram, @psi.licyaninamandarino), while going deeper: "It seems important to me to consider what we are waiting for and how that relationship occurs."

The psychologist emphasized that part of the explanation for this supposed controversy is that "today affective responsibility is sought in all ties and another place is given to friends, which is very positive."

However, he clarified: "That does not mean that out of respect for that bond a person cannot relate to others who have been part of their lives in the past."

Facundo Pieres, who is currently in a relationship with Zaira Nara.

Can this type of situation generate some discomfort?

For Mandarino, "it is expected that some pain or discomfort will appear depending on how the duel of the previous relationship has gone through."

In the meantime, “surely to maintain the bond of friendship it is necessary to open a dialogue about what is happening and about how the feelings are in the face of this situation.

The important thing is not that there is no pain, but that it can be the trigger to work on what happens between those who are part of the friendship relationship and thus come out stronger”.

Finally, he emphasized the question of

and what is expected of a woman or a man, both in a couple and in a friendship relationship.

Although it is not a statistic, the sexologist mentioned that in her clinical experience she warns that "greater loyalty is required of women in friendship bonds, while men tend to forgive more situations."

look also

Shakira and Piqué: does infidelity always put an end to the couple?

"Marital adjustment": how to review couple agreements to resolve conflicts

Music Session #53 by Bizarrap and Shakira: why their new song mobilizes us so much