We've already heard many complaints from all ends of gender and self-definition - stinginess, small hands, an unsatisfactory profession, too close a relationship with mother, too close a relationship with the sofa in the living room (and the remote) - you know it.
But a new study reveals that we are a little less shallow and superficial than it seems - our real deal breakers are completely different.
A new study examined a long list of deal breakers and filtered out the six most powerful: these are some of the problems examined: unattractiveness, unhealthy lifestyle, undesirable personality traits, different religious beliefs, limited social status, vulgar vocabulary, bad looks, intimacy Excessive, lack of intelligence, narcissism, lack of humor and low self-esteem, stinginess, poor hygiene, problematic attitude, and more.
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What's your deal breaker?
Promiscuous
rudeness
Indifference and insensitivity
Mobility, neediness
Lack of motivation
tendency to addiction
2 participants
To better understand individual differences in deal breakers four variables were considered.
First, differences between the sexes, whose preferences in relationships are sometimes asymmetrical.
Women exhibit higher rates of investment in offspring, and therefore tend to maintain higher standards, and are less willing to have casual sex than men.
In contrast, men tend to differ from women in their short-term mating psychology, are more willing to have casual sex, and suffer fewer regrets after the fact, so their standards for deal breakers vary across relationship contexts versus, say, casual sex, while women's standards remain relatively consistent regardless of context the relationship
Most relationship research focuses on what is most important to people in their relationships - "deal makers", but rarely on deal breakers.
However, they turn out to be just as (if not more) important, as they are directly involved in the initial disqualification when testing a partner.
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results
The participants in the study were 18-55 years old, all undergraduates at a university in the southwestern United States, of which 95 percent were heterosexual and 50 percent were in committed relationships.
Each participant rated the list of deal breakers he was given to create a rating, and this is how the six main deal breakers in long-term and short-term relationships appeared: "rude", "addict", "needy", "promiscuous", "apathetic", and "unmotivated" ".
Where those in long-term relationships rated "indifference" and "rudeness" higher, compared to people in short-term relationships, who rated neediness as the worst trait.
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The second variable tested is the age of the participants, and it was found that older people tend to have more deal breakers than younger people.
The differences between the sexes intensify as age increases because, unlike men, women lose the ability to reproduce earlier.
The third variable considered is people's willingness to have casual sex, and how valuable they see themselves as romantic/sexual partners.
Sexually liberated people have lower standards in their short-term partners, and this effect is more significant in men than in women.
People who see themselves as high-value will reject mates because they perceive themselves as having a higher likelihood of finding another, higher-quality partner, meaning that those who perceive themselves as high-value in the dating market may be tougher deal breakers.
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