What are the most frequent sexual fantasies

Threesomes, open relationships, swingers and role playing are some of the most frequent sexual fantasies, according to the results of two surveys where imagination and

went hand in hand.

A survey carried out by the sexual well-being company Lovehoney Group among 22,315 men and women from 15 countries, more than

, against just under 35% who answered negatively.

When do these thoughts appear?

61% assured that they usually fantasize when they

.

When asked if fantasies were present during their dreams, 45% said yes.

Meanwhile, 26% said they fantasize while having sex with someone.

65% of those consulted said they had sexual fantasies.

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When asked if they think about this in everyday situations such as work or taking the subway, 25% answered yes.

What are sexual fantasies and what is their importance

“Fantasies are those ideas, mental images, stories, or perceptions of reality that are not real and that only exist in the mind of the person who imagines them.

In particular, sexual fantasies are those that have erotic, sensual, sexual content or of any kind whose function is to arouse or help increase sexual desire," Ayelén Mobilia

, a psychologist and sexologist member of the Argentine Society of Human Sexuality , explained to

The specialist maintained that these can range from something very soft, such as asking to be kissed on our fingers or toes, to something broader, such as getting excited by the idea of ​​involving other people or scenarios.

The importance of fantasies, he said, is that they are part of something bigger: sexual communication.

"If a person wants to be able to live their sexuality fully, fluid communication is essential," she said.

In this context, Mobilia highlighted that as

, like all skills, it must be worked on.

"Fantasies are always useful, whether we use them at the moment of autoeroticism or with other people, or if we share them as part of the code we have with others to get excited."

Finally, the psychologist (on Instagram, @ayelen.mobilia) mentioned that sexuality acquires certain particularities depending on variables such as the historical period, gender, social class, age and culture.

"And this determines which fantasies I allow myself to fulfill and which I don't, among other things," she concluded.

"Fantasy the most faithful companion of desire," said Ayelén Mobilia.

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These are the most frequent fantasies

A survey carried out by Ashley Madison, a married dating platform, among 1,942 users, revealed the main sexual fantasies of its members.

Among them, the following stand out:

• Novelty, adventure, and variety (for example, fantasies about new or unusual sexual acts): 94%.

• Intimacy, romance and passion: 94%.

• Diversity (for example, fantasies about sex with many different people): 89%.

• Non-monogamy (for example, fantasies about sex with someone other than their primary partner): 82%.

• Sex with several partners at the same time: 77%.

Swingers and threesomes rank high in the ranking of sexual fantasies.

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• Taboo and forbidden sex (for example, fantasies about seeing others having sex): 65%.

• Power, control and hard sex: 63%.

Meanwhile, according to the survey carried out by Lovehoney Group, within the fantasies for which users were consulted, the following stood out:

• Romantic sex: 39%.

• Passionate sex: 34%.

• Oral sex: 32%.

• Sex with an acquaintance who is not my partner: 32%.

• Sex with a stranger: 28%.

Seeing other people having sex, among the featured ones.

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• Sex in a public place: 25%.

• Group or threesome sex: 24%.

• Hard sex, power, control: 20%.

• Sex with a celebrity: 19%.

• Sex at work: 19%.

• RPGs: 19%.

• Anal sex: 15%.

• Open relationship: 13%.

• BDSM: 11%.

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