Winter comes with freezing temperatures.
But what to do when children absolutely don't want to dress warmly.
A mother doesn't discuss - instead she lets things be done.
The cold season presents some mothers and fathers with enormous challenges.
It is not uncommon for the first discussions with the little ones to begin early in the morning before leaving the house.
While you want to protect them from the low temperatures and dress them up, some rascals can't stand it at all.
They would prefer to leave the house in their favorite outfit or even in their sleeping suit.
But what to do as a parent when the child refuses to wear a winter jumper, jacket and shoes?
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If the child absolutely does not want to get dressed, some will force it to do so.
But should you let yourself decide?
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Child would rather freeze than dress warmly - mother stays calm
@marliesjohanna getting dressed.
Has always been an issue (the sweater has sleeves that are too long, the T-shirt too short. The shoes are too tight, the others too wide. The jacket has a zipper.).
Now, with the change of seasons, it's even worse.
Dressing “warmly” is a cramp.
The child is unhappy.
The whole time.
We give up the responsibility.
We assist, give advice.
We make sure that the child does not get (too) cold.
We don't say "didn't I tell you", but rather "do you feel uncomfortable without your jacket now?
No problem, I put it in my pocket.
Just in case.".
But he can decide.
And what should I say?
He's never gotten too cold.
He rages a lot, rides an impeller.
He actually doesn't need warm clothes like we adults do.
After all, there is concern that the child will quickly catch a cold or even catch a cold.
Even then the screaming is great again.
However, a TikToker named Marlies Johanna does not want to scold her child.
Instead, she wants to educate them in a needs-based manner.
This means that she tries to be as responsive to her child's needs as possible.
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In a video, she explains to her son that it's cold outside, but she lets him choose what to wear.
When she asks the little one if he wants to take his jacket or boiled wool, he defiantly explains that he doesn't want his jacket.
Instead, he says: "I want to freeze!" But instead of freaking out with this statement, the TikToker remains calm.
Instead of forcing the jacket on him, she has another idea and says, "Honey, I packed your boiled wool in case you get cold.
You just have to say."
Parenting: Seven things that many children no longer learn today
Sitting still – that used to be a regular requirement at school.
It was similar when going to church or visiting grandparents.
Hibbling or swaying, always having something in your hands was seldom welcomed anywhere.
It's different today.
Studies show that exercise in between supports learning, and experts agree overall: more exercise, even outside of school, would be desirable.
That doesn't mean kids should be running around church or a fancy restaurant—when and where is still important today.
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Balancing, standing on one leg, walking backwards – preschool examinations repeatedly show that five-year-olds are having more and more problems with these tasks.
In larger cities in particular, up to 40 percent of children have motor skills that are somewhat underdeveloped.
In elementary school itself, rope or pole climbing is becoming less common in physical education because fewer and fewer children can do it.
But that's not usually a cause for concern, because a lot can be caught up at that age.
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Do you remember how old you were when you learned to tie a bow?
A good 20 years ago, there was a competition in kindergarten to see who could do it before starting school.
Today, just half of four to five-year-olds can get dressed without help, including tying their shoes.
Some elementary schools have responded -- and ban shoelaces.
Teachers simply have better things to do than tie bows on children's shoes all day.
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Did you know that only 23.5 percent of households owned dishwashers in 1983?
Today it is almost 72 percent.
It is therefore hardly surprising that children no longer have to help wash dishes everywhere.
Less and less support is also required when vacuuming, after all there are vacuum robots in more and more families.
Nevertheless, children can – and should – definitely help around the house.
This is even in the law (§ 1619 BGB).
To what extent is of course left to the parents, but help with setting the table or clearing it or loading the dishwasher is common, even for children from the age of three.
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Fearful boy hides under a table. Beatings, beatings, fear – the rough stick used to be widespread in the classroom.
In the GDR he (and with it the corporal punishment) was banned from school in 1949.
The rest of Germany slowly followed suit, but this type of crackdown continued in parts of Bavaria until the early 1980s.
And only since 2000 has the following law finally applied at home: “Children have a right to a non-violent upbringing.
Physical punishment, mental injuries and other degrading measures are not permitted.” (§ 1631 BGB, Para. 2) (symbolic image) © Vasily Pindyurin/Imago
A child is hiding, only the eyes and the cap can be seen. "Give your aunt a hand, child" - the saying not only sounds dusty, fortunately it is.
Since more attention is paid to children and their needs today, no one has to shake hands or kiss anyone if they don't want to.
A blessing, especially for shy children.
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Boy alone in the wintry forest.Making lunch for the siblings, being alone at home or outside: many children had to have these experiences at an early age a few decades ago.
Even if they were perhaps still too young and overwhelmed by the responsibility.
Today, parents have more time for their children or provide appropriate care and being alone comes comparatively late.
On the one hand, this is very praiseworthy and good, as accidents often happened in the past.
But it's also a bit sad on the other side, because sometimes a small section of forest offers many more opportunities for imagination and adventure than the modern playground around the corner.
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TikTok users celebrate needs-based parenting style
In the video description, she further assures her followers that the child has never gotten too cold because he plays and romp around a lot or rides his balance bike.
He therefore does not need warm clothing “like us adults”.
Her parenting style seems to be going down well.
The clip has already received over 260,000 likes and hundreds of comments.
Most users think it's really good how the TikToker educates her child, others celebrate the funny reaction of the offspring.
Others, in turn, report on their own experiences with their offspring.
Here is a selection of the comments:
"I want to freeze.
best kid”
"Me when my jacket doesn't match my outfit."
"It's a good thing, the child learns to recognize its own body sensitivity to temperature.
How will they know it's too cold if they've never known it...really!"
“Not discussed, but let it be done.
In the end we changed our clothes according to the weather!
I love this trying/defying phase.”
"I like it the way you're doing it.
We adults also take a jacket with us if we need to, in case we get cold later on.”
"I think it's really bad forcing children into warm clothes.
There are always people who are just warmer than others.
My son runs around in shorts and a shirt in ten degrees...he's hardly ever sick and just barely cold.
I trust his feelings and let him decide for himself.”
"You're a really great mom."
“You are a real role model for me.
Unfortunately I don't have a child yet, but I hope I can take some of your serenity with me into the future."
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